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Friday, March 31, 2017

Healthywomb

The right side of my uterus is hurting so that's always interesting on a Friday.

Thursday, March 30, 2017

Tonight: MUD!

I'm delighted I finally get to finish watching MUD.


Mud Trailer

"A bold, intelligent, 21st century take on Mark Twain — with added occult tendencies." ~ Dan Jolin


"To Kill A Mockingbird"..."Stand By Me"


PLUS
Take a road trip.

This evening: HEARTING EASTER CANDY!

I like Easter candy! she thought to herself as she flipped through the See's catalog.(They only get an order once a year, but they will try to extract any change you get.) Of course, there was also that thought about how nice it was to spend an evening among men and women who were creative and relaxed and interested and not feel the need to have to make excuses for boys club type behavior...

BUT --- EASTER CANDY!

Remember how much fun it was as a kid?
Before living as a grown-up made you into a raving feminist!

Just be happy with the thoughts of Easter Candy!

Pretty colors. Nice pictures.

Wild, fantastic speculation

Maybe people who become better at accepting differences in their own communities and country would also be better at doing so when interacting with other communities and countries.

I can feel it...

You had better be nice to your body today! You had better...

We're almost...!!!

Old things again

I woke up. I had dreams before you betrayed me. You gossiped and you put money first and you took things for granted and you revealed an old-fashioned stubbornness and you devalued me. How can I ever want to emulate this. Why did you choose that. It makes me tired to think of your justifications.

One time I wrote something else...it was very different.

Impulse Genie

I want a cleaner house and I want to go swimming. (Also Mary Poppins, no more PCOS, and legs that magically shave themselves but maybe two of those are attainable.)

It's weird, too...

When you know people who are (or can be) very nice people in certain contexts, and then you experience another side to them. X can be a whole other person. THAT is the downfall.

Mirror on the wall, which...environment...

seems LEAST BIASED OF ALL?

Because if you go into one of the more BIASED ones you might have to really change (in very specific ways.)

But are those ways actually relevant...or are they arbitrary and based on certain people's personal preferences?

"I prefer to work with x types of women. I don't come outright and say it. I just show it in my words and behavior. I do not place this same arbitrary personal preference on men."

That makes me feel sick and unhappy.

Everytime I go into one type of environment and do not feel that (Yay! It's a relief! It's like a burden has been lifted! Women in this environment don't have to make excuses for those guys' immaturity or fit into a certain mold or act in certain ways to placate these dudes'  egos) it just makes the other stuff in the other environment feel that much more apparent.

It's not the best food dream

That time they give you free food based on how young and cute you looked...Can you feel all the positivity happening as the magicalness takes over? Suddenly you will be positive, slender, and full of compliments to make men feel good about themselves.

Just ignore that dream.

And also, ignore this; it's far too depressing

http://pitchfork.com/thepitch/861-we-need-to-talk-about-amy-winehouses-eating-disorder-and-its-role-in-her-death/

And not pretty, which is probably why it wasn't  huge in the documentary.

http://www.bbcamerica.com/anglophenia/2015/10/adele-i-wish-i-hadnt-seen-amy-winehouse-documentary

I wonder where people get it

That stamina to continue through situations which could have been better, but people's awful biased behaviors and their prejudicial decisions made them expert at just ruining things.

I know discrimination is bad. I know because I went to the store to buy something to feel better and I ate three cupcakes without even trying.

One.
Two.
Three.

I mean, I only meant to eat one.

And not just medical professionals, I thought

"How can women be better advocates for themselves in the face of medical professionals who may not take them seriously?"

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/your-pain-is-not-real-how-doctors-discriminate-against-women

An interesting question.

(This is not to discount the good experiences.)

Hmmm.

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/the-wage-gap-isnt-just-keeping-women-poorerits-making-them-sicker

"Women are not going to forget that a group of male elected officials met in the White House...in an effort to pass the worst bill for women's health in a generation."

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/the-acaand-the-americans-who-rely-on-itwill-live-to-see-another-day

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Patience

Mysterious pains are so awesome at getting my attention that it's kinda miraculous in a way.

