Talk to a patriarchal father figure with a certain types of genetics who loved criticizing women if they gained any bit of weight. Especially even just a tiny bit in their face. And then he loved to shove pastries in his mouth every time he passed a bakery.
Friday, May 29, 2026
Donuts are what people with Superior genetics can eat.
And when I was younger, if I ate a donut, I didn't gain that much weight. I was a much smaller sized version of a PCOS person, so I know what I'm f****** talking about.
Everybody needs to get therapy now!
My excuse for some is that if your dad was nicer to your mom you would have treated women and girls better.
Anyways, it's the first time I've heard this song.
CMAT - "Take A Sexy Picture Of Me (Official Video)"
Thanks to this coming up on my feed.
CMAT shares ‘deep sadness’ over body-shaming after BBC Radio 1 Big Weekend performance | CMAT | The Guardian
It's not everyone's safe space!
"Being spiritually shallow so I can fit in better with a patriarchal culture is my safe space."
Patriarchy.
"My lack of menstrual blood and less fat on my body make me feel SO Superior to the ones who are always performing the most acts of unpaid labor which keep our society running."
Besides just a basic survival strategy and probably having some extra money in your life.
Please tell me in detail what you got out of acting like abusive men and shallow patriarchal women were more important than the kinds of girls and women you treated like garbage. Because that's exactly what you were trained to do and you f****** did it, more than you want to admit. That's why you're not trustworthy, because that's what you resorted to doing. Every time things get a little bit tough for you. Lots of things are tough for lots of people. But you have to be special. And feel Superior and more able to fit in with patriarchal people. You're not locked away in a facility, are you? Are you feeling well off enough yet to want to change the poisonous toxic attitudes, or no?
Honestly, shallowness is probably a sickness that just needs to die out.
I cannot wait to see the grandchildren who will be raised to treat all kinds of girls and women with fat (lol) with far more respect than the people in my generation were.
I think I might go get a donut today afterall!
"Instagram. TikTok. Facebook. BBC uploads. Every comment section polluted with the exact same fixation on her appearance that inspired the song in the first place. The same tired cruelty. The same faux concern. The same dehumanising obsession with evaluating whether a woman is visually acceptable enough to deserve public affection.
And honestly, I think that says something much darker about the culture surrounding female performers.
We live in a music culture that worships emotional vulnerability from women on the track, yet completely denies basic physical humanity to the women creating it."
~ Front Row Feels
"Take a Sexy Picture of Me (And Tell Me Why You Hate It)"
Of course I should read this now.
"Take a Sexy Picture of Me (And Tell Me Why You Hate It)"
"One of the most poignant moments of the set came during Take a Sexy Picture of Me. Before performing it, CMAT once again spoke openly about why she wrote the song: the horrific abuse she received about her appearance following her previous Big Weekend performance several years ago in Luton. The backlash became so severe that the BBC eventually disabled comments under clips from the set. Yet here she was again, returning to the exact same festival with the exact same body, the exact same energy and the exact same refusal to make herself smaller or more digestible for public comfort. The crowd screamed every word back at her. It felt emotional to witness what was, in many ways, a full-circle moment.Then I opened social media."
~ Front Row Feels
The need to feel "Superior in a Specific Way" is still strong with some, sadly.
"CMAT shares ‘deep sadness’ over body-shaming after BBC Radio 1 Big Weekend performance"| CMAT | The Guardian
Smile! You're on Superior Genetics According To the Patriarchy Camera.
This is a writing prompt. Who or what does it make you wanna write about???
Normal Society wasn't about protecting the vulnerable. Normal Society was even deadly for some people.
What happens when looking away from violence is the best Normal Society can do?
"Every time I hear rape statistics..."
lisakjm
"Aileen Wuornos" - Wikipedia
A more honest and articulate culture is currently in gestation.
To be more articulate about how much other factors have also been a part of your success (in addition to all of your hard work, of course) would also be such a gift.
Healing from trauma is a long journey sometimes.
I'll keep an eye out for the ones whose kids won't be as discriminatory towards the outcasts as the other patriarchal parents wanted / were training theirs to be, in order to fit in with their preferred standards.
I'm glad that seeing some stuff get acknowledged is getting more popular now, though.
Acknowledging the existence of PMOS and rape culture is getting SO much more popular now!
"Ostracized by everyone who was doing it the 'right way.'"
Because why would they want to know anything about someone with your kind of issues or genetics when the Patriarchy clearly didn't want them to.
Can the PCOS / PMOS/ Perimenopausal also do the musical donut eating kind of protest or...
Somehow I need to transition from the full-time focus on processing a bunch of trauma and/or karmic stuff and learning more about self-parenting and other health-related topics to making money again soon. Or figure out how make that all happen simultaneously.
They can be musical and eat donuts and protest!
