Even...if...I...can't...sing...all...the...lyrics...
Fiddler On The Roof - Ivan Rebroff ("If I Were A Rich Man & To Life")
Wednesday, May 31, 2023
Those are some old patterns that have been repeated...
But since most people do not actually walk around wearing signs saying "This stuff you care about is not anything we were trained to care about," that means good change is still possible anyway?
The conversation that ended with
"We don't talk about them. We send them to away to a village" becomes Outcast Island.
So after enjoying the reign of patriarchal programming...
are the brothers ready for the renaissance of reproductive rights television?
"Congress threatens to block Space Command headquarters funding as abortion politics affects location decision"
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/may/31/asian-americans-access-to-abortion-information
"Tim Scott hedges..."
https://www.axios.com/2023/05/31/tim-scott-2024-abortion-axios-event
"Numbers Nobody Has Ever Seen’: How the GOP Lost Wisconsin"
https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2023/05/30/gop-wisconsin-abortion-00099006
My goodness...in the paper of my childhood summer vacations...
"Billboard outside Florida airport warns travelers of DeSantis’ anti-abortion policy, urges them to go to Michigan"
Hello, helpers...
"The 9 Solfeggio Frequencies And Their Benefits"
https://dailydish.co.uk/the-9-solfeggio-frequencies-and-their-benefits/
"The Amazing Spinal Flush"
https://www.pruneharris.com/post/the-amazing-spinal-flush
It feels like this is the most important right now.
My body really needs me to learn how to get more healthy. I really need to learn more about how to do that. Learning a lot more about healing is the only main thing I can do at this time. It is true that I did get very much interested in a lot of other things, but it all has to go to the side because of the situation I am in.
Tuesday, May 30, 2023
Hmmm.
I think that it is very harmful to society to be in the old-fashioned habit of treating men as if they are more important than women, and it still happens a lot, and I guess I just can't get as comfortable with it as some people are
Better base.
"I don't have to be an oppressive person just because that's what the Old Toxic Patriarchal Standards dictated, and caring about my health and the health of others is actually a really good thing."
If They Just Need Healing & Now It Is 2023...
What Kind
"Mt. SAC coach accused of sexual abuse to remain employed"
https://sac.media/2023/02/10/mt-sac-coach-accused-of-sexual-abuse-to-remain-employed-school-says/
Of Healing,
"Mt. SAC will not take action against Brian Crichlow"
Do You Suppose They Need?
It is something to remember, anyway.
A sensitive woman who told me she saw a very unhealthy atmosphere and also (somewhat to my surprise) a lot of "mean girls" vibes said "I am so sorry that happened to you."
Words, words, words...
"Maybe We Should Frame Unhealthy Behaviors As An Unwell Symptom of Repeating Toxic Patriarchal Patterns Issue."
Okay!
"We Should Frame Reproductive Rights as a Men’s Issue"
https://www.thedailybeast.com/we-should-frame-reproductive-rights-as-a-mens-issue
Next time, you should exchange recipes, too?
"Maybe their kids will treat women better than they did" casserole
AND
"Maybe it's inevitable that their kids will treat human beings better than they did" cake.
Well, that's a start, but there's so much room for improvement
"If you get nightmares, just remember it could've been even worse."
It's a 2020s thing, too.
These mindful women are figuring out how to get the good stuff without treating other women like their human rights are meaningless.
What if your friend gets nightmares and traumatized by a toxic workplace in his next life?
Sigh! 2023! "Mt. SAC coach accused of sexual abuse to remain employed"
https://sac.media/2023/02/10/mt-sac-coach-accused-of-sexual-abuse-to-remain-employed-school-says/
Whew! Late night comic relief.
"The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel Season 5 Episode 3: 'Typos and Torsos' Quotes"
https://www.tvfanatic.com/quotes/shows/the-marvelous-mrs-maisel/episodes/typos-and-torsos/
"The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel – Season 5 Episode 3"
https://www.thereviewgeek.com/marvelousmrsmaisel-s5e3review/
Monday, May 29, 2023
Good lord, such a clueless boss in a world....
"When she said 'we have to publish this book,' her boss replied, 'What? That book by that kid?'”
~ Ilana Sichel
https://www.jta.org/jewniverse/2017/anne-franks-diary-was-rescued-from-the-publishers-reject-pile
Then, not right away, but next, read this.
"14 downright stingy things Dutch people do"
https://dutchreview.com/culture/stingy-things-dutch-people-do/
For some reason, THIS Feeling again.
They remind me of the feeling I got as a little kid when I was on summer vacation and some other little kids, who clearly picked up on being jerks from someone somewhere, decided it was fun to make mean comments about a large woman at a swimming pool being too fat in her bathing suit. It hurt and I didn't want to hear them do that. Luckily, a nice mom (even though she was quite thin) told the little kids that they were being mean. What if she had just joined in? That would have made it feel so much worse. It's like this time, some narcissistic people decided to act more like they were still the mean little kids instead of the nice mom.
I have hope for the future.
It became too much for me to be in a patriarchal environment where some women made excuses for abusive practices because they needed paychecks. That was part of it, in addiction (oops...addition to) the obvious triggers.
Just stop going along with such harmful norms
It is painful to inherit narcissistic tendencies as a way to cope with living under patriarchal standards...surely there are better ways to be on this Earth.
What do they look like to you?
"These are the people who want therapy to learn how to be less narcissistic and they will also be learning to treat themselves and others so much better as a bonus."
It would ease some pain.
If some of the kids grew up to be much less narcissistic and bigoted than what got role - modeled for them by some of their elders.
Groupthink Too Toxic.
Women who treat women badly because that's what their patriarchal training told them to do are NOT doing it because it's good for society or for their kids or anyone. Not even themselves. It's just their temporary fix, like worse than binging on sugar, or something?
Of course, it's natural to feel sad, but...
When it becomes apparent that the patriarchal structures have trained people to discount others, it can be good to remember that it's due to a lot of the societal messages they received. And actually, they probably were born to treat themselves and others a lot better than that.
People deserve better in Poland & Indiana, USA
"Polish health minister ‘appalled’ girl, 14, struggled to get abortion after rape"
"Indiana doctor reprimanded for speaking about abortion provided to 10-year-old rape victim"
Patriarchy is not healthy.
"Obstetricians are 'very worried,' said Dr. Erika Werner, a spokesperson for the Society for Maternal-Fetal Medicine. The concern is that if medication for miscarriage doesn’t work, patients will end up having surgeries they hadn’t anticipated.
'More women are going to have unnecessary surgeries. More women are going to have complications,' said Werner, who is also chair of obstetrics and gynecology at Tufts Medical Center."
~ Elizabeth Cohen & Amanda Sealy
https://www.cnn.com/2023/05/25/health/georgia-medication-abortion-miscarriage/index.html
A rather gruesome situation, to be sure.