I see

Guess who's been not the nicest to her body.
Me.

Guess who's responsible for being much better to her body.
Me.

Guess who is going to get better about really listening to her body.
Me.

I have to get back to her

My Inner Healer.
Wow, I am sorry.
I have many apologies.
I really need to treat her better.
Thank you....(I get reminders.)

Beveragement

I had the good plan to wake myself up with caffeine and buckle down on the studies but went with an espresso drink instead of tea and accept a sample of "Nitro" something. Oh no....

Ha, what's this.
https://armyhistory.org/all-we-could-be-how-an-advertising-campaign-helped-remake-the-army/

EAR worm SABATOGE.
Be. All. That. You. Can. Be.

It's so chemical.

It's Okay. It will wear off soon.

Maybe.

Maybe it's kinda like that tree fall question

XY:
"You don't know why I deal with situations the way I do because you didn't grow up in my house."

XX:
"You don't know why I deal with situations the way I do because you didn't grow up in my house."

Tasty breakfast

2 eggs in a frying pan with EVO, shredded cabbage, carrots and raw sauerkraut.
Well, I thought so.

Traffic wasn't too bad...

Saw a nifty show!


No good pictures of the soul train.

These poor dears...


Saturday, March 25, 2017

Desperate

I left my wallet / ID at home.
Can I show them my gray hair.

Sweet

When you walk in and almost bump into the lead singer??? :-)

Still don't understand how it got to this...

http://m.motherjones.com/politics/2017/03/trump-health-care-summit-white-guys

I also don't understand all the excuses for and tolerance of exclusionary, bullying behavior in many aspects of life, by people who could and should know better.

I think maybe it's because some people grew up accepting "toughness" as a coping mechanism. But when it makes you mistreat other people, it's not the best of who you are.

Parable possibilites

But patriarch, why are you always making excuses for the prodigal son? Don't worry my child, he has come home and will be far more feminist in the future!

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke+15%3A11-32

Just kidding. The bible wasn't written by feminists.

You're not a f-word, but...

You are in a place and you like being there, but some of the behavior feels disrespectful and unnecessary. This makes it unwelcoming. But keep in mind that if you are a woman, you can still excel in this environment. As long as you don't upset certain people, and you continue to give them compliments and make excuses when they act like bullies, you are pleasing them. You are "the right fit" for them. You are almost like "one of the guys." You are a good girl. You should value them and what they value the most.

If they behave in discriminating ways, you should ignore it or deny it happens. Definitely don't instigate a conversation about it. Because would you rather have a conversation about how to make things more equitable? Or would you rather just tell a joke and let things slide and bask in feeling accepted?

This is just how they do things here. This is just the way it is. Do you really want to challenge them on that, especially if they won't like it and it could have negative repercussions? Isn't it just better to go along with how they do things, won't you be rewarded for doing so?

Another feature: Bonding over a love of excluding others who don't think the same way. Let's get rid of that one with different opinions. Are you better off now?

Do you want more women to work in this discipline? Or do you prefer things stay the way they are because it suits you just fine?

Message: We don't discriminate against all women. We just discriminate against certain kinds of women.

Caveat: "We" could be men but also some women.

People used to say "I'm not a feminist, but..." a lot more in the past.

Who is C.S. Adler

This is horrifying...

Think any kids are having trouble coping with reality right now?

I have been thinking of an old book: Goodbye Pink Pig

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/708206.Good_Bye_Pink_Pig

I thought there would be more reviews online!

I found  a sequel and also this one:
The No Place Cat.

What it was maybe

I woke up and I felt better and I know why. I got to experience a good presence in my dream. It is old! It was me and my old friend...Or me and my old almost friend but we broke apart before we got to be as good of friends as we could have been. This stuff is hard. There is an ideal of peaceful communication I wish we could live up to. Anyways. It was a good dream because we were able to be more harmonious somehow. It's like praying.

