There's much to learn...

& there are many opportunities to find new ways of seeing things...

https://health.usnews.com/wellness/for-parents/articles/2017-01-09/secure-attachment-parenting-from-the-inside-out

This type of situation sounds so very sad...

 "About 5 to 15 percent of children in the U.S. exhibit a fourth type of attachment, called disorganized attachment. This is seen as a way of adapting to the unusual experience in which a parent is the source of terror. A deep, older part of the child’s brain’s survival reaction drives the child to move away from the source of terror: the parent. But a newer, mammalian part of the brain that mediates attachment drives the child toward the parent to be safe and soothed. Because of this paradox, the child’s mind fragments and their behavior freezes. With a parent being the source of terror and confusion, fear without solution is created, and there is no organized strategy the child can employ to address it. The child’s sense of self is fragmented due to this disorganized attachment relationship." ~ D. SIEGEL