Hence the incredible discomfort that always comes up.

It's sad if you think that way of life is the best that you can do. You're cheating yourself. Maybe you can do better in another life if you really believe that's the very best you can do in this life. I suppose that's the danger of getting lots and lots of praise for being the way that you are. You just have no motivation to change because you get so much praise for the way you are already and it's like why would you want to change? Why would you want to? It's so good right now, even though it's not good enough, but it's good enough? It looks really screwed up.