It's kind of hard to get sentimental about motherly love sometimes.

Patriarchal culture sets people up (including some parents) to be dangerously tolerant of certain types of violence. 

So, when you know there are still a bunch of parents out there who got trained make excuses for rapists and rape culture and they can't seem to get motivated to address it, maybe because they're psychologically blocked, I think they're at the point where they could literally be a danger to others and themselves. 

The psychological violence that comes along with physical assault is incredibly traumatizing. And the patriarchy has trained them to pretend violence is tolerable so they can fit in with cultural norms and  be really insensitive about violence, so much so that it actually becomes a safety issue.

If they still need to act like not caring about what happens to your kids or to you is normal, that makes you more unsafe, but it's also very bad for them, and it makes them more unsafe too. However, they want to feel socially accepted so that is where their delusion of safety lies.