Monday, October 31, 2016
Before sleep
Who wants a peaceful sleep and the amelioration of pain or illness and no more aches and nice lights out beneath a comforter...me...
Sunday, October 30, 2016
Some things I thought about
A piece of music was working on me and I felt sad and I have had a bit of a sore throat and I felt some things about some Patriarchal Ways in some systems...It made me think that external things like money, status, control--those things are not going to heal what needs to be healed. Why do I think some people need to change, need healing? Because they do
unnecessarily harmful things. They treat people like crap when it's not
necessary. It's almost like imitated abusive behavior. A woman who is "so supportive" won't fix that either, and old-fashioned ways of dealing with things are not going to fix imbalance problems. Acting out irresponsibly with people and discounting people is "shooting yourself in the foot" and being foolish in the midst of fake success. And it is sad because instead of that, they could have better success, real success.
Saturday, October 29, 2016
la naturaleza
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| Sun |
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| Leaves |
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| Heron between two Firewheel Trees ~~~~ Hmmm. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_White_Heron http://storyoftheweek.loa.org/2015/08/a-white-heron.html |
I will say...
that reading things like this are at least less stressful than wikipedia's entry about Christopher Columbus. Perhaps I didn't realize how terrible our "discoverer" was. He was horrible. Like Hitler-awful. And we have a holiday for him, and when I went to school they taught us that he proved the world wasn't flat. I think I won't to link to what I read. My brain is a fragile flower in the wake of all the cultural upheaval these days.
Yay, Katherine Hepburn
Yay, Katherine Hepburn
maybe it's in the atmosphere
It's as if there's something in the air triggering and exposing a lot of imbalances and griefs and it's almost as if it cannot be just any one thing or person or instance or event...it's as if a voice is whispering "look... look up..." so you can see the sky...
Gardenish thought
As I try to feel better and not sick or dizzy or off balance (begone, fat dairy sugar snack) I think I would like to lie down in a cabbage patch and get reborn.
Oh, food
I almost ventured out into a gloomy day and then I turned right around because I had to eat something with protein to make up for the good but too-much-bad-is-for-my-body ice cream which I then threw away with some still left in the container because the ice cream is like the gray day outside so now I'm making relatively healthy soup to through some greens in. Stupid ice cream. Need a better eating plan. WHICH ONE.
http://pcosdiva.com/2015/09/the-best-diet-for-pcos/
http://pcosdiva.com/2015/09/the-best-diet-for-pcos/
Sounds like a fun book with pages
"We first meet Frances and Rosalie as hobbled old women living out their final years at the same nursing home in the mid-1960s..."
~ Enchanted Islands
~ Enchanted Islands
Another dream
Had a hospital room to sleep in, and realized I can leave now. Really nice man at the desk checked me out of the hospital. Really nice. That was a peaceful dream.
One dream
Dream #1: half swimming half drowning in too-choppy water, trying to ask tall men for advice (they weren't having problems) on how to get to a destination they weren't even that intersted in...a nice peaceful site with circles of rocks and hidden areas...could I swim in these waters (short cut) or did I need to walk around (the long way) they had no clue and I came up with my own answer. I would not be swimming there in this particular water...I would walk the long way around.
Attitudescenes
Women who feel encouraged to conform...who feel pressured to withhold help from other women for fear of reprisals...who feel it's not in their best interest to make noise because...
Women with winning attitudes.
Why
"I worked hard"
Don't
"deserve this..."
You
"deserve this land..."
Just
"persecuted back in the Old Country..."
Assimilate
Women with winning attitudes.
Why
"I worked hard"
Don't
"deserve this..."
You
"deserve this land..."
Just
"persecuted back in the Old Country..."
Assimilate
Friday, October 28, 2016
Please and enough
Isn't it weird when you go out and find a little respite in nature and then thoughts start coming back to you in the car and ENOUGH!
Oh but first, do communicate them.
Here's one analogy...old boys network environments have a bad habit of reminding me of riding in the back of the bus during Jr. High. The back of the bus was dominated by boys, and they got gross. Like, not even a little gross. A lot gross. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if everyone of them is making 5x more $$ than I am right now. Anyways, I got disgusted with their treatment and chose not to sit back there any longer. But some girls stayed. Really? Why? Are you that desperate for approval? I can hear myself thinking. This was decades ago.
That's just one thought. I had another. I remember being in a particular sort of patriarchal household as a visitor, and the father was held in high esteem and he could be very nice. But when he did something imperfectly...when he messed up...he would stomp out, and the mother would yell at the daughter to clean up after him. Literally. I remember something as simple as a dish being broken was enough to ruin the man's composure. Then the mom would yell at the daughter and she would sadly sweep up the pieces. Why was this a dynamic in that family? I started thinking about it. Well, dad was the breadwinner, right? So if he's happy, the rest of the family can be happy too, right? But what if he's not happy? Uh oh.
This is how, in some patriarchal households, the supposed "head" of the table becomes the de facto infant.
Oh but first, do communicate them.
Here's one analogy...old boys network environments have a bad habit of reminding me of riding in the back of the bus during Jr. High. The back of the bus was dominated by boys, and they got gross. Like, not even a little gross. A lot gross. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if everyone of them is making 5x more $$ than I am right now. Anyways, I got disgusted with their treatment and chose not to sit back there any longer. But some girls stayed. Really? Why? Are you that desperate for approval? I can hear myself thinking. This was decades ago.
That's just one thought. I had another. I remember being in a particular sort of patriarchal household as a visitor, and the father was held in high esteem and he could be very nice. But when he did something imperfectly...when he messed up...he would stomp out, and the mother would yell at the daughter to clean up after him. Literally. I remember something as simple as a dish being broken was enough to ruin the man's composure. Then the mom would yell at the daughter and she would sadly sweep up the pieces. Why was this a dynamic in that family? I started thinking about it. Well, dad was the breadwinner, right? So if he's happy, the rest of the family can be happy too, right? But what if he's not happy? Uh oh.
This is how, in some patriarchal households, the supposed "head" of the table becomes the de facto infant.
She sounds interesting
"As an adult, I’ve often reflected on how skilled Ms. Fitz was at establishing absolute equality among us through transparent guidelines for how we behaved and through fostering a habit to, as she always put it, “walk a thought through.” With that motto, she meant for us to do the tough work of imagining consequences and potential harms of our actions, of taking care of one another by being careful, curious and respectful."
~ http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/tv/la-ca-st-tori-amos-sexual-violence-20160918-snap-story.html
Enough internet.I'm going to read a book with pages I'm going to read some leaves.
~ http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/tv/la-ca-st-tori-amos-sexual-violence-20160918-snap-story.html
Enough internet.
Another proposition
Controversial....
https://ballotpedia.org/California_Proposition_60,_Condoms_in_Pornographic_Films_(2016)
Complement with...
Pornography Isn't Your Problem | Jason Mahr | TEDxCincinnati
and/or
Growing Up in a Pornified Culture | Gail Dines | TEDxNavesink
Leaping From Topic To Topic.
It's Just Another Day.
On A Planet.
With Internet!!!
https://ballotpedia.org/California_Proposition_60,_Condoms_in_Pornographic_Films_(2016)
Complement with...
Pornography Isn't Your Problem | Jason Mahr | TEDxCincinnati
and/or
Growing Up in a Pornified Culture | Gail Dines | TEDxNavesink
~~~~~
Now comes the unfortunate imagining of: Oh, you just watched an anti-porn activist give a talk, so you must be UN-SEX-POSITIVE. You must think all people who watch pornography are bad people who abuse women and are immoral and blah blah blah...And look it's a cool film festival where porn is funny by a cool guy and when you were in college you had so much fun reading his column! Um...