Maybe it's the sleep deprivation

Headache: there are some types of people that I have met in this life who have a lot of potential to be really great communicators if they would cut out some of the controlling and bullying tactics that they've discovered give them some kind of a quick-fix power rush (?) It's actually like an indicator of how sadness that is not allowed to be expressed gets turned into some kind of control /anger thing. My very least favorite thing about it is all the time I spend agonizing how I can find the way to get through to them that it is worth it to them and everyone if they could find ways to be more respectful in their manner of communicating and listening to other viewpoints. That agonizing stuff is the worst. It's like it goes around in a circle and it's terrible to get stressed out and have nothing to show for all that time.  Maybe some guy can go talk to them...or someone of any gender who doesn't have the giant headache I have now. There are many guys in this world who are great and easy to talk to and do not have that problem and I am grateful for them. I am also grateful I get to live with such a person.

HONESTLEEEE

I would like to move away from the domestic fights. (Not in this house. In other ones).  One time I came home and cops were around and asked me about fighting.

Maybe I will make some things and send packages. That's a cheery thought.

Alternatively...




Ha ha.

O--Organ

Why do you exist, ovary.
There you are being twingy again.
Ovary.

Do you want to live in a world where people treat you better?

A kid's book:
Your friendly ovary.

Is it wise

To even read this editor's tweet about healthcare.

(And then Mr. Rogers said, look around for the people who care enough not to treat you like you are useless to them. Look for those people.)

Maybe someday

He will be good at not accidentally discriminating against people.

Someday when it actually matters to him.

Don't get distracted

"I am a better person than Trump." Oh but there's still so much to improve.

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Interruptions interrupted

Corporeal pain.
Can it be fixed??
Time for light and healing stuff.
Again...

Conversation situations

I was wondering why this is a thing:  I spoke with a man who had been so intensely positive towards me and then so intensely negative that it made me feel sick. Then all of a sudden, there he was again blasting me with positive greeting, but actually he didn't want to talk to me. So he moved on and found someone he really wanted to talk to (another guy). They had the best time talking. I bet he doesn't blow hot and cold with that guy. This didn't make me forget...

And in a group of young women and men, both of the young men seemed like they were genuinely interested in talking about feminism and discrimination with one woman who had instigated the question. Another woman was neutral, but the other three women didn't seem to want to talk about it because.... ????

(A guess: Because maybe if they don't talk about it, they won't have to actually deal with it.)

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Thoughts before bed...

I want a new life. I want to be cleansed of old things. I want to be who I am originally, which is someone who is full of curiosity and is not so wounded. I want to be brave on bad days. I want to go swimming.  I want to see with wiser eyes. I want to be better at moving on but not lose possibilities for better outcomes if they exist (don't they? Ok I think they could...) I have experienced heartsickness but so have others... Sometimes messages come in unexpected ways...

(For example, I was listening to 100.3 at 10 am and they played clips from 1970...well, maybe it was of a protest or something on a college campus...I know some people died at a very young age back then. I think it put mortality in the back of my mind all day.)

But then the fun music came on...
(Lola, Mama Told Me Not To Come)

I know

I am a silly open-hearted person at heart.
Maybe nature likes that sometimes.

I want things to get better

http://www.nationaldaycalendar.com/2017/03/20/march-21-2017-national-fragrance-day-national-common-courtesy-day-national-california-strawberry-day-national-single-parent-day-national-french-bread-day-national-ag-day/

Alternative acronyms

Sad or not so sad? Poisoned Cormorants Of Spring versus Pretty Courageous Or Scandalous

Life in a certain kind of body

After reading some things I wanted a song to listen to...

T.A. cover ~ Don't Look Back


Are you going to tell her it's more important to be thin?

"There’s no question women pay a social price for excess weight, Song says. 'They suffer more in terms of educational attainment, they suffer more in terms of occupational status and income, and they suffer more in terms of finding a partner in their life. And women with higher socioeconomic status suffer even more. They have to face even more rigorous societal expectations,' Song says."

http://www.futurity.org/gender-weight-status-1374502-2/

Are you going to tell her she needs to be on very, very good behavior?

"An analysis of performance evaluations from junior male and female attorneys at a Wall Street firm concluded that ratings dropped for women who didn’t display 'interpersonal warmth.'

