When you get that

follow-the-man-in-the-pulpit or the-one-with-the-most-in-the-wallet feeling...

"I asked Payne why white women in prickly, patriarchal districts don’t just secretly cast blue ballots. Anecdotally, she says she’d been told that some do, while others plan to vote Democrat (and even tell pollsters as much) but at the final hour they fold. 'These women aren’t talking to one another about what feels wrong,' Payne says. 'Their perception is that they’re alone and it reinforces thinking ‘I’m wrong.’”
 ~ M. Ruiz

https://www.vogue.com/article/white-women-voters-conservative-trump-gop-problem