"She writes about the relentless trolls who harassed her en masse after she took a stand against rape jokes, and the time she "came out" as fat during a very public confrontation with her boss, Dan Savage, over his fat-shaming blog posts at The Stranger, Seattle's alt-weekly. She does all this with stark honesty, grace, and enough dark humor to balance the emotion."
Leaping From Topic To Topic.
It's Just Another Day.
On A Planet.
With Internet!!!
It was just a little grocery chatter
Yesterday I made a CRV purchase and the woman at the checkout told me a young man of about 21 came in and asked about the CRV. She assumed he was from out-of-state, but that was not the case. He said, "I never saw CRV on the receipt before." She said, "I think his mama's been buying his groceries for him."
Everyday another surprise
Top results for "women who achieve"
#1 At the TOP!
#2 And NEXT
#3 And UNDER THAT (ok that's more along the lines of what I had in mind)
#4 And THEN (that too)
#5 And THEN
#6 And THEN (well, we're back to our most popular topic again!)
#7 And THEN
# 8 And THEN
#9 And THEN
# 10 And THEN
Honestly, I have not read any of them, but from the titles alone, I think the last two are my favorites: #9 The Five Best Sex Positions For Female Orgasm Because There's Nothing Wrong With You (nothing! nothing! who told you there was anything wrong with you? did society do that? what? absolutely nothing is wrong with you, you orgasmic creature!) and of course # 10 12 Steps To Achieve Gender Equality In Our Lifetimes for the optimism.
NOTED
For "women who achieve" out of the top ten results, five were about their orgasms, or lack thereof. HALF of the results were about that topic. For "men who achieve" out of the top ten results, Z-E-R-O were about their orgasms (or lack thereof).
I'm going to go read a book with pages now.
#1 At the TOP!
#2 And NEXT
#3 And UNDER THAT (ok that's more along the lines of what I had in mind)
#4 And THEN (that too)
#5 And THEN
#6 And THEN (well, we're back to our most popular topic again!)
#7 And THEN
# 8 And THEN
#9 And THEN
# 10 And THEN
Honestly, I have not read any of them, but from the titles alone, I think the last two are my favorites: #9 The Five Best Sex Positions For Female Orgasm Because There's Nothing Wrong With You (nothing! nothing! who told you there was anything wrong with you? did society do that? what? absolutely nothing is wrong with you, you orgasmic creature!) and of course # 10 12 Steps To Achieve Gender Equality In Our Lifetimes for the optimism.
NOTED
For "women who achieve" out of the top ten results, five were about their orgasms, or lack thereof. HALF of the results were about that topic. For "men who achieve" out of the top ten results, Z-E-R-O were about their orgasms (or lack thereof).
I'm going to go read a book with pages now.
I will...
You won't get off...
" “We here talked, or murdered French all the evening with the master of the house and his family, and probably had a more amusing time than if we had completely understood one another,” Thoreau wrote. At bedtime, the men had to climb up to a high chamber with a wooden rail around it to reach a bed outfitted with linen sheets. Although Quebecois researchers disagree on the exact Binet house that Thoreau stayed in, they say that one of the prime candidates is a building that operates today as a Mexican restaurant called Senor Sombrero."
~ http://thoreaufarm.org/2016/10/one-honest-walk/
Yes I will.
" “We here talked, or murdered French all the evening with the master of the house and his family, and probably had a more amusing time than if we had completely understood one another,” Thoreau wrote. At bedtime, the men had to climb up to a high chamber with a wooden rail around it to reach a bed outfitted with linen sheets. Although Quebecois researchers disagree on the exact Binet house that Thoreau stayed in, they say that one of the prime candidates is a building that operates today as a Mexican restaurant called Senor Sombrero."
~ http://thoreaufarm.org/2016/10/one-honest-walk/
Yes I will.
I have watched some (not all) of...
Walden: The Video Game
"He would merge the scientific and the sublime, and the personal and the universal, and the natural and the aesthetic..."
(Tracy Fullerton ~ 15:25 - 15:35)
"So to me, just as an aside, it's actually, it's proof that the way that we've divided these domains in our own thinking and teaching about them is really arbitrary and somewhat unhelpful to learning about the way that they cross over."
(Tracy Fullerton ~ 15:42 - 15:58)
"He would merge the scientific and the sublime, and the personal and the universal, and the natural and the aesthetic..."
(Tracy Fullerton ~ 15:25 - 15:35)
"So to me, just as an aside, it's actually, it's proof that the way that we've divided these domains in our own thinking and teaching about them is really arbitrary and somewhat unhelpful to learning about the way that they cross over."
(Tracy Fullerton ~ 15:42 - 15:58)
Games articles
Although I don't really play them, many others do...
"In 2002, Tracy Fullerton packed up her car, grabbed a copy of Walden and drove 10,000 miles around the United States. She had just closed up shop on her startup, which made massively multiplayer games to coincide with television shows such as The Weakest Link, and was thinking about what was next. On the trip, Fullerton read Thoreau, spent time in Concord, Massachusetts, and stumbled upon the answer."
~ http://www.laweekly.com/arts/if-the-video-game-industry-ever-becomes-gender-balanced-you-should-thank-tracy-fullerton-5534049
"In 2002, Tracy Fullerton packed up her car, grabbed a copy of Walden and drove 10,000 miles around the United States. She had just closed up shop on her startup, which made massively multiplayer games to coincide with television shows such as The Weakest Link, and was thinking about what was next. On the trip, Fullerton read Thoreau, spent time in Concord, Massachusetts, and stumbled upon the answer."
~ http://www.laweekly.com/arts/if-the-video-game-industry-ever-becomes-gender-balanced-you-should-thank-tracy-fullerton-5534049
GAMES ARE PART OF SOCIETAL CHANGE
"In the Kotaku article headlined "Teenage Girls Are Playing Video Games. You Just Might Not Hear Them," the male writer saw some of the data on girls' voiceless and solitary playing as troubling, writing: "That's how you go from a world where 59 percent of all girls between 13 and 17 play video games to a world where teenage girls are assumed not to exist in public video game spaces."
But then the girls and women weighed in.
Commenters such as NewViperWorld, a married young woman, explained that she wanted no contact with the vast population of boys and men on chat. "I have to be the 'property' so to speak of another male presence in the chat for people to treat me like an actual person rather than a source of mockery or sex," she wrote. "It's pathetic and annoying, and just not worth using a mic unless I have to because I need to coordinate with the rest of the team."
~ http://www.laweekly.com/news/the-women-behind-nix-hydra-are-taking-on-aggressive-male-video-gaming-6462830
ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF WHY SOLITUDE FEELS BETTER SOMETIMES
Thursday, October 27, 2016
It's a world of...
People who have some opinions...
https://peopleofonefire.com/the-shenandoah-valley-of-virginia-its-secret-native-american-history.html
https://peopleofonefire.com/peruvian-indians-still-live-in-the-southern-tip-of-appalachia.html
Not too sure what I think of them...
https://peopleofonefire.com/the-shenandoah-valley-of-virginia-its-secret-native-american-history.html
https://peopleofonefire.com/peruvian-indians-still-live-in-the-southern-tip-of-appalachia.html
Not too sure what I think of them...
circumstances
Time Warp plays and plays and plays--- thank you, parking garage music.
Had fun drafting letters in 3 different voices with a cool classmate:
(Ban,beforeitIrreparablyHarmsourChildren!)
(Never,myAdvancedParentingsSkillswon'tallowit!)
