An anecdote just came back to me.

 "'Oh,' she said. 'I wish he were ours!'"

~ Geoffrey C. Ward

"HERO OF A LOST CAUSE" - The New York Times

https://www.nytimes.com/1981/11/22/books/hero-of-a-lost-cause.html

"Mort Kunstler: 'Oh, I wish he were ours!'"

"Emerging Civil War" ~ Sarah Kay Bierle

https://emergingcivilwar.com/2023/12/11/an-emerging-image-of-general-lee-at-fredericksburg-and-chancellorsville/

"Robert E. Lee V: What it’s like to carry around this name"

~ Mike Semel

https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/robert-e-lee-v-what-its-like-to-carry-around-this-name/2017/08/17/991e470e-8363-11e7-b359-15a3617c767b_story.html