"Under no circumstances can I imagine politicians mandating that a cis man become life support for another human without his explicit consent."
~ Dr. Rachel Hines
"NC abortion ban forces women to become life support"
I hear nobody wanted to talk about this stuff when it was going on.
"True Tale of German Women Forced to Taste Hitler’s Food to Be Depicted by Silvio Soldini in ‘The Tasters’ (EXCLUSIVE)"
Horrifying! Not what we learned about in history class.
"Hitler's Last Surviving Female Food Taster Tells All in New Documentary"
“'I was sheltering in the doctor’s air raid shelter when they came for me,' said Margot recalling the horrifying ordeal.
'I tried to say I had TB, that I was infected. It did no good. They held me for 14 days and nights and raped me.
'After they finished I was never able to conceive. My husband and I wanted children so much ...'
Despite this, Woelk was still one of the lucky ones, with all the other 14 food tasters shot and killed by the Red Army."
~ Network Writers
Things could be worse...
She's the one who got away!
"One of Hitler’s 15 food tasters finally tells her story"
https://www.denverpost.com/2013/04/27/one-of-hitlers-15-food-tasters-finally-tells-her-story/amp/
More Mundane Mothering Moments...Sigh!
“'There are a lot of college girls here who don’t want to tell their mom when they need Plan B or even that they’re getting on birth control,' Abigail said as she perched on the exam table, hands buried in the pockets of her oversized tie-dye sorority sweatshirt. Without places like the clinic that offer low-cost and free services to people without insurance or afraid to use their parents’ or spouses’ insurance, 'those girls would not have access to those things. We’d end up with a lot more pregnant women who don’t want their children, and the waiting lists [for care] would become even longer everywhere else.'”
~ Alice Miranda Ollstein
"This Alabama Health Clinic Is Under Threat. It Doesn’t Provide Abortions."
https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2023/05/29/alabama-abortion-clinic-problem-00096020
On the other hand...
Maybe Sometimes It's Really More Like HE Is A Mean Mom for The Fatherland...But A NICE One.
"You have forty thousand people in the palm of your hand. It's like watching Hitler... but a nicer Hitler."
~ S. Movsesian
C...
Another thought...
Maybe if some people were nicer to certain parts of themselves, they would just naturally be nicer to others.
Couldn't they do better next time?
Why do some people still resort to those tribal mentalities that feel too hard and discriminatory?
I think it must be so.
There must've been stuff buried inside that I always wanted to make better and if / when / as I do, it can help with healing so many other areas in this life. And now, there is an opportunity to do that. I think it must be so!!!!
Reminded me that sometimes, "tribal mentalities" can get very cultish & disturbing.
And that there are even times when they become needlessly destructive.
~ Andrew Nelson
"I'm Better Awake"
Sunday, May 28, 2023
Small wins in cooking! 🎵 Ya dah dee da da...
In the evening, I forgot a pot of rice was cooking, but I transferred it to a cold burner just in the nick of time, and it all turned out great.
Fiddler on the roof - "If I were a rich man (with subtitles)"
Why not try these sounds?
"Singing Bowls for Bedtime | Be Gently Lulled to Sleep | Sleep Sounds | Sleep Music | Sound Bath"
I know it will happen, but...
I can't sleep. I feel like I need a miracle to be able to sleep. I know it will happen but why couldn't it have happened hours ago. What is going to...HELP.
Saturday, May 27, 2023
Wonder what they say?
"Man who was pen pal with Anne Frank's father donates letters"
https://www.cbc.ca/news/world/holocaust-museum-digitizing-otto-frank-letters-1.5171505
How can music affect a body, too?
Staring at a lot of books when
"Waterloo Sunset" ~ Ray Davies & Jackson Brown
came on.
Felt like there's so much to learn about bettering our humanity's collective health that it makes the tears spill over...then, felt it could be more practical and a relief to look at another book about healing points on energy meridians...
Texas is probably a better place to be a girl or a woman than Poland because...
?????
Oops, got distracted.
"The Texas man who tried to get his wife’s friends..."
Hope they don't run into any human rights violations.
Do they have any female family members?
"We Moved From California to Texas and Will Never Go Back"
https://www.insider.com/moved-california-to-texas-will-never-go-back-expensive-2023-5
Again, hope they don't run into any human rights violations.
On The Catwalk! Caturday Caterwauling!
Untouched portraits of the creature who didn't mind the screechy sing-along!
"I'm Too Sexy" ~ Right Said Fred
She's thin and she's good-looking and she's finally made it!
Hee hee.
"You've Come A Long Way, Baby: Virginia Slims Ads"
https://flashbak.com/youve-come-a-long-way-baby-virginia-slims-advertising-year-by-year-365664/
"In 1980, Andrea Hollen became the first of 62 pioneering women to graduate from West Point."
~ Emma Bowman, Juliana Kim
"VP Harris becomes first woman to give West Point commencement address"
https://www.npr.org/2023/05/26/1178512667/kamala-harris-west-point-commencement-address
Women have come a long way since 1980, too! Et toi?
I just remembered... you've come a long way since 1980!
"VP Harris becomes first woman to give West Point commencement address"
https://www.npr.org/2023/05/26/1178512667/kamala-harris-west-point-commencement-address
"In 1980, Andrea Hollen became the first of 62 pioneering women to graduate from West Point."
~ Emma Bowman, Juliana Kim
"You've Come A Long Way, Baby: Virginia Slims Ads"
https://flashbak.com/youve-come-a-long-way-baby-virginia-slims-advertising-year-by-year-365664/
Hee hee.
I mean...
How about that big shadow on the wall, the two uniformed staff members, and the trays with champagne glasses and bottles of...
"The Hollywood Mogul"
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/05/25/style/cannes-party-david-zaslav.html
I read that a wee little human attended a fancy party, as did a small dog.
Dom Pérignon was offered to the attendees.
"A Party in Cannes Announces..."
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/05/25/style/cannes-party-david-zaslav.html
It was made available by some young women in uniforms, according to Violette Franchi's photo. Also, how about Violette Franchi's picture of the staff offering the guests bottles of Dom Pérignon?
Meanwhile, in Poland too...
"Denying Access to Abortion Is Femicide"
https://msmagazine.com/2023/01/06/poland-abortion-ban-women-death-dying/
"People Are Too Terrified To Get Pregnant Under Poland’s Harsh Abortion Law"
So what?
"Lots of women who were also raised by Patriarchal Standards to dehumanize others are fine with our Chauvanistic Tendencies and in fact prefer our company to others."
Yes they can.
Stop dehumanizing people who are different from what the Patriarchal Norms want you to see as more acceptable than Others.
Friday, May 26, 2023
It is more fun to drink anything in a wine glass...