"donuts and dissent"
theblushesband
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYcqBmNCrAa/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"see you tomorrow"
theblushesband
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXfBOIQj9vP/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
ALSO
"Bruce Springsteen calls out the White House and announces a protest festival"
https://apnews.com/article/bruce-springsteen-trump-music-festival-e25a975c10214bafd855709b0c3125cb
Thursday, May 28, 2026
It's nice to see cultural change that people can get excited about.
Also having a touch of "it would have been good to experience this cultural shift / know more about this stuff sooner - itis." Timing is what it is.
"Omg!! Turns out..."
fertilityawarenessproject
https://www.instagram.com/p/DYvMyD9mjzA/?img_index=5&igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Literally have to learn the lesson of the sore thumb this evening.
And it hurts If I really try to use it. But if I keep it real still, it's not so bad. But it is an impediment. So that's the impediment that I'm learning about today and this evening.
And sometimes, you may feel like you need a song to help ♥️
Indigo Girls ~ "Airplane with Common Rotation"
Another magical post! 🌞
"The theory is strong"
ashley.b.jones
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWz2Q0SBEZs/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Aw, I feel a little bit more educated about regulating the nervous system now!
Among other things.
" I think a lot of us have absorbed this idea..."
sara.busser
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY2RBkixupp/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"I hate confrontation."
sara.busser
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUCUYIqDExK/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
The "second hand" woman is not wanted. That's why???
I'm glad this younger man is questioning the beliefs of Elon Musk's dad.
"Why is it always..."
A girl has no president
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYyLDWxxuvU/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Well, the candy salad got my attention.
🍭🍬🍫
"Foster care awareness month"
Hannahandtracey
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY3aDINOH1O/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Just had a memory of being in a waiting room in a dentist's office.
When a woman who had immigrated here from another country with her two children (and I believe she was well connected with a Christian organization or church group) was telling them that "Grandpa Trump" was going to help them. The little girl who was younger seemed to believe her (and repeated what she said). The boy was several years older, and he seemed to question her a little bit.
"'I Have Never Felt So Much Fear"': Immigrant Children Speak Out On Life Inside ICE Jail"
Democracy Now
So then I wondered how many children have been detained.
This is from April:
"ICE Has Detained 6,200+ Kids in Trump’s Second Term, Up 10x Since Biden Left Office
Advocates warn trauma from detentions will cause kids lifelong damage."
https://www.themarshallproject.org/2026/04/06/ice-kids-detention-over-6200-trump
More than 200 of these places exist. I would expect that all of them have some children's parents in them.
"‘This is a modern-day concentration camp’: Tensions rise at Delany Hall ICE facility in New Jersey
Gov. Mikie Sherrill, who was denied entry to the facility this week, said Health Department inspectors were not allowed to do a full inspection"
https://whyy.org/articles/delaney-hall-ice-facility-tensions/
What is required for happiness?
"They believe in racism. Do you really believe in anti-racism?"
"It’s almost as if not being so loud about the heinous nature of white supremacy in this country might be more attractive to donors. Less tiring and maybe more hopeful to them; more pleasant."
Shay Stewart-Bouley
So disturbing, on multiple levels.
"Yes, Jeffrey Epstein's Zorro Ranch Trust Won $85 Million in the Oklahoma Lottery..."
Alisa Valdes-Rodriguez
Allowing myself doses of being disturbed.
"Denial is a luxury"
aguicomedy
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY4zfFwI9pl/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"The Astonishing Work of Alisa Valdes-Rodriguez..."
"There is coercion of science academics and powerful men."
~ Carrie Kaufman
Now my thumb is less flexible than it was before.
"you can always tell which girls grew up..."
rot.eat.move
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY2QgXyx87-/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
I need to be sensible when I walk through doorways.
I have to be very careful because I just jammed my thumb into the door for no reason, like bent it back at a weird angle. And I honestly wonder if it made a weird sound. And wow, it hurts a lot and it's being iced now. But I don't think it's broken or dislocated, but it just got stretched to its limit and it needs the ice pack.
Of course, jokes are all in good fun and everything, but seriously.
Like, the whole phenomenon of jailing pregnant people (in biologically female bodies) for miscarriages, but still not jailing any rich men for the Epstein files crap is really... DISTURBING.
In spite of everything...
I'm very proud of our progress.
"support small business 🙏"
isaamedinaa
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWMrqBQxw2a/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
I'm really proud of our progress, and I'm sorry if I haven't said that enough.k
"keeping an eye on the boys"
isaamedinaa
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXU3qKERn47/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Rent a white dad; or, rent a white - looking dad, to help you navigate our End Days of Patriarchal Mayhem.
But if they're rich, sometimes they'll donate their time.
It's potentially a new career path for the white - looking Latino boys too.
