Thursday, May 29, 2014

The certain conversation

Today I overheard two young women talking about going out to clubs and the possibility of getting drinks laced with drugs.  It went something like this:

Young Woman  #1:

What I hate about going out to clubs and dancing is how some guy is always coming up and grinding on you. Some of my friends, I call them my "slutty-ho" friends, say, "Lets go dance by the table!" so they can get guys to buy them drinks. I did it once. I didn't feel the same after. You have to have a certain mindset. One of my friends, she's so dumb, she gets roofie'd all the time. It's happened to her, like, 6 times.  She'll  get some guy to buy her a drink, get drunk way faster than anyone else, and we're be like, "You got roofie'd again!"

Young Woman  #2:

So what happens to her? She gets roofie'd and some guy takes her home and...has his way with her?

Young Woman  #1:

No, she just goes home alone and wakes up with a splitting headache. God, she's so dumb.

Internet, after a certain conversation

"We are not the lovable nerdy protagonist who’s lovable because he’s the protagonist. We’re not guaranteed to get laid by the hot chick of our dreams as long as we work hard enough at it. There isn’t a team of writers or a studio audience pulling for us to triumph by 'getting the girl' in the end. And when our clever ruses and schemes to 'get girls' fail, it’s not because the girls are too stupid or too bitchy or too shallow to play by those unwritten rules we’ve absorbed."


From:

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/05/27/your-princess-is-in-another-castle-misogyny-entitlement-and-nerds.html


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https://medium.com/the-nib/3527fca60e90


Monday, May 26, 2014

"after"

walk in the heat at the hottest point of day to get sunglasses repaired
find a euphorbia milii
briefly talk about the heat with folks in lawn chairs drinking beer
move arms as if you're swimming and think about pools

The Pool
Zero Point

now you can be inside
now you can work

Dancers 1

Taken on World Bellydance Day 2014

Dancers 2

Taken on World Bellydance Day 2014

Roze Bloemen

Bedding Begonias

weird technology dream


A toaster oven that transmits messages.

http://www.lauriegmiller.com/2014/01/30-paintings-in-30-days-day-16-toaster.html

http://longstreet.typepad.com/thesciencebookstore/2011/04/history-of-dots-in-the-first-pictorial-image-printed-in-america-1670.html

(If you dream that a guy telegraphs a message via a kitchen appliance that he'll do his best to take care of his kid, it's probably a good sign...)

underwater

useful to read... http://time.com/114043/yesallwomen-hashtag-santa-barbara-shooting/

but then I felt like looking at an image of a woman diving into deep water and found

http://gettyimages.tumblr.com/post/29052511976/underwater-dive-hyang-kim-un-of-korea-competes


By Scott Cuomo

Thursday, May 22, 2014

I see the sunflower thing I learned a long time ago...

Winter ~ Tori Amos


mi corazon, mi esperanza

for good news soon and in the morning

http://tania-wildheart.blogspot.com/2011/04/friday-freebie-bunny-pillow-box.html

Song commute / baby wait

"Schoolyard Maypole Dance," May 4, 1946 by Doris Lee

My mind might be confused. My friend is in labor. I was playing around with the radio on the way home & heard the old 1960s "If you're going to San Francisco be sure to wear some flowers in your hair..." song. Then it faded out and got replaced with

Baby, baby, baby
I got a good reason
for you to come around...


And then the San Francisco song came back.
As soon as I came home, I looked up the lyric.

It's  from The Babies ~ Baby.

Then I looked up the show. (The Vegetable Garden, with The Gardener)

It said:

5:55pm
The Babies “Get Lost”
And before that 

5:54pm
Foxygen “SAN FRANCISCO”


Those are different songs! But maybe I heard them too?




and I am so much older now
my brother is a soldier now
I can't see him anyhow on hilltops in the wind


The last person I spoke with before my commute was a young man who just couldn't concentrate on his writing assignment about bullying and said he needed to call the VA...I was driving down the highway listening to something instrumental at around 5:30....

was it

Turn on the Sunlight






(Who you are? "I think you're bi-straight" said my Ukrainian friend. Actually, she's American, but her parents are from the Ukraine. What she said made sense to a voice in my head...reasoning: when you're little, you like girls. You get the feeling you're supposed to. You have your closest friendships with girls. You see that boys try to belittle girls. You want to stick up for girls. Girls are the best. Then...years and changes....You see another friend, your most conservative close friend, kiss a girl. "STRAIGHT GIRLS!" they say in the club about you and your other friend. NOT her.  But now, your friend who kissed a girl is in labor. She is giving birth to a girl. "I think you're bi-straight,"said my Ukrainian-born-in-America friend. It may be so.)