"Abortion and bastardizing children are two heavy concepts embraced as important to understanding feminism and its emergence during that time, illustrating the necessity of this story both in its time frame and the socially evolved, modern world."
~ Eric Forthun
https://www.phoenixfilmfestival.com/blog/2014/06/violette-movie-review-by-eric-forthun
Suppose I might re-watch this one, too...
'Violette,’ About the French Author Violette Leduc
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/13/movies/violette-about-the-french-author-violette-leduc.html
And next time I go to the grocery store, I'll go from the fruit preserves to eyeing bottles of wine.
She says she is "fortunate." And stigma is lessening? but still an issue.
"I Never Planned to Tell My Abortion Story—Especially on Capitol Hill"
Such beautiful yards and appliances they had in those days.
And no unseemly problems with fertility or abortions or miscarriages, too!
"A Word to the Wives (1955)"
I bet they made the best gelatin salads.
Did they even get "the monthly curse?"
Next time on "Mature Modern Dad Bought A Good Book for His Book Club"
A mature modern dad discusses with his book club why the adolescent 17-year-old boy of the 1940s that they're reading about us is in many ways more respectful of fellow human beings than a lot of their friends in their age group!
Have some human rights back!
"South Carolina Republicans' Abortion Ban Derailed"
https://www.newsweek.com/south-carolina-republicans-abortion-ban-derailed-judge-they-elected-1802959
There are tools!
Use tools, yes, of course, the next moments are happening...music crochet meditate essences energy points etcetera.
Some Day.
Maybe saying "I am just mourning now" will get mourning to say "Yeah, you are, good for paying attention" and then some other good stuff could happen, eventually.
Singing...like laughing...and crying...
Also, the second one can make you feel like playing with a ribboned cat toy again...
Ivan Rebroff ("If I Were A Rich Man" & "To Life")
Thursday, May 25, 2023
Ah...energy shift!
On the one hand, complaining about fascism was scribbled all over the back of a truck, and on the other hand, some cheerful birds were hopping around all over the lawn in the park!
A lot can change, it seems...
When something in the universe is trying to get you to save your life and your health and to change for the better?
Aw, babies.
There were some baby cougar kitties born recently and the photo showed their cuteness surrounded by poison oak, which is apparently awful for humans, but not for them!
Perhaps she wasn't speaking to the heartlessly well off?
"Addressing state residents directly, she said, 'When … your teenagers end up dying because they went to get an illegal abortion because they didn’t know they were pregnant before six weeks, it is our fault!'”
~ Senn quoted by Otten
https://newrepublic.com/post/172996/south-carolina-enacts-draconian-abortion-ban
"It affects me too."
"And it affects me if someone disagrees with my choices." "Well that must be truly a terrible burden to bear!? Or did you still get off easy?"
Is it "better?"
Are you in one of the "good" states? Do you have more money than the average citizen? Do you think the oppressive conditions happening in the other states to less wealthy people don't have any affect on the healthcare and benefits you enjoy?
Is it true that a third of the counties lack an OBGYN practice even before the ban happened!?!
"You co-authored a 6 week ban- you’re a hypocrite & are completely disingenuous. This will affect ALL SC women’s health care - doctors will leave the state - look at Idaho!
In 14 of South Carolina’s 46 counties there are no OB-GYN doctors, not even with a part-time practice."
https://twitter.com/888_D_Moon1/status/1661867179531202560?t=2vZjWMUFaqgeTbMu1IdIBA&s=09
"Five other counties each have just one OB-GYN doctor, according to a December report by the state Office for Healthcare Workforce-
Now with extreme bans we will loose even more putting ALL women at risk for women’s healthcare!"
https://twitter.com/888_D_Moon1/status/1661867179531202560?t=2vZjWMUFaqgeTbMu1IdIBA&s=09
Nancy's just trained by patriarchal forces to be a mom of 2 who is very troubled!
"Here’s Nancy Mace saying she is a 'pro-life legislator' who supports banning abortion 'between 15 and 20 weeks.'
As a state lawmaker in SC, she co-authored and voted for a 6 week ban, later deemed unconstitutional.
Just to set the record straight."
https://twitter.com/DrOBrienMD/status/1661834930031042579?t=7XIlWYuuQ72Ot8HT4FwOAQ&s=09
"It’s ironic pro-life groups will not talk to us about pro-life legislation because we advocate for common sense proposals like birth control, and exceptions for rape, and incest which are supported by a vast majority of the voters. We must find middle ground."
https://twitter.com/NancyMace/status/1661823484509421570?t=uZhNuClU30ZnLLfdFBHCJA&s=09
Y'all.
Michael O’Brien, MD 🩺🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ (@DrOBrienMD) /
"Reminder that @SCDP reps proposed amendments funding prenatal care, funding OB services in 15 rural counties, expansion of Medicaid… and the SC GOP voted them all down unanimously.
Y’all can’t even pretend to be pro-fetus, let alone pro-child. Get real."
https://twitter.com/DrOBrienMD/status/1661828020821172228?t=I4uZqyxlVX5ODelY2QAGwg&s=09
*But maybe that's not forever; nothing is.*
"Right now, that privileged dude's ego is way more important to us than your basic human rights. Just ask him, him, and him. Or her, her, and her. It's a groupthink thing!"
"Suddenly, we were all so excited to be in agreement, that we couldn't help but slip into some good old-fashioned mean guy / mean girl dynamics."
*But maybe that's not forever; nothing is.*
Reminded me of the last dream I remember...
I met a nice young man who told me that his father has been a real jerk.
Question.
"Boy or Property of the State?"
~ Ann Telnaes cartoon on South Carolina's Abortion Ban
https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2023/05/25/ann-telnaes-cartoon-south-carolina-abortion-ban/
Some people.
They got trained or convinced to be so uncaring, immature, thoughtless, unwise, stubborn, and mean.
Years and years and years of neglect.
So many were trained by The Patriarchy to act like they don’t care when basic human rights are taken from them, or from their children, or from other people's children....
He knows it's not right.
"Governor Henry McMaster signed the abortion ban behind closed doors, with no notice to health care professionals in the state."
~ Tori Otten
https://newrepublic.com/post/172996/south-carolina-enacts-draconian-abortion-ban
Caring
Michael O’Brien, MD 🩺🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ (@DrOBrienMD) Retweeted:
"NEWS:
@PPSouthAtlantic
, Greenville Women’s Clinic, and 2 physicians just filed a lawsuit in state court seeking to block South Carolina’s newly-enacted ban on abortion after approximately 6 weeks of pregnancy. We're urging the court to block the law right away. #StopTheBanSC"
Here's a few other POVs.
“My daughter has a pre-existing condition that will make pregnancy deadly for her. She and her husband are very careful but my greatest fear is she’ll get pregnant and suffer severe consequences or worse, die. I wanted her to move to SC but I can never let her do that now.”
