Don't be like the artistic version of Patton.

Like maybe your grandkids will be more sensitive  to the existence of other kinds of people and what they are going through but you don't have to be so overly patriarchal in your execution of your talents.

When it comes to the point the point where I feel like I have to start chewing on my fingers again and clothes again, that's not a good sign.

Quit repeating the habits that are harmful just because that's exactly what patriarchal culture wants you to do.