Sunday, September 17, 2023

What is the body for on a Sunday morning?

A "different" body can teach you more about how heteronormative "family values" in modern society have convinced many that excluding a lot of the "different" ones is just what feels "normal" to them. 

Bigotry gets normalized in the name of trying to have a sense of control over situations and circumstances.

When some of the people who are claiming to be more "liberal" are still acting like their family values got inherited from conservative church people, it can feel like the jagged edge of a knife that comes out whenever a certain segment of the population reacts to "the others" when their ways or beliefs get challenged.

I Know...

I can be all for silliness and spontaneity! Really. It's like, that could, in fact be my truest self.

But what about all of the other things I need to pay attention to? What about all of that, too?

This is so good. I didn't know this person & only found it tonight! I will read the rest now

"A little over thirteen years ago, in my second semester of graduate school, I was in a novel-writing class with the late Margaux Fragoso. She was writing about a sexual relationship between a child and an adult that lasted into the child’s own adulthood, ending when the pedophile committed suicide. In our workshop, several of my classmates eviscerated the pages they’d been presented with.

“What a ridiculous premise,” a brassy redhead declared. “Like any child would willingly stay in a relationship with her abuser.”

“Yeah, seriously, dude,” a younger guy added, his wide-spread legs sprawling out into the room.

“I mean, like, why wouldn’t she just tell her mother?” He nodded to the woman who’d spoken.

“Sorry, but it makes zero sense. No one would do that.”

I knew the truth when I heard it, but I didn’t say a word as they talked, just watched Margaux’s shoulders slump as she scribbled in her notebook, the sweep of her dark hair hiding her cheeks. She wore a teddy bear t-shirt, with white and pale pink high-tops.

There was something vulnerable, almost childlike about Margaux’s demeanor and the sound of her voice that seemed to bring out the bully in many of my classmates; the same ones had been similarly dismissive of her work the previous semester. Their attitude sparked our friendship, and I’d written to her after one especially nasty workshop to tell her what I hadn’t dared to say aloud: that they’d been unfair to her work. She’d responded that there was no way she’d value criticism from someone who wrote “arrogant rambling garbage that he thinks is reminiscent of Catcher in the Rye.” That made me realize she was far less vulnerable than I thought, at least where her writing was concerned."

~ Kim Vose

The Boogeyman

https://therumpus.net/2021/11/22/enough-the-boogeyman/

Saturday, September 16, 2023

It would be very NICE if our society could get well more quickly, but in the meantime...

"How to heal from the trauma triggers of the past several years will continue unfolding..."

Yep and Nope.

Grimes - "Oblivion"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JtH68PJIQLE

Yep and Nope. 

"Russell Brand backed by Elon Musk and Andrew Tate as he denies ‘serious criminal allegations’"

https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/tv/news/russell-brand-elon-musk-allegations-support-b2412712.html

WHAT? Oh, someone named Louise, PHEW!

"Perry admitted the movement had its upsides for women, but it’s been very hard on men, and we should all listen to our grandmothers now to get back to 'normal.' Khachiyan, who found it necessary to vape during the discussion, proclaimed she was 'a mother trying to keep her child out of the clutches of rabid ideologues, while making sure not to indoctrinate him too far in the opposite direction.' 'Still, it would be hypocritical for me to blame the sexual revolution for everything,' she continued. 'Instead I’d like to blame liberals.' All cited Paglia as their feminist hero except for Grimes, who appeared wholly unprepared for the rest of the panel’s canned talking points on second-wave feminism, intersectionality and sex-positivity. (As a result, the Canadian singer-songwriter came off as the only sincere voice of the bunch.'"

~ Lorraine Ali

https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/story/2023-09-14/bari-weiss-the-free-press-debate-grimes-louise-perry-anna-khachiyan-sarah-haider

Another episode of "shocked at your own cluelessness."

I saved it four times "to read later" and then finally realized what I was doing and just finished reading the article.


What? What? What? What?

https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/russell-brand-rape-sexual-assault-abuse-allegations-investigation-v5hxdlmb6

Because in the '70s & '90s...