7:43 PM · May 23, 2023“I have 5 children now and we can barely meet their basic needs. My birth control failed after I took antibiotics. I can’t afford another child. I have an appointment for an abortion next week. Where do I go now?”
7:41 PM · May 23, 2023
"My emails, texts, and DMs are filled with messages from frightened women - just a few hours after the SC Senate passed the abortion ban. “I’m the sole breadwinner in a very physical, manual labor job. If I’m pregnant, I’ll be laid off. What do I do now to support my children?”
Vicki Ringer
https://twitter.com/vickiringer/status/1661201227634319360?s=20
Worth noticing again!
I merely smile and don't say "congratulations," but a girl who I had a strange experience with last year at the pool (because of the dude she was with at that time, who seemed really disrespectful and insecure, bordering on abusive) seems to be able to have a much nicer guy to hang out with now!
Maybe the next generations will like women better!
Melissa Watson is Tired of Politics as Usual:
"All y’all had to do was vote for
@HillaryClinton
. This is the tweet every time we talk about #WomensRights."
6:05 PM · May 24, 2023
https://twitter.com/melissawatsonf1/status/1661538918947340290
Medical Humor Online
Michael O’Brien, MD 🩺🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ (@DrOBrienMD) :
"If the South Carolina GOP Primary were tomorrow, who would you vote for?
Ron DeSantis
3.7%
A meconium diaper
96.3%
190 votes
·
Final results
3:23 PM · May 24, 2023
·
1,696
Views
https://twitter.com/DrOBrienMD/status/1661498166636691459?s=20
With good reason.
"The women that have privately reached out to me over the last 24 hours are devastating me. They are terrified. Their stories, situations, families, and lives matter. Yesterday’s vote puts all of that in jeopardy for so many. I wish I had the words to console them. #stopthebansc"
12:42 PM · May 24, 2023
Emily Mayer (she/her) on Twitter
https://twitter.com/emilymayerSC/status/1661457669591367680
retweeted by
Michael O’Brien, MD 🩺🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ (@DrOBrienMD) /
Maybe you can change for the better anyways, someday, before the next life happens.
After you chose to disregard others because you were an insecure person who caved in to what an Unwell Patriarchy wanted from you SO many, many, many times.
Jesus Weeps.
That man is not so great that you should be complicit in helping the patriarchy oppress other women and other people's kids just to make him feel as favored as the Patriarchal Ones told you was acceptable in your culture.
What makes people cave in to compromise on human rights for their own kids?
Michael O’Brien, MD 🩺🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ on Twitter:
"Thank you
@SennSandy
for being a voice of reason in a time we need it most.
I hope to see Sandy,
@PenrySC
,
@SenatorShealy
,
@MiaforSC
, and
@margieBmatthews
stand together once again against this extreme, and frankly poorly-written abortion ban."
https://twitter.com/DrOBrienMD/status/1659186792459804674
"And then he flipped. Imagine that."
@TSGfornow
https://twitter.com/TSGfornow/status/1661356634109538304?t=gVP2geFRMljs545dYh1S7g&s=09
"Actually, it came down to one male. And you know I'm thankful that they stood with us before, but basically at the last minute he caved and when he did the other two went with him. So that left us with just five. I can tell you we would certainly be a lot more powerful if we could elect just three more women."
Republican South Carolina State Sen. Sandy Senn
https://news.yahoo.com/3-more-women-different-sc-132645793.html
"Where's Tom Davis? Hiding out?"
https://twitter.com/TSGfornow/status/1661356974208958466?t=6ZC0Il5Sf7PhjHxg27Wuaw&s=09
"Davis has three daughters with his wife Reid, whom he married in 1985."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tom_Davis_(South_Carolina_politician)
Or, at least for him, perhaps his kids aren't in the same socioeconomic bracket as the ones Senator Sandy Senn mentioned later in this clip?
'With 3 more women this would have been different’: SC State Sen. on failing to block abortion ban"Wednesday, May 24, 2023
Cool, huh.
"Turner was among the first celebrities to speak candidly about domestic abuse, becoming a heroine to battered women and a symbol of resilience to all. Ike Turner did not deny mistreating her, although he tried to blame Tina for their troubles. When he died, in 2007, a representative for his ex-wife said simply: 'Tina is aware that Ike passed away.'”
~ Hillel Italie
"Tina Turner, unstoppable superstar whose hits included ‘What’s Love Got to Do With It,’ dead at 83"
https://apnews.com/article/tina-turner-dead-a04311130e67459cbade34565eb80662
I didn't know Tina Turner was a citizen of Switzerland!
"Tina Turner, unstoppable superstar whose hits included ‘What’s Love Got to Do With It,’ dead at 83"
https://apnews.com/article/tina-turner-dead-a04311130e67459cbade34565eb80662
And she got away from an abuser, too.
What? How come Belgium and France were better?
"Before 1940, the Netherlands, Belgium and France had been characterized by a parliamentary democracy and a liberal tradition for decades. Admittedly there was some antisemitism, often not openly expressed, but in these countries there had been no legal difference between Jewish and non-Jewish citizens for almost 150 years. The percentage of Jews of the total population did not differ very much and was low in all three countries: 0.75% of the French and Belgian population, and 1.5% of the Dutch population."
"yes, it is a real man story"
"i wonder how they could have just stood by and let those fascists take over"
It certainly is a time for some women to be incredibly immature and patriarchal
“It’s time to put a woman in the White House to lead the charge on some important issues other than our reproductive rights," said Sharon Bolduc, whose husband unsuccessfully challenged Democratic U.S. Sen. Maggie Hassan in New Hampshire last year.
'We as women voters have so much more to offer the American people than just talking about our uteruses,' she said in an interview afterward. "Let's get over that already.'"
~ HOLLY RAMER and MEG KINNARD
https://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/haley-commits-federal-abortion-ban-republicans-congress-99572259
It's been hard & disappointing to experience that from some.
"Why did they decide to act like abusive men were more important to them than other kinds of people?"
By: Opinion Writer
"The U.S. Government’s Legislative Shortcomings Are To Blame for Murdered Missing Indigenous Women"
Tuesday, May 23, 2023
Hello again, this.
"I am sure of that." ~ Otto Frank at 10:40
Watch "1976: OTTO FRANK on the Diary of Anne Frank / Blue Peter / Children's Television/ BBC Archive"
This is another way of looking at the current situation.
The next generations are being given many more nudges that caring about human rights for women and girls helps all of us as a society.
An interesting read after finishing "A Small Light"
"Jewish actor plays a Nazi in new series about non-Jew who helped Anne Frank"
Mystery. Maybe it's an addiction, too?
She doesn't need to make so many excuses for abuses, but she still thinks she needs to keep doing it, for some reason.
