Maybe the rich feminist guys who like to help will also explain macho neediness to the world?

Since a guy was holding a knife when he and a woman were loudly fighting outside last month, and she was begging him not to come inside the apartment, and it was truly a nightmare, and I felt that meant I had to call the cops, (HE SAID IT WAS JUST BECAUSE HE WAS TRYING TO GET IT AWAY FROM HER) I also did notice recently that I heard her voice threatening to call the cops on him if he didn't get out the other day. But I kept my head down and didn't look. Because I don't want to be involved. 

I hoped maybe they got therapy or something!

But tonight there's obnoxious selfish needy male energy being loud outside and reminding me that I want to move away soon.

I think maybe he blares music in his car when his girlfriend kicks him out.

Perhaps he is the same guy who was holding a knife the other month? (I didn't stick my head into his car or anything.)

In a way, this is like when I lived under the domestic violence couple in upstate NY...perhaps it's not as bad as that was, though. That guy didn't respect us (two college women) or the mother of his child one bit. Then, one day, The Landlord came by and talked to him about his behavior. 

Landlord also said he was speaking to him "As a father."

Made a difference! His behavior got better!

Glad we moved out soon thereafter anyway.

I feel like it used to be easier to move away and find a place, in less trying times.

Interesting interrupted thought: Do you ever wonder if some of today's dads ever hope you might hang out with, or date, or maybe even one day marry, dudes who were raised to be far more respectful of other humans than they and their friends were?

Well anyway, since I remembered that past experience, I just wondered what could happen if a large bodied Landlord Dad went out and talked to the loud, obnoxious, needy guy who gets on his girlfriend's nerves and then goes out and blares his music...

You know, instead of some dads getting sucked into being a part of macho misogynistic culture...and being part of the problem, just because being surrounded by patriarchal people who were raised to make excuses for abusive dudes was their version of what's "normal" in this life...

Wouldn't that be nice...if things were a whole lot different?

There was also the domestic violence couple in that apartment in Illinois...and the time I finally called the cops, and he got out! I never heard that abuse again.

Every situation is truly unique, isn't it?