Lit Lover

Friday, May 29, 2026

Patriarchy.

"My lack of menstrual blood and less fat on my body make me feel SO Superior to the ones who are always performing the most acts of unpaid labor which keep our society running."

Besides just a basic survival strategy and probably having some extra money in your life.

Please tell me in detail what you got out of acting like abusive men and shallow patriarchal women were more important than the kinds of girls and women you treated like garbage. Because that's exactly what you were trained to do and you f****** did it, more than you want to admit. That's why you're not trustworthy, because that's what you resorted to doing. Every time things get a little bit tough for you. Lots of things are tough for lots of people. But you have to be special. And feel Superior and more able to fit in with patriarchal people. You're not locked away in a facility, are you? Are you feeling well off enough yet to want to change the poisonous toxic attitudes, or no?

Honestly, shallowness is probably a sickness that just needs to die out.

I cannot wait to see the grandchildren who will be raised to treat all kinds of girls and women with fat (lol) with far more respect than the people in my generation were.

I think I might go get a donut today afterall!

"Instagram. TikTok. Facebook. BBC uploads. Every comment section polluted with the exact same fixation on her appearance that inspired the song in the first place. The same tired cruelty. The same faux concern. The same dehumanising obsession with evaluating whether a woman is visually acceptable enough to deserve public affection.

And honestly, I think that says something much darker about the culture surrounding female performers.

We live in a music culture that worships emotional vulnerability from women on the track, yet completely denies basic physical humanity to the women creating it."

~ Front Row Feels

"Take a Sexy Picture of Me (And Tell Me Why You Hate It)"

https://open.substack.com/pub/frontrowfeels/p/take-a-sexy-picture-of-me-and-tell?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=1oj2u

Of course I should read this now.

"Take a Sexy Picture of Me (And Tell Me Why You Hate It)"

https://open.substack.com/pub/frontrowfeels/p/take-a-sexy-picture-of-me-and-tell?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=1oj2u

"One of the most poignant moments of the set came during Take a Sexy Picture of Me. Before performing it, CMAT once again spoke openly about why she wrote the song: the horrific abuse she received about her appearance following her previous Big Weekend performance several years ago in Luton. The backlash became so severe that the BBC eventually disabled comments under clips from the set. Yet here she was again, returning to the exact same festival with the exact same body, the exact same energy and the exact same refusal to make herself smaller or more digestible for public comfort. The crowd screamed every word back at her. It felt emotional to witness what was, in many ways, a full-circle moment.

Then I opened social media."

~ Front Row Feels

The need to feel "Superior in a Specific Way" is still strong with some, sadly.

"CMAT shares ‘deep sadness’ over body-shaming after BBC Radio 1 Big Weekend performance"| CMAT | The Guardian

https://www.theguardian.com/music/2026/may/29/cmat-shares-deep-sadness-over-body-shaming-bbc-radio-1-big-weekend

Smile! You're on Superior Genetics According To the Patriarchy Camera.

This is a writing prompt. Who or what does it make you wanna write about???

Normal Society wasn't about protecting the vulnerable. Normal Society was even deadly for some people.

What happens when looking away from violence is the best Normal Society can do?

"Every time I hear rape statistics..."

lisakjm

https://www.threads.com/@lisakjm/post/DY41QeAjH3U?xmt=AQG0yZct24_4DtigTN15opltu-bQh5Nav_5Dr6mz_hR3EhNzpbDQYCapm7NJe1lGpF1XQE8&slof=1

"Aileen Wuornos" - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aileen_Wuornos

A more honest and articulate culture is currently in gestation.

To be more articulate about how much other factors have also been a part of your success (in addition to all of your hard work, of course) would also be such a gift.

Healing from trauma is a long journey sometimes.

I'll keep an eye out for the ones whose kids won't be as discriminatory towards the outcasts as the other patriarchal parents wanted / were training theirs to be, in order to fit in with their preferred standards.

I'm glad that seeing some stuff get acknowledged is getting more popular now, though.

Acknowledging the existence of PMOS and rape culture is getting SO much more popular now!

"Ostracized by everyone who was doing it the 'right way.'"

Because why would they want to know anything about someone with your kind of issues or genetics when the Patriarchy clearly didn't want them to.

Can the PCOS / PMOS/ Perimenopausal also do the musical donut eating kind of protest or...

Somehow I need to transition from the full-time focus on processing a bunch of trauma and/or karmic stuff and learning more about self-parenting and other health-related topics to making money again soon. Or figure out how make that all happen simultaneously.