True, it can be hard to be flexible and relax sometimes.

How can you earn a living when it's impossible to ignore that some places have had SUCH different standards for certain people in the recent past.

"Former Student Files Lawsuit Against Mt. SAC"

https://sac.media/2017/03/13/former-student-files-lawsuit-against-mt-sac/

"Mt. SAC coach being sued for sexual harassment says accusers out for revenge money"

https://www.sgvtribune.com/general-news/20121002/mt-sac-coach-being-sued-for-sexual-harassment-says-accusers-out-for-revenge-money/

"Mt. SAC will not take action against Brian Crichlow Despite Sex Abuse Allegations"

https://www.ocregister.com/2023/02/09/mt-sac-will-not-take-action-against-brian-crichlow-despite-sex-abuse-allegations/amp/

"Former head coach suing Mt. SAC for gender discrimination"

https://sac.media/2024/01/03/former-head-coach-suing-mt-sac-for-gender-discrimination/

I had to leave. I had panic attacks. I couldn't work. I had nightmares that made it feel like another World War was about to start.

It wasn't just the "What do you call a woman with two black eyes? A slow learner" guy that one time who was a problem.

I am glad to be able to live with someone who is not so stubbornly inflexible, like some others have had to be, just to make their money and to be able to get along in a toxic society.