(How2address2RedSeaCompoundMomswithTact&Diplomacy!)
We might try to read it, and I might check out her place of employ one of these days. The cat of the house mangled an old gardening hat, wonder if they sell those...
Had fun drafting letters in 3 different voices with a cool classmate:
(Ban,beforeitIrreparablyHarmsourChildren!)
(Never,myAdvancedParentingsSkillswon'tallowit!)
(How2address2RedSeaCompoundMomswithTact&Diplomacy!)
We might try to read it, and I might check out her place of employ one of these days. The cat of the house mangled an old gardening hat, wonder if they sell those...
Wednesday, October 26, 2016
Older...
Some older things are not so bad. For example, what about that old phrase, "only the shadow knows."
Example: "Is it a deeper wound that makes a person who could have been a caring and helpful friend instead act like....ONLY THE SHADOW KNOWS."
(It would seem that there are actually still many systems in place which encourage certain individuals who absolutely have that ability to do so much better, to turn out to be, well, untrustworthy...I can only imagine that this behavior was learned. Sometimes it is better not to imitate one's forebears...unhappily it is possible to be reminded of, and even taken off guard by this more often than one would like. It also has a weird aspect, as if in a way, it's almost "natural," but it's really not ethical and that's what makes it so unpleasant...seems like a volcano. Some people might know it's dangerous, but they still want admire the lava flows. I, on the other hand, have a strong aversion to sticking around in order to get decimated by that volcano. Even though in real life, I would not be completely adverse to watching lava flows...in certain conditions...and perhaps I am being unfair to volcanos...after all, what about Pele, and Boys For...)
Now I think I will KNIT.
That was just a dream
Well, had a a wolf dream. First a female wolf (no I don't know how I knew that) appeared and I was scared but it didn't bother me, but it had some cubs and one grabbed at me and kept shaking me. I got away with it (ha, typo, I meant to say "from it" but that's what happened) I ended up somehow shoving it inside a plastic bag and leaving it on a staircase and running away. Weird dream. Then I went into an area that was full of books and people who were sort of like scholars...I woke up thinking it's not such a good thing to shove an animal in a plastic bag and just leave it on a staircase. IRL some interesting propositions came to my attention:
Supporters of
https://ballotpedia.org/California_Proposition_67,_Plastic_Bag_Ban_Veto_Referendum_(2016)
are opposing
https://ballotpedia.org/California_Proposition_65,_Dedication_of_Revenue_from_Disposable_Bag_Sales_to_Wildlife_Conservation_Fund_(2016)
and vice versa.
Supporters of
https://ballotpedia.org/California_Proposition_67,_Plastic_Bag_Ban_Veto_Referendum_(2016)
are opposing
https://ballotpedia.org/California_Proposition_65,_Dedication_of_Revenue_from_Disposable_Bag_Sales_to_Wildlife_Conservation_Fund_(2016)
and vice versa.
Unconventional confession idea
Bless me father for I have sinned, but I do have a few questions...if you really are not the type of person who tolerates chauvinism then how and why on earth did you do such an awesome job of seeming like someone who does...Was it just out of impulsivity, or were you actually somehow trained to expect praise for unremarkable and even harmful behavior...
Tuesday, October 25, 2016
some ideas...
...about a man who leaves society and goes away into a mountainous area to be by himself in nature, maybe to sleep or even die, because that's what seemed the best choice to him at the time,,,a woman in the center of a lodge and it's night and it's warm inside and there's other people in the same building,,,a different woman in a town, and her awareness is primarily of the people in the town and how she has to live in it, and it's not always a pleasant time, but assimilation is her theme,,,and another man who is a farmer and he's surrounded by hills and farmland and working the land is his theme.
southern stuff
while remembering a chain-smoking grandmother
(her curls and curls of smoke spiraling up to the ceiling)
pulled up behind the strange license plate of the day
on an SUV dusty with dried mud
"INYO DNA"
Monday, October 24, 2016
Oh, hmmm
This also has a link to "cleaning soundtracks":
http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/how-to-clean-your-house-in-20-minutes-a-day-for-30-days-131142
http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/how-to-clean-your-house-in-20-minutes-a-day-for-30-days-131142
Something I read about...
Because I was thinking about certain dissatisfying aspects of culture...
"Symptoms of inflexible expectations of manhood and repressed individuality, symptoms of trying to be someone you're not. Feelings of inadequacy easily morph into bitterness.
But more often I saw boys for whom college didn't fit. Boys like
me..."
~ http://www.vice.com/read/living-at-an-all-male-college-campus-was-a-lesson-in-hyper-sexism
Oxford University's last all-male college, St.
Benet's,
opened its doors to women in 2015 with little fanfare or backlash. When queried
about the perceived loss of tradition, the master of St. Benet's Professor Werner
Jeanrond
said, "It
depends on how you view tradition. Is it something that you contribute to or
something that is an exhibit in a museum?"
~ http://www.vice.com/read/living-at-an-all-male-college-campus-was-a-lesson-in-hyper-sexism
"Symptoms of inflexible expectations of manhood and repressed individuality, symptoms of trying to be someone you're not. Feelings of inadequacy easily morph into bitterness.
For some boys, the King's identity fit like a glove. It was
natural for them to aspire to the triumvirate of masculinity: sporting success,
sexual conquest, and the possession of a steel liver.
~ http://www.vice.com/read/living-at-an-all-male-college-campus-was-a-lesson-in-hyper-sexism
"It took more than a year for me to realize that
King's
mystical reputation—that it was a sort of hedonistic Shangri-La free
from
responsibility—wasn't real. For it to be real, all men would have to be
born the same, and women, well, they'd have to not take up space at all.
It would've meant going back to
a crueler, harsher time.
That's where this issue really comes from: the
past. Any institution too heavily invested in the past loses sight of
the present. And
for colleges, this is painfully clear in their ideas of gender.
~ http://www.vice.com/read/living-at-an-all-male-college-campus-was-a-lesson-in-hyper-sexism
Sunday, October 23, 2016
what the...
maybe I'll try to read it again another day
https://peopleofonefire.com/is-cherokee-a-north-african-sephardic-word.html
https://peopleofonefire.com/is-cherokee-a-north-african-sephardic-word.html
A Sunday
I had a nice little meeting with some plants and some people and another person and some books about plants...before I fried my brain on too much homework stuff in the evening...because I was distracted on another night tracing peoples to her and to him...
Oh a link in e-mail...
That article has a picture of the place where I ditched a pack of cigarettes because I was like "I quit!" This is okay to play quietly in the background: Samsara Blues Experiment: "Center of the Sun"
Oh my tired brain.
Oh what Lupo is Italian for...
Oh a link in e-mail...
Beyond the Buffalo Wing in Upstate New York
That article has a picture of the place where I ditched a pack of cigarettes because I was like "I quit!" This is okay to play quietly in the background: Samsara Blues Experiment: "Center of the Sun"
Oh my tired brain.
Oh what Lupo is Italian for...
Maybe this was worth watching?
Or maybe not? But it was watched anyway!
The Nine Insufferable People You Meet Auditioning - Ballet Theatre of Indiana
Because otherwise, I would not know...
The Nine Insufferable People You Meet Auditioning - Ballet Theatre of Indiana
Because otherwise, I would not know...
Saturday, October 22, 2016
~m~u~s~i~c~
This is a good album.
When I or others have health issues then I believe something has gotten too out of balance so then it's best to seek out more healing songs and attitudes and everything...
When I or others have health issues then I believe something has gotten too out of balance so then it's best to seek out more healing songs and attitudes and everything...