“'They’re out of line, breaking the rules, violating the ‘shoulds’ of gender stereotypes,' says Heilman. 'The issue is not: are they that way or not that way. The issue is: men and women are probably behaving exactly the same but women are taking a hit.'”

https://www.fastcompany.com/3031101/the-new-subtle-sexism-toward-women-in-the-workplace

Mark this remarkable day

National Fragrance Day
National Common Courtesy Day
National California Strawberry Day
National Single Parent Day
National French Bread Day
National Ag Day

Monday, March 20, 2017

21st century jobs

Professional menu-wiper
Professional teeth-gnasher at night
Professional imaginer-of-being-in-other-places
Other

Research is weird

Looking at documents from other centuries can make you feel like a whole different person.Kind of awesome and opensome. It's like what meditation does for some people. Actually it's what meditation could do for me, also...

But as for research...I literally feel big worlds opening up to me when I look at old documents sometimes!

Cat story

One time a dark, very round cat was meowing around our house and woke me up in the early am.

And then the next night, a black cat who is not so big was meowing at about the same time.

And then I made up a story that maybe the round cat was pregnant and the black cat told her to go to us but we didn't let her in so the black cat came around to chastise us.

The end.

Okey-dokey

WELL.

https://twitter.com/FingersUpforDT/status/843880168665960456

I guess that's enough for now...gotta go do something positive, like go grocery shopping. WHEE...shopping for food...FUN TIMES!!!!

Plus, it's spring equinox!

Recipe for Inequity


Be an XYcentric man 
Be an XYcentric woman 
Make fun of Environmentalists
CARE about MONEY more than anything else
Make fun of people who care about animals 
Only praise people who pamper your ego
Be very, very, very self-interested 
Be careless because you can be
Care less
UGH

WHY DO YOU EVEN WANT TO BE LIKE THAT

Which organs

This how some people can be:
You use your illness as an excuse.

This is how it looks to others:
You use your standards as an excuse to be hard, insensitive, exclusionary.

It feels like organs are suffering.

In environmental news

It's a heartache and a challenge. Experience brings out certain feelings (you can grow though) and it's  like seeing that there are grown men who act like boys and expect to keep doing so, and there are women who go along with them for a plethora of reasons. (Money maybe?) Being one of the ones who can't go along with that behavior can be a genuinely shattering experience. (Just another brick...) As I go elsewhere and observe others I thank them for being more willing and more trustworthy.  (This could be you too). It's a world of people who have potential to make change happen and everyday they make choices...(are you making them now???)

Sunday, March 19, 2017

How to be a song pickee

Feel tired and pick a song or let a song pick you. Actually it feels like a song picks you. Here's one from the 80s. Maybe you were tired like this back then too. This is silly, though.

OK, could be

So get him the help he needs, including no longer being stuck with duties he is very ill-suited to perform.

https://www.good.is/features/donald-trump-mental-illness-al-anon

Sunday morning reading

about whatever this was or wasn't about...

"The Cherokee leadership hoped the decision would persuade the federal government to intervene against Georgia and end the talk of removal. Georgia ignored the Supreme Court's ruling, refused to release the missionaries, and continued to press the federal government to remove the Cherokees. President Jackson did not enforce the decision against the state and instead called on the Cherokees to relocate or fall under Georgia's jurisdiction. (Although Jackson is widely quoted as saying, "John Marshall has made his decision; now let him enforce it," his actual words to Brigadier General John Coffee were: "The decision of the supreme court has fell still born, and they find that it cannot coerce Georgia to yield to its mandate.")

In 1835 a dissident faction of Cherokees signed a removal treaty at the Cherokee capital of New Echota. In 1838 the U.S. Army entered the Cherokee Nation, forcibly gathered almost all of the Cherokees, and marched them to the Indian Territory in present-day Oklahoma, in what became known as the Trail of Tears."

 ~ http://www.georgiaencyclopedia.org/articles/government-politics/worcester-v-georgia-1832

Saturday, March 18, 2017

Yeah, Piety

"A woman who had been bleeding for 12 years came up behind Jesus and touched his clothes in hope of a cure. Jesus turned to her and said: “Fear not. Because of your faith, you are now healed.”
Then spoke Pious Paul of Ryan: “But teacher, is that wise? When you cure her, she learns dependency. Then the poor won’t take care of themselves, knowing that you’ll always bail them out! You must teach them personal responsibility!'"

