It's good to meet somebody who knows how to listen when a lot of people were not encouraged to do so. A lot of people were encouraged to try to put their impressions of how things should be onto the world, instead of also learning from others who are different from them. And maybe they would also be able to feel good about growing and learning a little more about the world, as a result, if they enjoyed listening to what others were experiencing.
Parents have the ability to make their kids feel like their experiences are so unimportant just because they didn't align with their parents' expectations or their understanding of what one is meant to do with a life.
And then, if the kids get the message that their stories are not important enough to be listened to, then some of the kids will never want to tell them anything. No, because there's a lot that many people don't want to know about when it comes to what's happening in the world, and sometimes it happens to their kids or to other people's kids, and then sometimes those parents do not become people who are going to know how to listen. They become the people who expect others to change to suit their standards.
And then, maybe there is not enough room within in their psyches for some people to be able to feel that they can suit those standards. So that is a form of fragility that can feel very controlling and punitive and exclusionary.
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