Numerously
Egregious
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsory_sterilization
And in California between 2006-2010??
http://cironline.org/reports/female-inmates-sterilized-california-prisons-without-approval-4917
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsory_sterilization
And in California between 2006-2010??
http://cironline.org/reports/female-inmates-sterilized-california-prisons-without-approval-4917
Ok, Gone
X's belief system is "Gone."
Doesn't like it? Then it's gone. Doesn't have time for it? Gone. Not acceptable to the dominant Cult-ture? GONE. Gone gone gone gone gone. But maybe not really.
Doesn't like it? Then it's gone. Doesn't have time for it? Gone. Not acceptable to the dominant Cult-ture? GONE. Gone gone gone gone gone. But maybe not really.
Long titles
Overly long, completely unmarketable title:
Grown men who you once thought more highly of but now seem completely immature and untrustworthy
Spiraling downwards to long subtitles...
subtitle: where hope once existed and then got snuffed out
subtitle 2: where ethics go to die
subtitle 3: also they can't believe you are complaining because how trivial, don't you know there are much worse things going on in the world, geez...
subtitle 4: moreover, other women like their jokes, but you just not the right fit for their system...
subtitle 5: and they have the right attitudes and can still make money
subtitle 6: you didn't know you expected too much, did you
subtitle 7: what do you want to do in the future instead
Grown men who you once thought more highly of but now seem completely immature and untrustworthy
Spiraling downwards to long subtitles...
subtitle: where hope once existed and then got snuffed out
subtitle 2: where ethics go to die
subtitle 3: also they can't believe you are complaining because how trivial, don't you know there are much worse things going on in the world, geez...
subtitle 4: moreover, other women like their jokes, but you just not the right fit for their system...
subtitle 5: and they have the right attitudes and can still make money
subtitle 6: you didn't know you expected too much, did you
subtitle 7: what do you want to do in the future instead
Friday, October 21, 2016
Geez
"“The U.S. government and missionaries made a concerted effort to transform Cherokee gender roles and attitudes towards sexuality and the body,” says Johnston. “They sought to inculcate Euro-American values of true womanhood and confine Cherokee women to the domestic sphere. They met with resistance from the traditional Cherokees, but, over the course of contact, wealthier members of that society, often of mixed ancestry, readily accepted both Christianity and the ideals of true womanhood. This gender inequality intersected with class inequality because more affluent women were freed from most domestic labor by hired help of slaves, and they had the means to acquire education and gentility. By the end of the 18th century, Cherokee women no longer agreed among themselves what it meant to be a woman.”
~ http://indiancountrytodaymedianetwork.com/2011/01/10/power-cherokee-women-3767
So? Well...
So, did you think you would be learning new things? Enjoying intelligent discussion and conversation? Well, if you conformed to certain arbitrary preferences, you would fit in better... plus, if you were a certain gender, it would be just that much easier...
Those were the days
Well, waking up early and thinking of a song...never read through the whole thing before...but now I have...
http://genius.com/Carrroll-oconnor-and-jean-stapleton-all-in-the-family-theme-song-those-were-the-days-annotated
Once upon a time, things were different...
I thought we could work together... Strangely this was not what happened...
Those were the days.
SIGH.
(Does treating other people poorly really make some people happy so long as they get ahead and make money? Do they really expect praise for such mediocre behavior? Horrible early morning questions.)
Those were the days.
http://genius.com/Carrroll-oconnor-and-jean-stapleton-all-in-the-family-theme-song-those-were-the-days-annotated
Once upon a time, things were different...
I thought we could work together... Strangely this was not what happened...
Those were the days.
SIGH.
(Does treating other people poorly really make some people happy so long as they get ahead and make money? Do they really expect praise for such mediocre behavior? Horrible early morning questions.)
Those were the days.
Thursday, October 20, 2016
How to
react when a family member finds a new ancestor?
Go about your business but resolve to look up more stuff later...
"Europeans also were astonished that women were the heads of Cherokee households."
~ http://www.learnnc.org/lp/editions/nchist-twoworlds/1882
Go about your business but resolve to look up more stuff later...
"Europeans also were astonished that women were the heads of Cherokee households."
~ http://www.learnnc.org/lp/editions/nchist-twoworlds/1882
Tuesday, October 18, 2016
music as healing
People I'm concerned about have to be in hospitals.
I have to go back to this stuff.
Steven Halpern ~ Crystal Bowl Healing
I have to go back to this stuff.
Steven Halpern ~ Crystal Bowl Healing
Maybe so
Is it the parts of patriarchal culture based on things like "traumatic bonding" that feel so bad?
Bells, as in
Warning bells...
"Ivanka said she has learned how to “shrug off” the unflattering coverage of her father, including allegations of sexual assault."
~ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/ivanka-trump-donald-trump-groping-women_us_580644e1e4b0180a36e66c44?
I could forsee really interesting insights about Stockholm Syndrome someday.
http://counsellingresource.com/therapy/self-help/stockholm/
"To add further embarrassment, the media has dredged up video clips of Donald Trump saying borderline misogynistic things as Ivanka looks on or even laughs along."
~ http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/10/18/donald-trumps-children-depend-on-his-brand--and-hes-driving-that/
Or "traumatic bonding."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traumatic_bonding
"Trump’s rise has proven to even the most skeptical that double standards exist when it comes to age and gender."
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/10/18/the-women-of-america-thank-you-donald.html
I guess...but also...
"“I’d be honored if Donald Trump would touch me inappropriately! I sure would! Do it again!” Trina Hudson laughed as she walked out of Trump’s Friday night rally in Charlotte, the second one she’s been to so far."
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/10/17/meet-the-women-who-are-forever-trump.html
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/10/17/apprentice-staffer-claims-gary-busey-groped-her-and-then-donald-trump-laughed.html
Symptomatic of larger problems.
"Ivanka said she has learned how to “shrug off” the unflattering coverage of her father, including allegations of sexual assault."
~ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/ivanka-trump-donald-trump-groping-women_us_580644e1e4b0180a36e66c44?
I could forsee really interesting insights about Stockholm Syndrome someday.
http://counsellingresource.com/therapy/self-help/stockholm/
^^^^^^^^
"To add further embarrassment, the media has dredged up video clips of Donald Trump saying borderline misogynistic things as Ivanka looks on or even laughs along."
~ http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/10/18/donald-trumps-children-depend-on-his-brand--and-hes-driving-that/
Or "traumatic bonding."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traumatic_bonding
^^^^^^^^^^
"Trump’s rise has proven to even the most skeptical that double standards exist when it comes to age and gender."
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/10/18/the-women-of-america-thank-you-donald.html
I guess...but also...
"“I’d be honored if Donald Trump would touch me inappropriately! I sure would! Do it again!” Trina Hudson laughed as she walked out of Trump’s Friday night rally in Charlotte, the second one she’s been to so far."
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/10/17/meet-the-women-who-are-forever-trump.html
UGH
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/10/17/apprentice-staffer-claims-gary-busey-groped-her-and-then-donald-trump-laughed.html
Symptomatic of larger problems.
So much is...
Allowed.
Yesterday I was thinking about the idea of information coming at people in different ways...
For example, I have had stories come at me in particular ways. Not as if they are just for entertainment purposes. To me they have psychological value. But, they are not what some people look for, because they are not scientific. No ones going to write that information up in a peer reviewed journal...
Anyways, then there was the icecream incident. I almost bought some but I put it back. I got kombucha and vegetables instead. I put it back just as two guys were selecting ice cream.
