Hardness in the world

"in my family, female suffering is linear: abuse is passed down like the world’s worst birthright, largely skipping the men and marking the women with scars, night terrors (and fantastic senses of humour)."

 ~ http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/may/28/jessica-valenti-my-life-as-a-sex-object 

That sounds familiar. Why is that.

Also, in so many places, still... If a man agitates, he's speaking out for progress. But if a woman agitates, she's ungrateful and has a bad attitude. So you better change your attitude, hadn't you? Why is is that women are rewarded more for listening to others and praising and being grateful. Women have to earn the right to be listened to by first doing those above things so the gatekeepers (and yes, they could be men, but they could also be women unconsciously subscribing to the same doctrines) reinforce the status quo over and over and over, but men don't have to do that as much.

Why does this situation still happen:
Man speaks: Oh your thoughts are automatically so worthy and interesting!
Woman speaks: zoooone out...look elsewhere...not listening to you today...

This is how it seems to me lately.

The other day, some young women were telling me about a man who routinely targets and harasses women. They told me that a woman with authority will just scold him for it like a child. They say he's done this for years. They have no confidence that he will change his behavior. The younger women were not happy. They don't want him to be scolded. They want him gone, out of their environment. I know people who have recently experienced very unfair work situations with male superiors. It wears one down. Then there are all the little subtle things that maybe wouldn't be so bad if there weren't all those other worse things going on, too. It wears one down. Then one has to figure out how to do other things, or go other places.