"When I talked of love with my generation, I found it made everyone nervous or scared, especially when I spoke about not feeling loved enough. On several occasions as I talked about love with friends, I was told I should consider seeing a therapist. I understood that a few friends were simply weary of my bringing up the topic of love and felt that if I saw a therapist it would give them a break. But most folks were just frightened of what might be revealed in any exploration of the meaning of love in our lives.
Yet whenever a single woman over 40 brings up the topic of love, again and again the assumption, rooted in sexist thinking, is that she is desperate for a man. No one thinks she is simply passionately intellectually interested in the subject matter. No one thinks she is rigorously engaged in philosophical undertaking wherein she is endeavoring to understand the metaphysical meaning of love in everyday life. No, she is just seen as on the road to 'fatal attraction.'"
bell hooks, ix -xx
"All About Love"
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