They were in the checkout line behind me. "We're getting these for our girlfriends. They are both pregnant but have different tastes." Okay...
I left, got in my car, opened my kombucha, looked up...yep, they parked right next to me too. They got in their car. There they are, two nice guys, being very ordinary. How ordinary. How...whatever. Like we walk the same planet and exist in different worlds.
I went home and looked up a Merck More Than A Mother video. Oops, I think I closed it. anyways there's a woman in it which describes a miserable set of circumstances but then Merck helped her set up a business. She can be happier now.
I saw some people relaying a tale of getting kicked out of an airport lounge because of a crying baby. Exclusion hurts...everybody...(REM song) sometimes...
I read about these people and they have positive attitudes.
http://spencerandwhitneyadoption.blogspot.co.uk/2016/05/infertility-announcement-6-bumpy-road.html?m=1
Someone showed me this movie poster and said "I can tell this is going to be stupid."
I told him how weird this chain of information keeps coming at me. He said "I took this picture last night to show you how she was holding her paw."
The cat has her paw next to her cheek in the picture. I said, "that's how I was born" (fist by cheek, doctor said I was stubborn.)
I went upstairs and fell asleep.
I woke up too early with facial aches.
I type stuff.
I think it's time to go back to sleep.
Yesterday I was thinking about the idea of information coming at people in different ways...
For example, I have had stories come at me in particular ways. Not as if they are just for entertainment purposes. To me they have psychological value. But, they are not what some people look for, because they are not scientific. No ones going to write that information up in a peer reviewed journal...
Anyways, then there was the icecream incident. I almost bought some but I put it back. I got kombucha and vegetables instead. I put it back just as two guys were selecting ice cream.
They were in the checkout line behind me. "We're getting these for our girlfriends. They are both pregnant but have different tastes." Okay...
I left, got in my car, opened my kombucha, looked up...yep, they parked right next to me too. They got in their car. There they are, two nice guys, being very ordinary. How ordinary. How...whatever. Like we walk the same planet and exist in different worlds.
I went home and looked up a Merck More Than A Mother video. Oops, I think I closed it. anyways there's a woman in it which describes a miserable set of circumstances but then Merck helped her set up a business. She can be happier now.
I saw some people relaying a tale of getting kicked out of an airport lounge because of a crying baby. Exclusion hurts...everybody...(REM song) sometimes...
I read about these people and they have positive attitudes.
http://spencerandwhitneyadoption.blogspot.co.uk/2016/05/infertility-announcement-6-bumpy-road.html?m=1
Someone showed me this movie poster and said "I can tell this is going to be stupid."
I told him how weird this chain of information keeps coming at me. He said "I took this picture last night to show you how she was holding her paw."
The cat has her paw next to her cheek in the picture. I said, "that's how I was born" (fist by cheek, doctor said I was stubborn.)
I went upstairs and fell asleep.
I woke up too early with facial aches.
I type stuff.
I think it's time to go back to sleep.
Monday, October 17, 2016
Sunday, October 16, 2016
Worth a ponder
I'm going to figure out what can be said about situations when people who maybe could have helped each other more, but end up not doing that due to serious communication issues.
It seems like there's been a lot of stuff about unnecessary immature behavior and hurtful usage of gender roles and exclusion regarding those things lately...
It seems like there's been a lot of stuff about unnecessary immature behavior and hurtful usage of gender roles and exclusion regarding those things lately...
Saturday, October 15, 2016
Sad film
Sad song
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Death_of_Queen_Jane
It keeps timing out, too.
Fill thy head with apple pies and Lisa Frank.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Death_of_Queen_Jane
It keeps timing out, too.
Fill thy head with apple pies and Lisa Frank.
Fine film so far
Inside Llewyn Davis is pretty good so far.
The streaming service keeps timing out tho.
"No I did not meet Private Presley."
Nice orange cat!
Oops.
The streaming service keeps timing out tho.
"No I did not meet Private Presley."
Nice orange cat!
Oops.
Another thing to read...
Well. http://www.vox.com/2016/6/2/11833912/donald-trump-1994-women-buildings-misogyny
There's a part of me that thinks, wouldn't it be nice to just abstain...but also, what if it's all part of our culture's need to own up to imbalances that were swept under the carpet in the past...
http://www.vox.com/identities/2016/10/14/13275786/sexual-assault-victims-reporting
Wouldn't it be more fun to just think about...I don't know...leaves changing and Halloween parties and such...But maybe there are some things coming out in this election season that will help us do some things differently...
http://www.vox.com/the-big-idea/2016/10/14/13277626/losers-democratic-transition-sanders-trump
I think I might watch this!
http://www.vox.com/2016/10/15/13269094/inside-llewyn-davis-oscar-isaac-bob-dylan-coen-brothers
There's a part of me that thinks, wouldn't it be nice to just abstain...but also, what if it's all part of our culture's need to own up to imbalances that were swept under the carpet in the past...
http://www.vox.com/identities/2016/10/14/13275786/sexual-assault-victims-reporting
Wouldn't it be more fun to just think about...I don't know...leaves changing and Halloween parties and such...But maybe there are some things coming out in this election season that will help us do some things differently...
http://www.vox.com/the-big-idea/2016/10/14/13277626/losers-democratic-transition-sanders-trump
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I think I might watch this!
http://www.vox.com/2016/10/15/13269094/inside-llewyn-davis-oscar-isaac-bob-dylan-coen-brothers
Film pertinence
Maybe I should watch the whole of Spotlight.
"There have been lots of fictional Bostons, but “Spotlight” is the rare film with a sense of the city’s clannishness. And McCarthy is finely attuned to the ways in which Boston’s tribal culture both made victims vulnerable and could be used to discredit anyone who dared to challenge its institutions and priorities.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/act-four/wp/2015/11/13/spotlight-is-a-great-movie-about-rape-and-culture/?utm_term=.c6b8632093fa
"McCarthy and his fellow screenwriter, Josh Singer, did their own reporting to create the film’s script, revisiting the reporters’ methods and even breaking a crucial piece of news of their own, revealing that the Globe missed a chance to advance the abuse story as far back as 1993."
https://www.washingtonpost.com/goingoutguide/movies/spotlight-joins-all-the-presidents-men-in-the-pantheon-of-great-journalism-movies/2015/11/12/a4e9e7a6-86ed-11e5-be39-0034bb576eee_story.html?tid=kp_google
This weekend has not been like last weekend. No young men on dimly lit streets yelling at me to help them...
"There have been lots of fictional Bostons, but “Spotlight” is the rare film with a sense of the city’s clannishness. And McCarthy is finely attuned to the ways in which Boston’s tribal culture both made victims vulnerable and could be used to discredit anyone who dared to challenge its institutions and priorities.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/act-four/wp/2015/11/13/spotlight-is-a-great-movie-about-rape-and-culture/?utm_term=.c6b8632093fa
"McCarthy and his fellow screenwriter, Josh Singer, did their own reporting to create the film’s script, revisiting the reporters’ methods and even breaking a crucial piece of news of their own, revealing that the Globe missed a chance to advance the abuse story as far back as 1993."
https://www.washingtonpost.com/goingoutguide/movies/spotlight-joins-all-the-presidents-men-in-the-pantheon-of-great-journalism-movies/2015/11/12/a4e9e7a6-86ed-11e5-be39-0034bb576eee_story.html?tid=kp_google
This weekend has not been like last weekend. No young men on dimly lit streets yelling at me to help them...
See also -
To me, acknowledging there has been community bias and stigma toward people regarding their bodies, fertility and infertility is just as important as acknowledging that there has been community bias and stigma towards single moms (and towards their kids) for not fitting into the "traditional" (not really) family model.
