It's good this is not you, but...

"Men don't need to be good at their jobs"

sommertothill 

https://youtube.com/shorts/HrMP7q8MPg4?si=D3oKp7peK0rDaTX1

It seems the system trains a lot of guys to be like this. And then it trains other people (both men and women!) to just magically unsee what's going on. Because magically unseeing what's going on is oftentimes what's most beneficial for them in the short term.

IMO the phenomenon of others being able to magically unsee what's going on is a real obstacle when your nervous system won't let you be as good at it as other people are. Other people aren't constantly on the lookout for the ones who are the predators, huh?

And not only looking out for who the predators are going to be, but who are the ones who are going to be making excuses for the predators and letting the predators keep on doing terrible things? 

A lot of people who were good at magically unseeing things are now financially set for the rest of their lives and enjoying their retirements.

Anyways, dads whose behavior towards women was casually sexist in the past, who now have daughters or sons, I really do hope your children don't feel the need to metabolize that kind of casual sexism just to ingratiate themselves with you and with certain aspects of our Patriarchal Society.

But you can at least give yourself some props for trying to understand other points of view and maybe have some more thought-provoking conversations than you were encouraged to have in the past.