How come, when they could still be making different choices? Something still asks sometimes.
The people of the patriarchy who might be making very different choices, if...
What if society begins re-defining "wealth?"
People who seem to need to cater to dishonest people, who exclude or discount many in the process in order to have a certain kind of lifestyle, are very difficult for me to trust, honestly.
Speaking of which, I find that I love that I get to live with an honest person. However, it is true that he is also modest person, which might not be what impresses some people, but for me, in addition to honesty, that is very good fit for a sensitive person, too!
Sometimes a well-off man who cannot be your pal is simply...
So Easily Duped. By The PATRIARCHY! By The Patriarchally Influenced! SO! GULLIBLE! GROW UP! Grow Upwards! Reach For The Sky! Good Tree; You Can Do It; Believe!
Policies should be good for babies and other human beings, not like this, the stuff of human rights violations
"South Carolina Passes Extreme Abortion Ban, Wiping Out Access Across the South"
A Terrible 21st Century Addiction, Misogyny is Epidemic to US
"Male GOP Senators Ignore Women, Vote for Abortion Ban in South Carolina"
27 MEN
By Emily Shugerman
Senior Reporter
As a healthy favor to themselves, too...
There certainly still are a few well off, insecure guys who got trained to go along with a lot of oppressive stuff, and they could stop getting temporarily rewarded for those unwell behaviors (like getting drugs to feed their addictions), before their next lifetimes come around for them.
Maybe they are confused as to how to value themselves, too.
Privileged people paying attention to you and then ditching you is not real friendship. It is, at best, friendship derailed by old, unhealed patriarchal patterns, for various and sundry reasons?
Surely, evolving can do so much more for humanity.
I may not know a lot of things, but I am at least able to believe that, surely, being healthy is more important than getting some people who are stuck in old behavior patterns to validate your worth as a human being, in spite of all the cultural programs that I too have consumed throughout this lifetime.
To better things in the future.
Old, ingrained patriarchal patterns told some humans to abandon others, and they did so.
I truly hope tomorrow is much, much better.
I feel sad that patriarchal cultural values are so abusive and so bad for so many kinds of human beings.
I know this is cruelty, and it will cause more human rights violations. I can feel it.
"South Carolina Passes Extreme Abortion Ban, Wiping Out Access Across the South"
Is ADD just another way of viewing a life / lifetimes...
Who needs attention sometimes and why? Also, it's like I can hear a grandmother's voice saying I am not just paying attention to one thing, I am looking at many things...
How about this one?
Watch "1976: OTTO FRANK on the Diary of Anne Frank / Blue Peter / Children's Television / BBC Archive"
I think there might be some errors in how the BBC presenter described the events the family experienced. But more than that, how does it make you feel to see, in particular, towards the end of the clip, how Otto Frank is dealing with life?
What is the past teaching us; what about time being flexible
I was thinking about when Anne wrote in her diary that Peter's cat had disappeared and he was "beside himself." And the conversations they had about dealing with their emotions. I wanted to say, I learned some things about energy medicine points, & maybe these things can help you, too. As if maybe, on another level, time is flexible, and you can converse with people who are gone, and this time, things could be different....
Too.
I drifted into a nap and to my surprise I noticed that I floated over a sleeping baby. Just being a curious learner about humans. What can a baby learn about how to be calm and relaxed. What if the baby was me...
The headline is a national past time.
"S.C. Sen. Sandy Senn says male colleagues want six week abortion ban to 'control' women"
https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2023/05/22/south-carolina-abortion-ban/
Merely presidents also don't take it seriously enough.
"It was not merely that Brown did not take the accusations of violence against women seriously. No one in power really did. Art Modell, the former owner of the Cleveland Browns, said in one interview, wise-guy smile in place, that Brown 'got into trouble because of, shall we say, a rough social encounter with a gal, or two, or three.'”
The cases against Brown are extensive. He often said that he has 'never been convicted of violence against women,' which is true. But almost all the cases tended to follow a script that was far too common at the time: Women, exclusively women of color, making heinous accusations against Brown, then facing all sorts of harassment and disbelief, and dropping the charges. Brown also shook his head when I asked him about this history, and he only said, 'Violence against women… shit,' as if he could not believe this still followed him so late in life. Yet the cases span the years from 1965 to 1999. It’s a remarkable stretch that cannot be written off as just an endless series of law-and-order conspiracies, coincidences, or bad luck. If we are going to tell Brown’s story, it is irresponsible to not say the names of Brenda Ayres, Eva Bohn-Chin, Debra Clark, and others."
~ David Zirin
"Jim Brown’s War Within Himself"
It's a Real Thing.
Sometimes, people in high profile positions are there to remind me that it's incredibly sad that so many people were trained to act like not caring about violence against women is acceptable.
The phenomenon of patriarchal people being rewarded for treating women badly is REAL.
Over and over, human beings deserve better.
"The part of the abortion debate we don't like to talk about is the fact that women try to get abortions to protect themselves against abusive boyfriends, husbands or exes.
"Male violence is a leading cause of death for pregnant and postpartum women:"
https://twitter.com/KarenAttiah/status/1660695731856916504?t=BkKqaXetVasx49ZO4ceH9w&s=09
Opinion | "Gun and abortion laws have made Texas a women's nightmare"
What is duty to humanity about?
"Here he is being called a civil rights activist when he opposed much of the politics and many of the methods and tactics of the civil rights movement. He derided civil rights marches as 'parades' in the 1950s and then again in 2016. That was when he engaged in an ugly, public feud with Representative John Lewis, whom Brown condemned for questioning Trump’s legitimacy. By that time, Brown supported Trump, a position that I argued made sense given his politics, which were both consistent and complicated. Brown supported Richard Nixon in 1968 and spoke at Huey Newton’s funeral in 1989. What is not complicated is his treatment of women. Again, to break that down to only 'was accused of domestic violence' does both the history and the survivors an injustice. Brown’s life calls for more than genuflection or dismissal; it demands study."
~ David Zirin
"Jim Brown’s War Within Himself"
Why Does An Unwell Patriarchy Want People in Power to Unsee Certain Kinds of Human Beings?
"I was too young to remember Jim Brown’s playing days, but I knew his legacy. One of the greatest football players ever, he was also an actor and activist – speaking out on civil rights, and pushing other Black athletes to do the same. Our thoughts are with Jim’s wife Monique, his children, and everyone who knew and admired him."
https://twitter.com/BarackObama/status/1659666639351078912?t=D8xD2AeeW6fOtANcjHbJMw&s=09
"....He Also Beat Women"
https://deadspin.com/jim-brown-did-great-things-he-also-beat-woman-1784269329
And worse, according to that article.
Monday, May 22, 2023
Can I be happy to be feeling calmer this evening?
I think so. (Maybe The Universe is going "Oh good. She FINALLY got it.") I have been eating a lot of reduced sugar raspberry preserves, too.