"We are here, we walk among the general public, 1 in 8. Look around, and chances are you do know someone other than yourself who has been touched by infertility. We are here, but we are not seen."
https://infertilegirlinafertileworld.wordpress.com/2014/05/10/hidden-in-plain-sight/#comments
"Rosner’s research shows that infertility often goes hand-in-hand with unacknowledged, or disenfranchised, grief...She found that the women’s ability to fully acknowledge, grieve and integrate, rather than disavow, the numerous losses of infertility into their life story facilitated personal growth, what Rosner refers to as “post-traumatic growth.”
https://news.upenn.edu/news/penn-researcher-looks-infertility-s-impact-women
"Several recent studies point to an increased social acceptance of women who choose to remain child-free in societies with greater gender parity. In other words, the larger the space women can occupy, the more opportunity there is for a variety of life choices for women. In places where women have greater power, there is less policing of the role of mother and room for a more inclusive view of how to be a woman."
http://www.latrobe.edu.au/news/articles/2016/opinion/social-exclusion-of-childless-women
In other words - to me it seems like social exclusion of one type of person is not that different from social exclusion of another.
"Social exclusion at the individual level results in an individual's exclusion from meaningful participation in society. An example is the exclusion of single mothers from the welfare system prior to welfare reforms of the 1900s."
"We are here, we walk among the general public, 1 in 8. Look around, and chances are you do know someone other than yourself who has been touched by infertility. We are here, but we are not seen."
https://infertilegirlinafertileworld.wordpress.com/2014/05/10/hidden-in-plain-sight/#comments
"Rosner’s research shows that infertility often goes hand-in-hand with unacknowledged, or disenfranchised, grief...She found that the women’s ability to fully acknowledge, grieve and integrate, rather than disavow, the numerous losses of infertility into their life story facilitated personal growth, what Rosner refers to as “post-traumatic growth.”
https://news.upenn.edu/news/penn-researcher-looks-infertility-s-impact-women
"Several recent studies point to an increased social acceptance of women who choose to remain child-free in societies with greater gender parity. In other words, the larger the space women can occupy, the more opportunity there is for a variety of life choices for women. In places where women have greater power, there is less policing of the role of mother and room for a more inclusive view of how to be a woman."
http://www.latrobe.edu.au/news/articles/2016/opinion/social-exclusion-of-childless-women
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In other words - to me it seems like social exclusion of one type of person is not that different from social exclusion of another.
"Social exclusion at the individual level results in an individual's exclusion from meaningful participation in society. An example is the exclusion of single mothers from the welfare system prior to welfare reforms of the 1900s."
"Single mothers were previously marginalized in spite of their significant role in the socializing of children due to views that an individual can only contribute meaningfully to society through "gainful" employment as well as a cultural bias against unwed mothers."
"More broadly, many women face social exclusion."
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_exclusionYesterday's dream
Off the edge of a building and flying. First you were in a pool. Someone and you were in the same lane but swimming in opposite directions. Now you are on top of a building, looking down. He's talking about how people are swimming wrong. On the edge of the building, part of you wants to go back down there and swim (what a conversation we could be having...what a banquet, what a feast!) He is very busy getting people to do as he says. Bye. Off the roof and flying and getting closer to the ground. Oooh smog and traffic.Try not to land in the middle of the freeway. You land in a yard with a fence and a sign. It was painted by someone with feminist sensibilities. You know you won't remember exactly what it says so you take a picture of it. Turn around and see that a part of the yard has an easier way out because the fence is not there. Crawl out of the yard. Back on the street. Look at signs. Try to get a sense of direction, start to plan to make a phone call to someone you trust...
Friday, October 14, 2016
I believe
Many people can become more aware....
"Aniston argues that the way that the media defines her (through her romantic relationships and lack of children) speaks to the way women are judged more generally, particularly in relation to their desirability and ‘use by date’. “The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing,” she says. “The way I am portrayed by the media is simply a reflection of how we see and portray women in general, measured against some warped standard of beauty.”
http://junkee.com/jennifer-aniston-wrote-an-op-ed-about-the-disturbing-scrutiny-single-women-experience/81634#pQvUFXTxQQo8YeYp.99
In many cultures, childless women still suffer discrimination, stigma and ostracism. Infertility can transform from an acute, private distress into a harsh public stigma with complex and devastating consequences. An inability to have a child or to become pregnant can result in being greatly isolated, disinherited or assaulted. This may result in divorce or physical and psychological violence.
~ https://www.bellanaija.com/2016/09/merck-more-than-a-mother-supports-jackline-mwende-a-victim-of-infertility-stigma-in-kenya/
According to Vanderpoel, “the stigmatization can be extreme in some countries, where infertile people are viewed as a burden on the socioeconomic well-being of a community. Stigma extends to the wider family, including siblings, parents and in-laws, who are deeply disappointed for the loss of continuity of their family and contribution to their community. This amplifies the guilt and shame felt by the infertile individual,” she says.
~http://www.who.int/bulletin/volumes/88/12/10-011210/en/
""We want to break the stigma and silence around infertility and pregnancy loss," Gervon explains. "We want it to be something that people can talk about openly and not feel like it's something to be ashamed of or embarrassed by or that it is something that is wrong with them."
http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/health/ct-miscarriage-common-but-isolating-20161014-story.html
"Aniston argues that the way that the media defines her (through her romantic relationships and lack of children) speaks to the way women are judged more generally, particularly in relation to their desirability and ‘use by date’. “The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing,” she says. “The way I am portrayed by the media is simply a reflection of how we see and portray women in general, measured against some warped standard of beauty.”
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In many cultures, childless women still suffer discrimination, stigma and ostracism. Infertility can transform from an acute, private distress into a harsh public stigma with complex and devastating consequences. An inability to have a child or to become pregnant can result in being greatly isolated, disinherited or assaulted. This may result in divorce or physical and psychological violence.
~ https://www.bellanaija.com/2016/09/merck-more-than-a-mother-supports-jackline-mwende-a-victim-of-infertility-stigma-in-kenya/
~~~
According to Vanderpoel, “the stigmatization can be extreme in some countries, where infertile people are viewed as a burden on the socioeconomic well-being of a community. Stigma extends to the wider family, including siblings, parents and in-laws, who are deeply disappointed for the loss of continuity of their family and contribution to their community. This amplifies the guilt and shame felt by the infertile individual,” she says.
~http://www.who.int/bulletin/volumes/88/12/10-011210/en/
~~~
""We want to break the stigma and silence around infertility and pregnancy loss," Gervon explains. "We want it to be something that people can talk about openly and not feel like it's something to be ashamed of or embarrassed by or that it is something that is wrong with them."
http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/health/ct-miscarriage-common-but-isolating-20161014-story.html
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http://www.wnyc.org/story/donald-trump-billy-bush-and-troubling-way-men-talk-private/
E
http://thoughtcatalog.com/madison-moore/2014/02/why-men-objectify-women/
X
http://www.theonion.com/article/teenage-girl-blossoming-into-beautiful-object-31061
Y
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/young-people-close/201409/why-boys-objectify-girls
"I would like to propose that something else is being sold here...To men, they're being sold this idea constantly that they are sexual subjects. They are in the driver's seat. It makes them feel powerful to see images of objectified women everywhere. And for women, we are being sold this idea that this is how we get our value and that this is the way to become the ideal sex object, which is why instead of sex selling, these ideas of subjectivity and objectivity are being sold."
