Mothering

Sometimes I think "we the people" in this society really need to learn how to mother ourselves better. Both men and women. Honestly, the horror that some people have of "weak, feminine" behavior can be quite alarming. Men can definitely have maternal qualities. I have seen it. But in certain social circles, men are encouraged and expected to kill this side of themselves. Sometimes even women are supposed to be tough and "just as good as a man." Well, you are just as good as a man. If you are a woman who can do the same amount of push-ups as a man, how awesome, and you are. But if you can't do the same amount, you still are. Not at push-ups, maybe, but that's not the whole of life.

This was one of those "I'm your uterus and I'm gonna talk to you about pain" mornings and it made me feel that it would be better to live in a society where women with certain health issues are allowed to express what they are going through, rather than sweeping it under the carpet, as was expected in the past. And when I think of situations where people might decide it is best to cut off contact with someone who they knew had certain issues, well, there may be good reasons, but nonetheless it is quite sad. If things get weird its not like you have to do a ton of hanging out, but you can extend basic courtesy, rather than fleeing. People who must exclude someone based on fear of that person's problems may have certain issues of their own that they are not willing to admit.

It just makes me all the more appreciate people who have the voltage....ha ha...meant to say courage, but why not voltage? That could be appropriate too! Anyways, these people are to be celebrated.  I do see that now, better than I used to. This is the benefit on focusing on the positive. And this is also one of those things where it's easy to be upset about life's unfairness, but it would probably be wiser to cultivate compassion. You cannot control how others behave, and you may not understand exactly what made them make that decision. And maybe to them, there are very good reasons for why they choose what they choose. But if you don't know, it's more difficult to understand why. People with problems who are outside the majority/ norm deserve to be treated fairly, not stigmatized or shunned.

Anyways, maybe society will encourage more self-mothering in the future?
And what about for now? Yoga / healthy food / positive changes / everything? Making tea. Had salad for breakfast.