The loop knows he was a nicer person once upon a time.

"It's very hard for me to not treat someone like you poorly as long as this patriarchal industry is set up so that I get rewarded more for treating somebody like you poorly.  In fact, precisely because of patriarchal industry standards, you might even say my happiness and well-being rely on treating someone like you poorly. I know it seemed like I was a nicer person when we were younger, but things are different now, so you need to understand..."