The Sexy Lie: Caroline Heldman at TEDxYouth@SanDiego
http://www.wnyc.org/story/donald-trump-billy-bush-and-troubling-way-men-talk-private/
E
http://thoughtcatalog.com/madison-moore/2014/02/why-men-objectify-women/
X
http://www.theonion.com/article/teenage-girl-blossoming-into-beautiful-object-31061
Y
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/young-people-close/201409/why-boys-objectify-girls
"I would like to propose that something else is being sold here...To men, they're being sold this idea constantly that they are sexual subjects. They are in the driver's seat. It makes them feel powerful to see images of objectified women everywhere. And for women, we are being sold this idea that this is how we get our value and that this is the way to become the ideal sex object, which is why instead of sex selling, these ideas of subjectivity and objectivity are being sold."
The Sexy Lie: Caroline Heldman at TEDxYouth@SanDiego
Absurdity embodied
It really is odd, to watch these women scrambling to defend their presidential candidate:
Do they just expect no better?
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Great.
Perhaps not.
Thursday, October 13, 2016
Vocational books for the young at heart
I was thinking about Cynthia Voight.
Okay actually I was thinking of a title, Seventeen Against The Dealer.
Hmmm.
https://marveloustales.com/2015/03/25/book-review-seventeen-against-the-dealer-tillerman-cycle/
http://www.angie-ville.com/2009/07/retro-friday-review-seventeen-against.html?m=1
Hmmm.
https://marveloustales.com/2015/03/25/book-review-seventeen-against-the-dealer-tillerman-cycle/
http://www.angie-ville.com/2009/07/retro-friday-review-seventeen-against.html?m=1
I never read this one.
Maybe it would be interesting to read.
The one I remembered was Tree By Leaf.
https://www.kirkusreviews.com/book-reviews/cynthia-voigt/tree-by-leaf/
https://www.kirkusreviews.com/book-reviews/cynthia-voigt/tree-by-leaf/
UyeahU
U: please observe this bulldozing technique, which is $$ assured
G: ok
Uuuus: hooray, U is gonna show us!
G: ok but...tool box
U: focus on the bulldozer
G: toolbox
U: bulldozer
G: toolbox
Uuuus: come on U shooow us!!
U: thank uuuus...i appreciate those attitudes which are the correct ones
Uuuus: yayyy!
G: but toolbox
U: Watch what U can do!
G: aaaah...toolbox...
U: here I go!
Uuuus: good U!
*Crunch*
G: toolbox! *sniff*
U: what, oh, oops
Uuuus: Mmmm
U: well that was unfortunate. Geez why didn't any Uuuus say something. Fortunately, bulldozers like me can afford to buy new toolboxes
Uuuus: yay, U!
U: aw, thanks u guys
Uuuus: the best bulldozer ever!
U: (modestly) well if uuuus work very hard uuuus can be just like U
Uuuus: Yay!!!!
U: no uuuus crying over toolboxes like little pussies, ha ha ha
Uuuus: ha ha! Ha ha! Ha ha!
G: ok
Uuuus: hooray, U is gonna show us!
G: ok but...tool box
U: focus on the bulldozer
G: toolbox
U: bulldozer
G: toolbox
Uuuus: come on U shooow us!!
U: thank uuuus...i appreciate those attitudes which are the correct ones
Uuuus: yayyy!
G: but toolbox
U: Watch what U can do!
G: aaaah...toolbox...
U: here I go!
Uuuus: good U!
*Crunch*
G: toolbox! *sniff*
U: what, oh, oops
Uuuus: Mmmm
U: well that was unfortunate. Geez why didn't any Uuuus say something. Fortunately, bulldozers like me can afford to buy new toolboxes
Uuuus: yay, U!
U: aw, thanks u guys
Uuuus: the best bulldozer ever!
U: (modestly) well if uuuus work very hard uuuus can be just like U
Uuuus: Yay!!!!
U: no uuuus crying over toolboxes like little pussies, ha ha ha
Uuuus: ha ha! Ha ha! Ha ha!
Wednesday, October 12, 2016
Maps
"Want to see something interesting about the election?"
"Um, maybe. Can I wait til after I eat?"
(Hmmm...this is a traumatic election...friends have told me that they had bad dreams because of it...I have had bad dreams, but I think it's more to do with fearful aspects of society in general...anyway...)
Ok, that seems not too bad...
http://fivethirtyeight.com/features/election-update-women-are-defeating-donald-trump/
AUUUGH OH MY GOD THAT MAP, THAT SECOND MAP WHY DID YOU SHOW ME THAT
"Um, maybe. Can I wait til after I eat?"
(Hmmm...this is a traumatic election...friends have told me that they had bad dreams because of it...I have had bad dreams, but I think it's more to do with fearful aspects of society in general...anyway...)
Ok, that seems not too bad...
http://fivethirtyeight.com/features/election-update-women-are-defeating-donald-trump/
AUUUGH OH MY GOD THAT MAP, THAT SECOND MAP WHY DID YOU SHOW ME THAT
D words
Perhaps if you are a person who wants to succeed in a culture that devalues and discriminates against women, and you have no interest in challenging or changing that culture, it is only too easy to go along with behavior that devalues and discriminates against certain people. That is depressing.
Monday, October 10, 2016
A movie
On Friday, a teenager yelled Help me and separated from his friend(?) and then continued following him down the street. On Sunday I found myself watching Spotlight.
"It won best picture." It was just on. I hadn't planned to, but I sat down a watched a lot (though not all) of it.
http://www.newyorker.com/culture/sarah-larson/spotlight-and-its-revelations
A long time ago in the mid 2000s in New York, I knew a guy from Boston who was very resentful of the church on behalf of some people...
"It won best picture." It was just on. I hadn't planned to, but I sat down a watched a lot (though not all) of it.
http://www.newyorker.com/culture/sarah-larson/spotlight-and-its-revelations
A long time ago in the mid 2000s in New York, I knew a guy from Boston who was very resentful of the church on behalf of some people...
Sunday, October 09, 2016
Ghost Trees!
This seemed appropriate to read after hearing stories of power outages and storms downing trees...
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/speaking-of-science/wp/2016/10/07/the-mystery-of-the-ghost-trees-may-be-solved/?tid=pm_national_pop_b
Phone pics of trees uprooted and a little explorer inspecting them...
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/speaking-of-science/wp/2016/10/07/the-mystery-of-the-ghost-trees-may-be-solved/?tid=pm_national_pop_b
Phone pics of trees uprooted and a little explorer inspecting them...
What's on your mind
T
"...as I reach the end of my thirties, the reality of how pathetic it actually is has become strikingly clear."~ http://www.esquire.com/news-politics/news/a49404/why-are-straight-men-so-obsessed-with-making-each-other-horny/
H
"If you want to get a raise or a promotion, you might want to throw on a pair of heels and suck in that belly."~ http://www.forbes.com/2009/12/05/appearance-work-pay-forbes-woman-leadership-body-weight.html
I
"8. Keep emotions out of it. Even if you feel like you’ve been treated unfairly and you’re angry that a male colleague with your job title and experience is making $20,000 more than you, keep your feelings in check."~ http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2015/10/15/how-women-should-ask-for-a-raise-2/2/#48bbea2c75fa
N
"One intriguing issue is the gender difference in noncognitive skills."