Fading light and crickets.

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Ay, defective DVD

Will have to postpone watching the rest of Bad Teacher until another evening...

http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/bad_teacher/pictures/#13

O ailing academia

http://america.aljazeera.com/watch/shows/america-tonight/articles/2014/5/19/why-college-rapevictimsdonatgotothepolice.html


Making a rape victim's friend write an essay from the perspective of the man who raped her is a new low...I guess that's one way to not feel too sad you didn't go to a pretty school.

This gave me flashbacks from when I worked in a restaurant with a woman who was training to be a police officer. She actually told me she didn't feel sorry for rape victims, because what did they expect when they went out at night dressed as sluts....


http://america.aljazeera.com/watch/shows/america-tonight/articles/2014/5/19/why-college-rapevictimsdonatgotothepolice.html

At least the restaurant co-worker said "Well, I'm not sure if I agree with me either," when I told her that I didn't agree with her.

Progress in baby steps.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Body & voice

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/style/wp/2014/05/19/of-critics-weight-and-standards/

"The Old Guard – those white European males we love to hate – was certainly in evidence in the British reviews of Glyndebourne’s new 'Der Rosenkavalier.' Five of them designated Tara Erraught’s Octavian as a problem with the show, more or less explicitly, based entirely on her looks."

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/style/wp/2014/05/19/of-critics-weight-and-standards/

http://whro.org/music/9-music/3867-in-2014-the-classical-world-still-can-t-stop-fat-shaming-women

Crumbly

http://whro.org/lifestyle/10-lifestyle/2921-bake-bread-like-a-pioneer-in-appalachia-with-no-yeast

I really feel like I've eaten this before (I can practically taste the crumbles in my mouth) but for the life of me, I do not know when.

Mexican circus music!





http://www.npr.org/2014/05/11/310121445/first-listen-pasatono-orquesta-maroma

"Yo soy maramero"
I am a one-man circus.
(Or perhaps, I am a fan of one-man circuses.)

http://whro.org/music/9-music/3569-first-listen-pasatono-orquesta-maroma

Floral components




http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/2012/03/29/van-goghs-sunflowers-were-genetic-mutants/



http://www.everydaygourmetbakery.com/the-benefits-of-sunflower-lecithin/



http://cakechooser.com

little dilemmas

NOT SO DISTANT PAST

Nice young man: I've underlined stuff in my book about Jennie's abusive upbringing, but like a fly attracted to sticky paper, my main interest is in talking about how she's a temptress who manipulates men.

At the end of our conversation: Coughing, apologizing, loosing my ability to speak.

Nice young man (in a reassuring tone): It's okay.

MORE RECENTLY

Young women: We thought about focusing on rape culture, but we went with police brutality instead.

A thought: I would like to show them the Rape Joke poem? Maybe?

Monday, May 19, 2014

Cyclamen

A flower I never used to notice and have a growing affection for...

http://www.cyclamen.org/graecum_set.html

From http://www.cyclamen.com/en/consumer/find-out-about-cyclamen/cyclamen-stories/flower-of-love-flower-of-art

 

"Rich stories about cyclamen

Did you know that the cyclamen was, with the columbine, one of the flowers of choice for Leonardo Da Vinci at the beginning of the 16th century, and he covered the margins of his manuscripts with it.

The 17th century Flemish painters scattered cyclamens on the meadows where Jesus had just picked some flowers under the watchful eye of the angels."

*****

"Jean-Jacques Rousseau spoke in his Promenades of the wild cyclamens he discovered in the Alps.

After obscurity in the 18th century, the cyclamen came back in fashion in the 19th century, when gardeners cultivated it in Grenelle, near Paris. Emile Gallé and the artists of the Nancy School made it one of their models for their prints and paintings."

*****

"And Robert Desnos sung about it too: 
'The cyclamen of Clamecy,
Who regrets Savoy so much,
Proclaim here, proclaim there,
At the top of his voice.
But he is on the right track,
The cyclamen will return to Savoy.'"


http://www.creativejewishmom.com/2011/03/gorgeous-signs-of-spring-in-the-galil-israel.html