Another thing that happened today.
I had to pay attention to how some words were being used again, because I remembered that when I left my old position, even though there were various things that bothered me (jokes by the person in charge about violence against women which weren't, to my way of thinking, properly analyzed, going around and asking students which methods of suicide they'd choose, putting down "Si Se Puede" as if the sentiment behind it was too naive...and also, forgotten until today, telling people that the most interesting way to begin a paper had happened in the past when a student writer opened the essay with the phrase, "Hitler had the right idea.")
You see, at the time, I didn't think much of it. I wasn't offended, because I just assumed the person in charge meant he liked students to be provocative and find a way to get attention.
But then I read this article:
"Does it matter that Hitler had traces of Jewish ancestry?"https://thecrimsonwhite.com/2286/opinion/does-it-matter-that-hitler-had-traces-of-jewish-ancestry/
"In a moment of mixed sadness for the lost symbol of hope and amusing irony for Hitler’s overdue circumcision, I read through the comments at the bottom of the page. I then stumbled across a posted statement that shattered both my blues and chuckles, replacing them with straight up fear."~ Debra Flax
What upset this writer so much? A comment in which the poster said, among other things, "Hitler had the right idea."
!!!!????
I can't write about this right now.
I was looking for a picture, and found...
Mindfulness again.
"From genocide to bullying, may remembrance inspire our commitment"
October 9, 2022 By David YamadaLike something that was buried inside but is now coming to light...
I have been thinking and processing feelings about what a certain time period in history means to me more lately...even more than when I visited their "annex" in Holland so many years ago...which means that this show has been something of a catalyst for me.
"Bel Powley on How 'A Small Light' Is an Everywoman"
Documentary vs Movie Version
"Were the men who beat Mark Hogancamp neo-Nazis?
No. This is the movie's biggest fabrication with regard to the true story. In real life, Mark's assailants did admit to beating him because he told them he was a cross-dresser, which would make it a hate crime, but they weren't actually neo-Nazi white supremacists like in the movie. One of the real-life attackers, a 16-year-old nicknamed 'Black Freddy," wasn't even white. However, to reinforce the point, the movie even shows one of the men with a swastika tattoo on his bicep. Both in the Marwencol documentary and in the articles written about Mark Hogancamp, including in The New York Times, there was never a mention of his assailants being neo-Nazis. They also appear a bit older in the film. In real life, two of the five attackers were still teenagers."
https://www.historyvshollywood.com/reelfaces/welcome-to-marwen/
What is art for? Sometimes...
"Marwencol vs Welcome to Marwen"
https://www.historyvshollywood.com/reelfaces/welcome-to-marwen/
How to care about stuff the unwell patriarchy didn't want anyone to care about.
"Vaguely written abortion bans fail to understand how medicine works in practice. 'There’s a heartbreakingly large number of ways that pregnancy can go wrong– and the law is fundamentally incapable of being able to itemize all of those,' says Katrina Kimport @UCSFBixb. #velshi"
Autonomous is a woman.
"'I want autonomy back. As a woman, and as a physician,' said Dr. Austin Dennard, one of eight new plaintiffs in our case against Texas's extreme abortion bans."
https://twitter.com/ReproRights/status/166070081208600168
"More women expected to join lawsuit against Texas"
Not good, my country.
Why did he feel entitled to do it!
"Man fatally shoots girlfriend because he was angry she had an abortion, Texas police say"
This sounds more like torture than "pastoral care."
"Hogan recounted a harrowing five days inside the hospital, where she says religious counselors repeatedly came to visit her, even though she had declined pastoral care. She recalled being terrified of even going to the bathroom — afraid she would go into premature labor, and be arrested."
~ Tessa Stuart
"More women sue Texas saying the state's anti-abortion laws harmed them"
https://www.npr.org/2023/05/22/1177425651/texas-women-sue-abortion
Sometimes The Norms Are Too Dangerous & Too Harmful
"8 women join suit against Texas over abortion bans, claim their lives were put in danger"
https://abcnews.go.com/US/8-women-join-suit-texas-abortion-bans-claim/story?id=99480988.
"More women sue Texas saying the state's anti-abortion laws harmed them"
https://www.npr.org/2023/05/22/1177425651/texas-women-sue-abortion
And another thing I have noticed...
Some people seem to want to convince you that this or that is what you're supposed to do because that's what they chose. Even your own friends or family members might do that, possibly without knowing they're doing it sometimes. You just get the feeling that a certain way of life is not set up to include what you are supposed to be doing with yours, and that you might need to go in a different direction.
Sometimes, a cult of motherhood can feel just as unbalanced as a cult of patriarchal god worship.
Staying away from those dynamics can feel akin to escaping from a religious sect whose practices aren't very psychologically healthy for you.
In that industry, but also elsewhere.
People who get convinced by others that they should be exclusionary of people who are too different from them give me the chills sometimes. It feels like that's what happens in certain cults and religious circles. It gets repeated again, but in a different way, and it can be very surprising when that happens.
Sometimes, yes.
Cult mentalities help women find ways to accommodate unbalanced patriarchal norms. Not always, but sometimes, cult of motherhood does that, too.
Privileged guys have lots of needs.
"When 'Oh no, I'm supposed to be nice' met 'Oh no, he's supposed to stop being a patriarchal jerk, even though he keeps getting rewarded for it, which is why the percent that can't get along with him keeps being greater than the percent that could have been getting along & having fun.'"
Sunday, May 21, 2023
Here comes little sister, and she's after older sister's bubbles...🫧
Pop! 🫧
She popped older sister's bubble and then got scolded by an adult. But was older sister upset? It didn't seem to me like she was...
So that was the morning dream.
At first I was alone and traveling, then I had a friend to talk about films with, and then some mother & sister stuff came up, and by the end of the dream I was beginning to tell a room full of women who were very interested in self care about a library book that has helped me learn more about triple warmer meridian and points that can help to make one feel more calm...
Saturday, May 20, 2023
That's another, more peaceful message.
Many of us received messages that we were not enough, and we developed all kinds of patterns to cope with the ways some of society operated, but now is a good time to change and learn how to be more health conscious and develop more nourishing habits.
Everybody can cry.
I have physical ailments which show me that learning how to accept better patterns and more healing can really be a process, so I will just accept I can learn more about this.
Oh, interesting message.
"Also grateful they realized that the abusive dudes who gave them money were very dependent on the system running in a certain way, so certain egos got catered to, and certain behavior patterns were reinforced."
Noticed.
"Lack of Access to Health Care Is Killing Women"
https://www.newsweek.com/lack-access-health-care-killing-women-opinion-1795411
I hope they get access to better rehabilitation services soon.