"Incognito tino"
aguicomedy
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYfDCSIo2Az/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
I thought pineapples were supposed to be a hein or sign of hospitality, but I guess their history is more complicated than that.
"Who lives in a pineapple under the sea?"
tetyanawrites
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY4fcfzhLw5/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
I suppose sometimes people do change for the better.
I wonder if the blonde mom babysitter who seemed to not like certain types of children more than others is a grandma now?
Hashtag Celeb News? Gee...
Who's making this happen?
"VIRAL: 10-Year-Old Girl's FIERY CLASH With Trump's Masked ICE Agents"
ETimes
Why do the bad people gotta be so racist?
"ICE Protest ERUPTS: Detainee’s Wife Claims 'They Kidnapped My Husband'"
Financial Express
Dads, we have to keep our spirits up.
"ICE detainees are dying by suicide at an 'alarming' rate, an AP investigation finds" | abc7.com
https://abc7.com/post/ice-detainees-are-dying-suicide-alarming-rate-ap-investigation-finds/19180479/
You know what I remember the dad on this TV show whining about...
"Eight Is Enough" - Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eight_Is_Enough
Okay, so back then, apparently he was able to support his gargantuan family on a newspaper columnist's salary, which I have no idea how that could ever happen today, and I have no memory of him wanting to fling himself over a cliff because he couldn't afford to feed all those mouths, but when his birthday rolled around, he was moaning and groaning about he was "half a century old" on his birthday. It was a real source of pain for him to feel like he was getting old, and that's how he put it. Anyways, that's my main memory of that show. I haven't checked it. I haven't gone back to try to find the episode or anything. It was not my favorite show. It was just something that was on our little black and white TV set. After our year of not having a TV. But I'm glad we did get a TV, because we watched "Amadeus" on it.
What does this say?
"Massachusetts to issue statewide ICE guidance for schools, hospitals, churches"
You don't like it? Go back in time and talk to the blonde babysitters.
God works in mysterious ways!
The blonde teenage not-a-mom babysitter was awesome. The blonde married land-owning mom babysitter was unwell and in denial about how racist she was acting in front of little kids. She was either in denial, or else she didn't care.
"A Model Childhood" because of "Mothers in the Fatherland."
"A Model Childhood" because of "Mothers in the Fatherland."
What is past is not dead; it is not even past. We cut ourselves off from it; we preferred to be strangers."
~ Christa Wolf, Model Childhood
⚜️⚜️⚜️⚜️⚜️⚜️
"Mothers in the fatherland : Claudia Koonz"
https://archive.org/details/mothersinfatherl00koon
"A model childhood : Christa Wolf : Free Download, Borrow, and Streaming : Internet Archive"
I think adoption could start to look more appealing when parents get less shallow, sexist, and racist.
Or maybe I just need to pick different kinds of people to look at and know about. Smarter ones, who don't have to be so shallow in order to fit in. Being shallow isn't that smart or kind; it's just a fierce Patriarchal survival strategy / coping mechanism.
Harsh words here.
"'They are suicidal' is the new 'they just became pregnant.'"
jenbrooks247
"'They are suicidal' is the new 'they just became pregnant.'"
jenbrooks247
Horrors have happened.
How to recover from the sad phenomenon of so many shallow Facebook posts that clearly didn't give a s*** about the existence of someone like you.
It's not so easy to be in this situation.
Anyways, I kind of envy the ones who seem to fit in a lot better with the Patriarchal structures, and at times I kind of feel more kinship with a homeless woman, but I guess I'm luckier than that (not homeless) this time around.
Wednesday, May 27, 2026
I kind of want to go find a Christine de Pizan book now.
People were also supposed to have a Cosmic Mother element in their spirituality. Not just The Lord.
Human health will continue to be a concern in the foreseeable future.
"Will probably get shadow banned for this ... "
salmaelwardany
https://www.instagram.com/p/DY1-IPhDScj/?img_index=7&igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"Only pretty bodies allowed: how the algorithm became the ultimate mean girl"
Onward, Brave Soldiers of LOVE and CHARITY!
The piece that paths all, or the pace that passes us all, or the peace that passeth all understanding, is Shirley, or surely, on the horizon, way over yonder, that's where I'm bound.
"for my sister I would"
hayleygracepoetry
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DR3RsDGjOqy/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"Arrested for your miscarriage?!"
pottymouthpollyanna
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWRMDj9jbqy/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"The white elites are playing in your face"
charleeremitz
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY0C2Qsxw8k/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"#girldad"
aguicomedy
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXuHOsZiM4Z/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Maybe different kinds of lives have set different kinds of people up to see the world very differently.