~ https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/16/opinion/and-jesus-said-unto-paul-of-ryan.html?_r=0

BLEED

"At last, a chance to take people’s health insurance away."

~ http://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/2017/3/17/14960358/paul-ryan-medicaid-keg

Where are we

I am tired and I feel like crying but also happy I had a great walk. Oh. Everything.

Ha ha ha

ha ha

http://www.cnn.com/2017/03/17/politics/trumps-irish-proverb-nigerian-poem/

ha ha

http://mashable.com/2017/03/17/trump-irish-proverb-poem-history-nigeria/#XNpZPuo2x5qf

HAAAAAA!!!!!

Is there going to be an "As we stand together with our Irish friends, I'm reminded of that proverb" re-mix/mash-up?

Oh no.

Just more attention.

Again!

"And this is a good one.
This is one I like.
I've heard it for many, many years..."

A HAPPY THOUGHT?


SOMEDAY

"This budget will make America a lean, mean fighting machine with bulging, rippling muscles and not an ounce of fat. America has been weak and soft for too long. BUT HOW WILL I SURVIVE ON THIS BUDGET? you may be wondering. I AM A HUMAN CHILD, NOT A COSTLY FIGHTER JET. You may not survive, but that is because you are SOFT and WEAK, something this budget is designed to eliminate."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/compost/wp/2017/03/16/trumps-budget-makes-perfect-sense-and-will-fix-america-and-i-will-tell-you-why/?utm_term=.19de644503f7

HE WILL NOT BE IN THAT OFFICE
OR ANYWHERE NEAR IT

Questionable

"McComic says she has never trusted a president the way she trusts Trump."

~ https://newrepublic.com/article/141404/trumps-betrayal-voters-wont-stick

Even though it literally makes me nauseous to read this stuff,

"Given the near absence of women's health in the budget's current form, it appears that women's needs have been an afterthought..."

~ https://www.romper.com/p/how-would-trumps-budget-affect-pregnant-women-womens-health-could-be-at-stake-45107

I just did it again.

Sometimes knowledge is like this

It was different once. I know things now I didn't know then. I know that some are capable of treating people poorly simply because of arbitrary personal preferences. It still amazes me, the idea that they choose not to see how harmful it is. That behavior is not what I want to emulate.

Observations

I have never watched Gilmore Girls, but...those who have may find this actress's reappearance in another show to be intriguing...

"In the militarized, dystopian future of The Handmaid’s Tale, women have been stripped of all their rights; those who have the ability to procreate are drafted to service the men who lead the Republic. In a world stricken by an epidemic of sterility, these 'handmaids' like Offred and Ofglen (literally named for the men who keep them—Fred and Glen) are treated like both prizes and slaves."

http://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2017/01/alexis-bledel-the-handmaids-tale-hulu-ofglen



OH AND ALSO

"Women are particularly impacted by changes in health care, she said, since they often have more complicated reproductive health needs and they also make many decisions about health care for children. 'The last thing we need to do is cut the resources of the department that’s going to be in charge of reshaping our health-care system,' Ness said. Trump’s budget blueprint suggests reducing the budget for the Department of Health and Human Services by nearly 18% to $69 billion. Separately, Trump has made it clear he wants to strip Planned Parenthood of federal funds."

http://www.marketwatch.com/story/how-trumps-budget-proposals-could-impact-women-2017-03-17

Why do

I wake up so early and feel this way? Why do people make excuses for discriminatory actions and behavior? Why continue to discriminate against people? Is it a hyper-focus on your own personal preferences and money that makes it all possible? You had choices and you could have chosen differently, maybe you were even close to choosing differently but you made those choices...why did you....????

Thursday, March 16, 2017

Fix

I'm going with frozen raspberries and cherries and almond milk and coconut nectar in a teacup tonight.