It's not the most fun thing to try to articulate how it feels when some people are being so disappointing just because they're still desperately clinging to some very old, unhealthy, toxic patterns that the patriarchy brainwashed them into repeating. I can't believe they're not tired of it yet.
Sounds alright from here, though.
See how you can be more helpful, even if only just for yourself, & not be like someone who was brainwashed to be a narcissistic jerk who is insensitive to others, still upholding tiresome old patriarchal standards, which are, however, crumbling nevertheless, in spite of everything.
I'm afraid the narcissistic ones are better at just feeding their own addictions than they are at actually helping themselves or anybody, really.
Process it and let it go.
I don't want to think about how much repeating old toxic patriarchal narcissistic behavior patterns are terrible for our collective health, but it feels like it is so, so now I just want to process it and let it go.
Control Issues.
Is it possible an unwell patriarchy wanted to control people to be so:
afraid or self-absorbed or insensitive or in denial or self-destructive
about basic human rights being threatened or taken away
that being self-destructive or in denial or insensitive or self-absorbed or afraid
is what their response would be when it happened?
A Human Experience.
How to survive feeling horrified at how immature patriarchal people can be while perceiving that so much change for the better, which is so obviously needed, is exactly what they are avoiding doing...and why????
Honesty is better.
What if they were promised a treat if they stopped being so horrible and dehumanizing to others just to fit in with some cult mentality? Would that help?
Did they get stuck?
Is it hard for them to deal with feelings of shame and insecurity, which leads them to act aloof or flippant or otherwise unwilling to be trusted?
Why don't they choose to be better?
Patriarchal Ones got brainwashed into believing that being selfish & dehumanizing in exchange for some very temporary rewards is okay.
How did they get that way?
Untrustworthy people who act like insensitive, abusive men are more important than everyone else.
Why?
Friday, May 19, 2023
I hope the future is aghast at the ignorance and that they never want to repeat what's happening now.
There's too many significant quotes.
"After being denied an abortion, a Florida mother watched her baby die"
https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/interactive/2023/florida-abortion-law-deborah-dorbert/
Don't Allow An Uncaring Patriarchy to Make Medical Care More Torturous Than It Needed To Be
"The day before Milo was born, the Dorberts sat down with their son Kaiden to explain that the baby’s body had stopped working and that he would not come home. Instead, someday, they told Kaiden, they would all meet as angels. The 4-year-old burst into tears, telling them that he did not want to be an angel."
~ Frances Stead Sellers, Thomas Simonetti and Maggie Penman
"After being denied an abortion, a Florida mother watched her baby die"
https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/interactive/2023/florida-abortion-law-deborah-dorbert/
Well, coolness.
I think it was kinda sad sometimes to be "That feminist chick" and "But you're a feminist" when I was younger just because it wasn't cool enough back then for some to care about human rights for girls and women, but I guess people better start making it more cool because it feels like your life and your health and the human rights of your loved ones are really being threatened now.
Perhaps this was the more accurate order of my experiences...
The song, the memory, the lyric, the letter.
Counting Crows - "Mr. Jones"
Listening to it on a mixtape behind a barn on summer vacation in the 90s.
"Got my education out behind the barn"
https://genius.com/Little-jimmy-dickens-out-behind-the-barn-lyrics
"700,000 Female Farmworkers Say They Stand With Hollywood Actors Against Sexual Assault"
https://time.com/5018813/farmworkers-solidarity-hollywood-sexual-assault/
Grocery shopping music made me remember...
"700,000 Female Farmworkers Say They Stand With Hollywood Actors Against Sexual Assault"
https://time.com/5018813/farmworkers-solidarity-hollywood-sexual-assault/
Counting Crows - "Mr. Jones"
...being a teenager on a fold-out lawn chair and listening to a mixed tape while I was on summer vacation...
&
"Got my education out behind the barn"
https://genius.com/Little-jimmy-dickens-out-behind-the-barn-lyrics
Everyone has consumed food...thanks...
"Our Farmworkers Deserve Better"
https://www.yesmagazine.org/issue/thirst/2023/05/18/farmworkers-deserve-better
"I was repeatedly told that farmworker communities are notoriously hard to build trust in. 'They won’t speak to media,' one editor warned me. 'They’re afraid of journalists,' a reporter friend said. I came to parrot these lines myself—and admittedly, the first several months of reporting were hard. I had particular trouble finding H-2A workers to speak to, but I soon learned it’s not because migrant farmworkers are unwilling to make their voices heard. These workers are hard to reach because of the nature of their work. Farmworkers are also fully aware of the consequences of speaking to a reporter—employers of H-2A workers can covertly blacklist them from being able to legally work in the U.S. Retaliatory employers have threatened undocumented farmworkers with immigration enforcement for detailing wage theft and other abuses. More often than not, these workers choose to speak out anyway."
~ Tina Vasquez
What a MEAN system it is.
A Certain Interpretation of Harried Housewives on Resistive Screens
Is Not Everything That Was Processed By My Little Brain...
"On the first day of August, 1981, MTV suddenly appeared in suburbia, U.S.A."
~ Alex Maiolo
Exclusive Clip: "A Small Light" - Miep and Jan Reach Their Boiling Point in Episode 6.
Oh, that clip is a fine reminder of how the upstairs neighbor is a good way to insert a little bit of humor at the end of their scene!
And OR Also
"Even if the patriarchs trained X to think that's what I should be doing with my life today, it would be like a death sentence to put X's ego and X's collusion with unhealthy patriarchal ways ahead of my own human experiences at the expense of my health."
So it seems!
"It would be like a death sentence to put X's ego and X's collusion with unhealthy patriarchal ways ahead of my own human experiences at the expense of my health, even if the patriarchs trained X to think that's what I should be doing with my life today."
Because humans deserve better.
Some people's kids will have to care more about "certain kinds of human rights" than the adults were raised to care about them.
"a direct attack on the medical community"
"This is the first page of the letter from more than 1k #Nebraska medical professionals
@NebraskaMegan
said is about to be read onto the floor by
@senatormachaela"
https://twitter.com/asanderford/status/1659594739623301120
"54 more signatures from licensed Nebraska health care providers have been added in the last four minutes.
No bans on care. #NELeg"
https://twitter.com/NebraskaMegan/status/1659594995945422853
Nevertheless, they can change.
It's still too easy for some people to not care about "those kinds of human rights" because there was so much programming drummed into them, and they were given so many incentives to not think about it, but not caring causes too much suffering to be good for most human beings.
"Imagine having strangers come up and congratulate you on your pregnant belly, asking if you're having a boy and a girl.
Meanwhile, you know that your baby will only live for hours.
That's what anti-choice states are doing to women."
https://twitter.com/JessicaValenti/status/1656791726734864385?s=20
"Abortion, Every Day (5.11.23)" - by Jessica Valenti
https://jessica.substack.com/p/abortion-every-day-51123#details
Forced to See An Issue
I wonder if there's people who remember saying they didn't have to care about abortion to be feminist, and if they're thinking about how having access to healthcare is important to having basic human rights these days...