Life set me up in a certain way. The traditional nuclear family is not optimal for all families. That's one way it set me up to see some things. Another way it set me up is to see the discrimination that was occuring with certain kinds of people, towards some children more than others. I don't see how it benefits the health of myself or society to ignore the multitude of messages I have gotten about how painfully this is affecting humanity, because these forms of discrimination should not feel okay. And as for the very childish people who are determined to be in denial about that, I'm really not into dealing with their nonsense right now. Really, at a time when people are getting kidnapped and locked away in detention centers and a child is spending her 10th birthday outside of one of them, advocating for her father, because some adults seemingly can't do any better than that? Really. I don't know. I'm just constantly surprised. I am somewhat astonished that I'm still surprised. Why am I surprised anymore? At this point, I should stop being surprised. Why do I keep being surprised?
Maybe it's time to delve into mystical, nature healing kinds of things!
"True healing isn't when the pain stops. It's when the patterns do."
"So true 🐦⬛"
https://substack.com/@schoolofholisticmastery?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=1oj2u
I don't know anything about them, but I was attracted to the imagery and the words.
Adults need to start acting better.
"On Nayeli Gomez's 10th birthday..."
feminist
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY2QjArgdw9/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Actually, an intuitive told me that if exercise feels punishing, it's just going to make it harder.
So from an allopathic doctor's perspective, perhaps that's a cortisol thing.
A full-time student of the feminine.
"It's hard not to feel like parts of my life were robbed from me"
fitnesswithkaila
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DW1hv68hPdU/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"This explains a lot...God bless @drmaryclaire"
the_velvet_dwelling
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYzZDYTRuun/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
This looks like a queen!
"Now before anyone accuses me again..."
aphtykea
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY0hhw3MqIR/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Appropriate for the era experiences.
Peaceful moment outside.
🎶🎶🎶🎶
"One of many reasons tbf"
thmptypg
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYJ2FAANcvA/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
PTSD from Existing in a Patriarchal Society, hast thou tricked me again?
Today I made potatoes in the oven, and when I touched one of them it exploded, which reminded me of something like that happening to the dad in a Ramona Quimby (au: B. Clearly) book.
👩🌾🥔💥💃
"I believe you can do anything"
garron_music
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVPCiYMjfiV/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"Even filming these bothers me tbh"
_alrighty_aphrodite_
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTv57aHkuxu/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Today, after putting a book down for at least a week and then coming back to print media...this was at the top of the page:
"Now my shock is finished, I'm starting to feel angry at the trick he played on me. Asking for my milk!
'You were Lord Robert's fool,' Godfridus emphasizes.
Hercule sighs. ' Yes. But I was one of many. He had us all sleep together in an old henhouse, which he liked to visit with huntsman. He tried to breed us, to produce a race of tiny people. He had us mate for his sport.'
'Is that why you left him?'"
And then the character goes on to describe his many physical aches and pains.
Page 39 "Mirabilis" by Susann Cokal | Goodreads
Feminist decolonizing creative writing group prompts
She speaks to a lot of men her age about war, and this is what has been happening.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVrAE39kXcd/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"top 10 ways to make yourself normal"
worsegirlfriend
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DR5AwlYicS8/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Gee, I can just get an app for free on my phone instead of buying a keyboard.
Gee, if I'd been more psychic I would have paid closer attention when my grandma was trying to give me some piano lessons at her house in the Northern part of the country.
Amusing me and perhaps the great, great white trolls of the patriarchy.
🚸
"Incognito tino"
aguicomedy
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYfDCSIo2Az/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"Worth it"
aguicomedy
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY2OhlzIW_t/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"Oo! Pesto!"
aguicomedy
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYkNGeQo6hV/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"Emotionally secure household"
aguicomedy
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYZ6mSIoUT1/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Kind of explains a lot.
"lol"
r/unsound
https://www.reddit.com/r/unsound/s/tmvWV8E64N
"I'm Imane"
imane_healing_studio
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUBk6I1jDZ2/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
"We are still fighting"
bookish.bailee
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVyzcWYAqxz/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Free...
I'm in a super comfy, long, new sundress that I bought on clearance and I like it a lot and I'm wearing it today.
"At the end of the day, it's a full time job"
poppytherescuecat
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY2RiOgBR8S/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Caaaaats! 😻
Fun! Loving! Creatures. 😺♥️
"I built this river for my cats"
tailbitpets
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DY0SOJsgEwO/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Cooking! 🍳
She is a parentified daughter.
💁♀️
_diyaaswani_
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYXdlDXPlm1/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Such good sports!
But not very great pay.
"Taking the boys outside"
isaamedinaa
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYdgbQ5sDI_/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
But there are more discussion groups now.
Someone's using these as a way to generate more conversations with men and fathers.
"What many women inherit"
warpaintjournal
https://www.instagram.com/p/DYwrvkolCaB/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
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