What not-so-kind training did you receive as a child that you're now repeating and role-modeling?

I'm glad I had the kind of childhood that set me up to say, the white moms and the white dads got trained to act like they are the absolute worst at getting outside of their survival bubbles sometimes. I don't think you're doing that for the benefit your kids either. I think you're just doing that as a survival strategy because you don't want to investigate the programming that was poured into your brains. Because some of the people who "loved" you probably are the ones who did it, huh?