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Is this what I think it is

Is this Huckabee actually comparing the situation between Trump and the Hawaiian judge to Andrew Jackson and the Native American genocide...and siding with Trump and Andrew Jackson????

https://twitter.com/GovMikeHuckabee/status/842159481601593345

GO JUDGE

"A federal judge in Hawaii issued a nationwide order Wednesday evening blocking President Trump’s ban on travel from parts of the Muslim world, dealing a stinging blow to the White House and signaling that Mr. Trump will have to account in court for his heated rhetoric about Islam."

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/15/us/politics/trump-travel-ban.html

Tears of a clown president.

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Happy Napping Day

You can nap today.

http://fortune.com/2017/03/13/national-napping-day/

That was yesterday but you can still nap today.

What is to be done

The awfulness of internalized misogyny, whereby women treat themselves and also other women badly, and men treat feminine aspects of themselves with disdain, in order to succeed in a depressing, patriarchal paradigm.

Values are shown in how people treat you

A team of inclusiveness is my favorite, and the opposite is a depressing let down of what could be or could have been. If "winning" for some people  means excluding people, feeding fragile egos and being on a team where gossip, belittling and discrimination runs rampant, I would rather not. I would rather be on the "losing $" team.

Values, values, values. What are they for? To guide us to treat people better and live purposeful lives.

Sometimes people seem to just want an echo chamber

Liberal ECHO Conservative ECHO WE think samely ECHO about EVERYTHING ECHO ECHO ECHO ECHO ECHO ECHO

What is not healthy

It is not healthy to imagine that a group of people will come up with a myriad of ways to justify discriminatory behavior because they don't want to change, and they don't want to admit that they discriminate against people.

It is not fine to discriminate against people just because...

they think differently than you
they do not have as much money as you have
they do not participate in the same recreational activities that you do
they have an illness you don't understand
they have different physical abilities
they have a speech impediment
they do not flatter your ego

When I eat healthy

I like the vegan burrito bowl thing with romaine, rice, beans, salsa, guacamole. Maybe or maybe not a splash of hot sauce or some nutritional flakes. I also like frozen berries/cherries with unsweetened almond milk (maybe or maybe not a little bit of coconut syrup as a sweetener.) This video...

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cL-sfV0diB4

Sleep love

Going to sleep...Sleep...Sleep...
Succumb to beautiful, wonderful sleep.

What's the issue?

I feel like choosing love of nature over money is the better direction. Choosing money over nature makes it easier for people to be selfish and unethical and then they discriminate against others and indulge in destructive behavior patterns. I have to go... when I forget how lovely and healing it can be, I have to go back to having a walk in some kind of peaceful place...and people point out nature's not always nice... But sometimes IT IS.

Thursday, March 09, 2017

This is muuuu

sical


Cut Chemist ~ 2266 Cambridge

An old song

German healing song - trying to figure out the words

Heilen heilen zeigen...

(I got that part)

drei tage regen

(figured that out too) 

immer (more mer?) besser sein

(not sure...the "immer?" and the "more mer" part)

Good Ad

OF COURSE WE LIKE WORKING WITH WOMEN.

WE LOVE WORKING WITH WOMEN.

YOU KNOW HOW WE LIKE TO DO THINGS AROUND HERE.

Woke up early again

Learning Experiences:

1) Sometimes people get rewarded for bullying behavior.

2) Sometimes, for a complex variety of reasons, people find it easier to just "go along" with a culture and keep their heads down then to make changes.

3) Monetary reward is not a substitute for treating people fairly.

Wednesday, March 08, 2017

True Greatness

There is something truly great about lying back in bed after a busy day and letting a fan blow some wind on you.

Sometimes I miss politeness

Even if they were facades.
Or maybe they were just nicer, more harmonious ways of being.

How Ethical?

"Well, it's very simple. See if I have women working with me, I just expect them to feed me lots of compliments, like all of my same hobbies and praise me for them, ignore or go along with all of my immature behaviors,  and in turn I will reward them..."

