Their children deserve better, too.

Sometimes men are violent to people who deliver your food or other resources, and the Patriarchy hopes that girls and women will be distracted and selfish and not motivated to attempt to make society better, and that they will continue to be not so good at talking about it. 

It will be painful to know and experience this, but maybe it will also make you try to find the people who raise the bar instead of settling for the people who are convinced that it's better to set the bar too low?