"When he went to Berkeley High in the ’70s, a teacher smoked and drank with his students and was known for dating high school girls, Trampleasure told Mage during an interview. (He gave Mage permission to share the recording with Berkeleyside.)

Trampleasure told Berkeleyside that other teachers did illegal things, too, and 'they didn’t have to hide it … nobody cared.' By comparison, when he came back to teach in the ’90s, those teachers were more discreet and the administration drew firmer boundaries.

Looking back now, Trampleasure said he wishes he had intervened, though he maintains that even today, such a photo wouldn’t necessarily be a red flag. 'I’m really sorry I wasn’t aware enough to do something about it,' he said."

~ Ally Markovich

https://www.berkeleyside.org/2021/07/16/yearbook-teacher-uncovered-alleged-sexual-assaults-berkeley-high-matthew-bissell

"Mt. SAC coach accused of sexual abuse to remain employed"

https://sac.media/2023/02/10/mt-sac-coach-accused-of-sexual-abuse-to-remain-employed-school-says/


Back in the day...

"People who wanted abortions after being sexually assaulted were...."

~ A Glossy Voice

"Troops avoid abortion travel policy fueling Tuberville Blockade"

https://www.politico.com/news/2023/09/15/troops-reject-abortion-travel-policy-fueling-tuberville-blockade-00116276

Alabama & football & how many jury duties will be as easy as watching an episode of "Chopped"?!

"Republican Sen. Tommy Tuberville has blocked hundreds of military promotions over a single policy that allows troops access to abortions, creating turmoil within the Pentagon and even his own party."

By LARA SELIGMAN and JOE GOULD

"Troops avoid abortion travel policy fueling Tuberville Blockade"

https://www.politico.com/nehttps://www.foodnetwork.com/shows/chopped/episodes/mouth-of-the-southws/2023/09/15/troops-reject-abortion-travel-policy-fueling-tuberville-blockade-00116276

"Tommy Tuberville" - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tommy_Tuberville

"An Army officer stationed in Kentucky was one of the few to use the travel policy to obtain an abortion in a different state after she was sexually assaulted, according to an Army official with direct knowledge of the case. In order to receive reimbursement, she had to provide documentation from a health provider, as well as fill out paperwork letting her superiors know where she was going and how long she would be gone. After the procedure, the officer was reassigned to a different unit, the official said."

By LARA SELIGMAN and JOE GOULD

"Troops avoid abortion travel policy fueling Tuberville Blockade"

https://www.politico.com/nehttps://www.foodnetwork.com/shows/chopped/episodes/mouth-of-the-southws/2023/09/15/troops-reject-abortion-travel-policy-fueling-tuberville-blockade-00116276

AL versus KY...Bye-bye!

"Mouth of the South"

https://www.foodnetwork.com/shows/chopped/episodes/mouth-of-the-south

That Was Entertaining.

"Mouth of the South"

https://www.foodnetwork.com/shows/chopped/episodes/mouth-of-the-south

I caught some of this show because it was playing in the jury duty lounge, above a woman who was typing stuff on a school district laptop. There were two men and two women, and a bit of cattitude, and there was a mention of how she thinks she's from the South but I'm from Alabama and she's from Kentucky and we always considered those people to be like Northerners and I was like, hmmm, fascinating, but both of you are currently getting your reproductive rights infringed upon more than people who live in other places, but back to this vegan fried chicken challenge! The judges tried their dishes and there was a mixture of criticism and praise, and one contestant got praised more then the rest, and they went to commercial and I got up to go the bathroom. But I wondered what happened when I was in the bathroom because the woman who got all the compliments had been eliminated. And then, they interrupted the show to tell us we could go! I was like, Universe, did you seriously send me here just to see that? And I kinda want to look up the chefs again, so I just wonder, where are their names?

Location, Location Location!

In certain places, maybe they will still give you a sandwich, in spite of the official change in policy...

"The best one yet is Jersey Mike's" 

https://www.tiktok.com/@jessierietsma/video/7276537567993056558?

"Customer Picks Up Birthday Freebies From 29 Stores"

https://www.dailydot.com/news/29-birthday-freebies/

Well, the birthday rewards are apparently not as plentiful atm, however...