Goals

Better care....This country has a healthcare crisis...I think people should take better care of their health in all aspects and I want to get better at it too... (Heilen heilen zeigen)

It occurred

This is how some people deal with conflict:
Are you ever in a confusing situation where you don't feel altogether in control and you don't know exactly what's going on? Wow. Thsts not comfortable. What are you gonna do about that. Well, be A MAN about it. No Excuses. Make A Decision and stick to it, even if it means being a jerk. Now you are In Control again. Congratulations. YOU are A Real Man now. (But why. It's ridiculous. There are better ways than that.)

Blah

It's early. I will need to make an appointment to be seen about the tooth. I cough. It's early. I can still get some sleep. Sometimes when people are sad or angry about feeling discriminated against, it can make them sick. It's a sad situation. It's stressful. Because you think, what can you do. Maybe you should just ignore it. (Did you try that? Did it work?) "Get over it." That's what they want you to do. Get over it. Move on. They are not going to help you. But that's sad. These are people you gave time to. These are people you thought would be helpful. People believe their own personal preferences should direct things, instead of valuing inclusiveness. They don't actually set out to exclude, but they do. Then they get mad that you are calling them on it. Why can't you just be a good sport like so and so. Maybe it would be better to just get over it. Move on. Go elsewhere. But it feels unresolved. It feels like this stuff will keep on happening and the motive to change will not be there and others will be devalued. How tiresome it us. Is it really that hard??? Just go elsewhere. It's stressful. I hope I never make someone feel like that.

Tuesday, March 07, 2017

It's really great

To see a cat curled up in her bed after she eats, purring.
It just IS.

Let's go heal

A TOOTH

Let's go heal a tooth
Let's go heeeal a tooooth...

~~~~~

Something to think about:

"What is the nature of suffering when you consider racism, sexism, homophobia, and on? The nature of such suffering is that it is everyone’s suffering and not just those who express the pain of it."

"Art is growth"

That was my favorite thing I heard this evening!!!! And I had some fun, too. But something else is still going on. One: I have a toothache. And I'm worried about it and about health care. Two: I know that there are still men who will alienate people and not take any responsibility for it while seeming to exist in a bubble of privilege, and it is unfair. The stuff that's going on in this country...well, I guess it doesn't matter to them very much.

Sometimes I think, I am so glad at least I won't alienate people in that way. At least I am not in a white guy privilege bubble. But also I know that things are on a spectrum. Maybe the ones that aren't very inclusive should take some workshops from the ones that are inclusive. They are there there! Get some pointers from the nice guys who have curiosity about alternate viewpoints. They are out there. I don't even know why would you even want to alienate someone in that kind of systemic oppressive way? WHY? It does you no good to do so.

That system of privilege is fragile. If it wasn't fragile, their egos would not be so fragile. It's worth it to take the time to get to know other points of view, and not just expect people to vomit compliments all the time. Why do you need that? What do you get out of that. You're the beneficiary of a fragile system and it's not even very good for you either! But you don't want to see how it is for others.

I feel like it is impossible sometimes. It's hard.

It's worth it to take time to listen to other viewpoints.


Maybe there could be a new race

"Race for the cure of 'societally sexist self-absorption" --- not limited to any one gender. Open to all. Cruelty happens when people are willfully ignorant of their discriminatory practices and harmful behaviors.

Post-dream

I feel sorry for guys who don't even know they are treating women like crap. I do. Maybe this can also apply to women who treat other women poorly, too. There is some immature ridiculousness in this world, said the dream.

Maybe you would

Have a dream like this if you were born in a different body: I dream that I am doing housework around some people. After sweeping the floor, a garrulous man starts talking at me about how good I look, how nice my outfit, how everyone noticed I have lost weight, until I say, you know what I am going to go put on a jacket. "Shhh! Be quiet! She's going to put on a jacket" say his cadre of male friends. Then I put a jacket over a body that in real life I haven't had since I was 21 or so. I mean honestly. What kind of a dream is that?

Purpose purpose purpose

"What could be worse than a pack of old, white men, along with their subordinate wives, daughter, and campaign manager, preaching about what a woman’s 'most important job is'?"


BECAUSE
https://twitter.com/josidenise/status/829806202456571905

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"Somebody call the waaaamublance! I hear a lady crying because she’s married to a sexist toad!"