Is being "nice" always the best for one's health?

Sometimes when people want you to be nicer, they're also trying to shut you down and control the narrative. 

Sometimes those people have more privileges when they go along with the oppressive systems, and they just don't want to see what it's like for others. 

By seeing their addictions to pretending their way is the best way, you know that what's best for them is actually pretty much the opposite of what's best for a whole lot of other people.

There's a recording somewhere in which Sam O. said he had problems with anger and violence when he was younger, especially when he was in the army...it's on the internet.