~ http://www.nytimes.com/2016/03/20/upshot/as-women-take-over-a-male-dominated-field-the-pay-drops.html
~ http://www.nytimes.com/2016/03/20/upshot/as-women-take-over-a-male-dominated-field-the-pay-drops.html
K
"JJ: Well, I can’t resist asking it..."~ http://fair.org/home/the-gender-pay-gap-follows-women-into-all-areas/
Saturday, October 08, 2016
What time is it now
Shift time. It's time to be that person in the bed with the tea and ginger who can be more highly focused on the soothing, healing stuff. SHIFT SHIFT SHIFT. Perhaps some people don't have bodies that give them that type of instruction. But some people do.
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HEALING WATERS
Bring me HUMOR
Well, I'm sure the "married father of three girls" will get lots of support from his family. You know how good the womenfolk are at being supportive. UGH.
Tic Tacs, ha ha.
~ http://www.rollingstone.com/tv/news/see-stephen-colberts-reaction-to-trumps-leaked-video-w444011
She is sorry.
~ http://www.rollingstone.com/tv/news/watch-samantha-bee-mock-donald-trumps-lewd-leaked-video-w444006
Tic Tacs, ha ha.
~ http://www.rollingstone.com/tv/news/see-stephen-colberts-reaction-to-trumps-leaked-video-w444011
She is sorry.
~ http://www.rollingstone.com/tv/news/watch-samantha-bee-mock-donald-trumps-lewd-leaked-video-w444006
Trees after a storm
Sister says they already got their power back, and people are cleaning up the tree debris in their yards...
Friend in a place without power is walking around with her daughter, looking at the fallen trees
Friend in a place without power is walking around with her daughter, looking at the fallen trees
Mother Nature news
People I know who were in places that they were advised to evacuate chose to stay...They are without power, but otherwise they are fine.
People I know who are in places that were supposed to be better are sending pictures of houses with roofs cut in half.
In some cases, I think some people left places to go to a safer place, and the safer place turned out to be more damaged.
People I know who are in places that were supposed to be better are sending pictures of houses with roofs cut in half.
In some cases, I think some people left places to go to a safer place, and the safer place turned out to be more damaged.
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In other news, I think I heard someone fly into a rage in a nearby apartment.
I thought, I am so glad I do not live with a raging man.
Also, I would like to live elsewhere.
writin'
Rosie wrote about something I'd never heard of before (bashert) in connection with this wealthy beautiful woman who also deserves a better father imo
IRL
Where the hurricane is
A friend and her daughter
Separated from partner / father
He wanted them to move out
He acts like he is having a great time
Only thinking of himself in the storm
He embodies the selfish gene
They just lost power
It's real life.
A friend and her daughter
Separated from partner / father
He wanted them to move out
He acts like he is having a great time
Only thinking of himself in the storm
He embodies the selfish gene
They just lost power
It's real life.
3:13 am
The hurricane news is old
Awake with heating pad for pain
I will ask people
What happened
This is real life
Awake with heating pad for pain
I will ask people
What happened
This is real life
Friday, October 07, 2016
NOW
It would be perhaps a good way to slack off homework by eating cookies and reading hurricane updates.
Like what about the cookies from a can. That you bake on a sheet.
But I might not really want cookies. I mean, cookies aren't even my favorite indulgence, really.
Hmmm. I have to think this through carefully.
Like what about the cookies from a can. That you bake on a sheet.
But I might not really want cookies. I mean, cookies aren't even my favorite indulgence, really.
Hmmm. I have to think this through carefully.
Another thing
Before I got to the less well-lit area, a woman handed me a card with some kind of website on it. It was about politics and progressivism, and people who want a change. She said it's for a lot of Bernie people, and it's people who don't want this ridiculous presidental election to happen again.
Well...I took it...but I was thinking that it's too bad more of the Bernie people weren't more attentive to gender equality and sexual discrimination and sexual harrassment which, as my walk home this evening proves, happens to young men too...NO Hillary wasn't perfect (Monica! Monica!) However, WOMEN who supported Bernie were under-attentive to those things.
Sorry, that's the impression I got...
I wasn't the only one...
OLD, but...
http://www.salon.com/2016/04/07/clintons_no_bunny_boiler_sanders_campaign_turns_to_80s_era_sexist_stereotypes_about_female_ambition_which_will_blow_up_in_his_face/
Anyway, that woman seemed nice, even though I have a feeling we weren't on the same page about some things. I fully intended to check out the website. But I was holding the card in my hand, and may have dropped it during the very unfortunate sexual harrassment street encounter.
Well...I took it...but I was thinking that it's too bad more of the Bernie people weren't more attentive to gender equality and sexual discrimination and sexual harrassment which, as my walk home this evening proves, happens to young men too...NO Hillary wasn't perfect (Monica! Monica!) However, WOMEN who supported Bernie were under-attentive to those things.
Sorry, that's the impression I got...
I wasn't the only one...
OLD, but...
http://www.salon.com/2016/04/07/clintons_no_bunny_boiler_sanders_campaign_turns_to_80s_era_sexist_stereotypes_about_female_ambition_which_will_blow_up_in_his_face/
Anyway, that woman seemed nice, even though I have a feeling we weren't on the same page about some things. I fully intended to check out the website. But I was holding the card in my hand, and may have dropped it during the very unfortunate sexual harrassment street encounter.
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"Friends"?
I was walking back through the streets at night and I saw two teenage boys in a yard / garden area. They were kind of scuffling but standing up. I was like, hmmm, and I gave them a look but kept my distance. I actually thought I could hear a whisper, like "I'm so scared." And then they ran up the street along side me, past me. They ran back down and one yelled at me, "He's sexually harrassing me. Help me." I stopped and looked at them, as they kept running down the street. I really felt very unprepared. I also wondered if it was just a joke. I thought of teenage boys in my high school, joking about stuff like that. But I decided to act like it was not a joke to me. I managed to yell, "Well, then STOP IT!" And the one who hadn't yelled said to the one who had, "I'm not touching you!" But I watched them and they started to walk apart and then they were walking with a big space between each other, one walking behind the other. And I thought, if the one who yelled wants to get away, why is he still following that guy down the street? But I also thought, it could be complicated. Maybe they are "friends." To be honest, I instinctively did not want to be around them. But after they disappeared, I walked down a block to see if I could see them. Would I yell something else if I did? How involved did I want to get? It was not a well-lit street. But I did not see them. This was the first time something like that happened to me, and especially when walking home at night. I know that it would be good to remember that teenage boys can get harrassed and I know it will be less of a surprise to me if it happens again.
Why do they do it.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/news/am-i-pretty/
Did they overhear someone say, "Wear make-up you'll make better tips that way."
"Unfortunately, multiple studies show that the amount someone is paid -- and in some cases whether or not they get the job -- is based, at least in part, on how they look."
~ http://www.salary.com/7-ways-your-looks-affect-your-pay/
Also, wear heels
7. Height - Tall people get paid more money.
~ http://www.salary.com/7-ways-your-looks-affect-your-pay/slide/2/
That weight thing again...
6. Weight
~ http://www.salary.com/7-ways-your-looks-affect-your-pay/slide/3/Salons heart blonds...
5. Hair Color
You’ve no doubt heard that blondes have more fun. Well, it turns out they also have more in their paychecks.As a bonus, the study also found blonde women marry men who earn an average of 6 percent more than husbands of women with other hair colors."
~ http://www.salary.com/7-ways-your-looks-affect-your-pay/slide/4/
"TOO ATTRACTIVE" ONLY COUNTS IF YOU'RE A WOMAN
"If you’re an attractive man, don’t sweat it because you always enjoy an advantage, according to a 2010 study that appeared in the Journal of Social Psychology. However, women rated as very attractive face discrimination when applying to "masculine" jobs."
~ http://www.salary.com/7-ways-your-looks-affect-your-pay/slide/8/
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