And in the piece I read, she also contemplated why some don't get sent away as often as they used to.

It can be nice when "the old norms" change for the better! Getting ready to listen to:

"Jennifer Senior Contemplates ‘The Ones We Sent Away"

https://www.kqed.org/forum/2010101893952/jennifer-senior-contemplates-the-ones-we-sent-away