Too hard = too unwell, too unhealthy, & still too abusive

The vibe of "It is just too hard for us to act like girls and women and their human rights matter when the patriarchal standards we felt we needed to align ourselves with are still so against us acting like we should care about such people" is immeasurably disrespectful and discriminatory and disappointing, and also not even good for the ones who are supposedly benefiting from 'fitting in' with those standards!

They're being quite mean to themselves, also. They're still addicted to those bullying and self-bullying behaviors, for various reasons.