"No more free coffee on your birthday? Companies rein in customer rewards programs — here’s why"

https://apnews.com/article/dunkin-sephora-starbucks-birthday-reward-72016abf73305931efd82f2a05c32dfa

"Currently, we are taking time to review our free birthday sub program. While new members cannot join at this time, our Shore Points® program is a great way to earn free subs."

FAQs - Jersey Mike's Subs

https://www.jerseymikes.com/faq

IT REALLY DEPENDS ON THE PLACE & THE PEOPLE!!!!

"As for the best free offer, Jessie says it’s a toss-up.

'Either Jersey Mike’s or HopCat. Jersey Mike’s was a GIANT sandwich for free and HopCat (a midwest chain) was an entire free meal,” she recalls.

In the comments section, users were amazed by Jessie’s efforts.

As one user put it, 'This is impressive.'”

~ Braden Bjella

"Customer Picks Up Birthday Freebies From 29 Stores"

https://www.dailydot.com/news/29-birthday-freebies/

Friday, September 15, 2023

Wholesomeness 🎃 🖼️🧚

"Fairy house pumpkin purse!" @HollyAuna

https://youtube.com/watch?v=e0V1NlddcSg&si=Km-pWe2k1KcAJZuy

"GRWM and my parents for renfaire! #renfaire  #cosplay" ~@HollyAuna

https://youtube.com/shorts/MzM_vlXOZ64?si=bREgCuEQG6NPlIkm

"how much free stuff can you get on your birthday??"  @HollyAuna

https://youtube.com/watch?v=PPJSAp4ZoIU&si=AvnrsyzWJqdemimj

Maybe wholesomeness can come crawling back out of the Hole O' Gremlins?

"That time Conan tried selling makeup #CONAN"

https://www.instagram.com/teamcoco/

That's very clever. As he peers through the window, his face all smudged with cosmetics, one can almost imagine how it would be if he were a nice kid, wide-eyed with wonder, sometime back in the 1970s.

Look for this one next year.

"The Lupine Blue occurs with its host, often on rocky balds and in alpine and subalpine 'rock gardens;' males puddle, and both sexes often visit Pussy Paws."

Plebejus lupini | Art Shapiro's Butterfly Site

https://butterfly.ucdavis.edu/butterfly/plebejus/lupini

You're like the sound of the train.

What does it remind me of this time?

I began to watch this talk about trauma & patriarchal culture, and it's still interesting, so I'm going to continue watching it.

"Understanding Men and Their Trauma with Dr. Gabor Mate"

https://youtube.com/watch?v=jIIJWm1eAnQ&si=xaAUqne90iVm9HV3

Perhaps writing helps some humans deal with difficult health conditions

"Knowing these signs helps us not only identify emotionally immature behavior in others but also become more aware of these traits within ourselves."

~ Lachlan Brown

https://hackspirit.com/if-someone-displays-these-12-behaviors-theyre-an-emotionally-immature-adult/

Discrimination against people with health problems may have become normalized in a patriarchal society, but it's far from okay to do so.

"Women with serious pregnancy complications sue over state abortion bans"

https://idahocapitalsun.com/2023/09/12/eight-women-had-serious-pregnancy-complications-now-theyre-suing-over-state-abortion-bans/

Traumatized people have developed coping mechanisms

"'To call for any sort of change is painted as an attempt to destroy the achievement of the past three decades and return to the cauldron of bloodshed and violence,' Strangio says. "When the liberation happened, it triggered a mass flight into what’s familiar — into tradition, into Buddhism, into conservatism, a very risk-averse view of politics.'

That idea extends to attitudes toward the atrocities committed by the Khmer Rouge. According to Strangio, the government’s grip over information has 'inhibited the achievement of some kind of objective understanding of what happened.' That means even more time will need to pass before the nation can even really begin to come to terms with its history.

'It’s very hard within Cambodian politics to have an open and honest free conservation about who the Khmer Rouge is,' he says. 'It will take the passing of this political generation before people will be able to have one of these conversations.'”

~ Casey Quackenbush

https://time.com/5486460/pol-pot-cambodia-1979/