Thursday, May 18, 2023
Spices...and being human...
I had no idea that having feelings for Opekta and the people who created it would get so deep inside of me. What a good business. A real place where real people lived. You want sisters to have been able to go on, like grandmothers you once knew, and tell about how it was in to come of age in the 40s and 50s.
Like, what if they did get to do that in another reality.
Like, what if people just learned more about energy healing and it helped them.
Like, what about feeling better thanks to flower essences and a bit of crying.
The cat is good at being a cat and making all the good cat noises.
This message is coming up because I asked.
"Acknowledge Love."
When everyone is running away, how can we acknowledge Love. When I start thinking I am fine and then unresolved stuff comes up and I start getting into a state of insecurity about worrying with a new physical symptom, oh no, what to do, where to go, how to pay, will it make it better...how to acknowledge Love.
Dear Blessed Guardian Angels...
My body has turned me into a humble person who seeks help and guidance and healing wisdom.
What's good to do when you want to really find peace and feel able to care for yourself really really really well?
Maybe will ask myself questions to see if the good answers for the next steps in regards to how things are right now will come to me.
Peace...🕊️
People need so much healing, it's true
It's challenging to be in this body now. One thing goes, and another thing comes up. It can be very daunting. I guess to embrace self and your own vulnerability and find whatever help is available is the best thing to do.
THE ART OF DOMESTIC SCIENCE
"Detergent packs are kinda wishy-washy (Dishwashers Explained)" ~ Technology Connections
8💜8💜8
X: Do you think I deserve forgiveness?
Y: Why do you need forgiveness?
X: I don't know, maybe I just need forgiveness for some reason.
Y: I forgive you.
X: Thank you.
From hearts to infinity. ❤️🩹
Something beautiful in the universe must be able to see how much a person who has experienced brokenness can also feel inspired to be able to feel healed, and to be able to feel whole again.
It can happen.
I am going to be with good people again. I am with one now. I will have a work situation that is good, and not traumatizing, with people who are good, and it will be healthy, and I will be able to make enough money to feel good about what I am learning. Because that can happen!
Hope to feel much better and more fixed very soon.
I guess I know what it's like to try to help yourself by learning more about stuff that's outside of what mainstream patriarchal society wants to give you.
I was just thinking that it was so nice not to have hours of panic attacks, like I had had earlier in the week, and glad that learning about some pressure points did at least help (but not cure it all), but my temporary crown felt like it was made of puzzle pieces and then it broke.
Brokenness has come to consciousness.
Be more creative and less cruel; that could help.
Being cruel and exclusionary and oppressive is not okay. Even if others told you it was, it's not. Even if you got rewarded for it in some ways. What if you can stop being so cruel to yourself and others? Cruelty hurts, a lot. There are much better ways to be.
Play some soothing music before you sleep.
I need to survive without getting more hurt by immature patriarchal people who seem into being destructive and cruel, for no truly good reason, out of...what, exactly? Self-absorption?
That would be so much better.
I wish a temporary hadn't broken off my tooth and I wish people you'd think would know better would stop being immature jerks along with their great fortune(?) to fit in with toxic misogynistic patriarchal norms.
Wednesday, May 17, 2023
So tiresome.
"I think the fact that Depp’s jokes about the murder and rape of a woman have been so readily dismissed is significant. We dismiss them because the abuse of women is so easily ignored, undermined, or derided in our society. Depp manages to maintain his 'sweet Johnny' persona in spite of his hateful words because the vulgar, disrespectful and obscene attitudes to women that were exposed during the trial mean nothing to us – we can accept that they’re jokes because we don’t take misogyny seriously."
~ Katie Edwards
https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/johnny-depp-cancel-culture-amber-heard-b2340565.html
That's apparent.
"Journalist Spit on by Johnny Depp’s Cannes Director Speaks Out: Maiwenn Is ‘Outspokenly Anti-#MeToo’ (EXCLUSIVE)"
You're already starting to change, Patriarchal Ones.
"While awkwardly long ovations are par for the course at Cannes, keep in mind they’re applauding for a man who once texted with his buddy about raping and immolating his ex’s corpse."
~ Bindu Basinath
"Johnny Depp Got a Seven-Minute Standing Ovation At Cannes"
https://www.thecut.com/2023/05/johnny-depp-got-a-seven-minute-standing-ovation-at-cannes.html
What about "Impotent" instead of "Important." Is that, like "Okay Humor?"
"The last gasp of 'It's Terribly Impotent / Important for a Few Well-off Dudes to be Sure that Everything and Everyone is Accomodating Them the Most at the Expense of Others' is back for another season!"
Potentially more and more interesting...and the future unfolds?
"Menstrual Equity Act For All" & "Educators and Students Join Dolores Huerta to Oppose Kern County Board Attacks"
Tuesday, May 16, 2023
Today's humorous message from The Universe...
A woman in a parking lot was wearing a t-shirt which said, "Hang On. Let Me Overthink This."
I don't know why, but humans can really confuse themselves...
...and each other, when they are dealing with their own traumas.
In the morning, it was impossible to be as I am now. Now, it is much better. I can see I have many things to work on. But I was so distracted. "That really happened and it was so terrible and I can't stop feeling how unfair it is." Some of it came up because of what I had been reading lately. It all seemed so much more vivid now than it had been in the past. It seems as though I let trauma from the past inside, and it was steering everything, and it was not the first time that had happened.
I had to go out, so I used some pressure points to relieve anxiety, which actually did help. Acute anxiety that makes you feel like you can't go on also cannot last forever. I nearly missed a dental appointment, but I was able to process things. Eventually, I told myself "People wouldn't have wanted you to be stuck in their worst times and traumas, and they would want you to heal, and your healing can help humanity more." I believed that. It helped, and I think I am better state of mind now.
I am a beginner. I don't have it all figured out. Perhaps I want to be so skilled at getting better at healing internal trauma that it's not reliant on how others (who are dealing with their own traumas) are acting, or if they are being "understanding." Learning and growing and being able to change little by little is the best I am able to do for now.
And foremost.
Accepting help from the universe on how to get better at accepting healing and all the good things to help healing be first priority.
Best to be more trustworthy for wellness and health reasons.
Just being a basically respectful and honest and decent person to self and to other people is far more important than some people seem to know, based on their choices, actions, behaviors...but it would make so much of a difference for so many reasons.
Help Us, WonderFul Sleep. Blessed Rest.
Please let me become so good at learning how to live healthy life. I am dizzy, and not sure if cramming in rereading Anne Frank's diary from an online source was wise. I only did that because I felt good after lying on the grass in a park and...let's just do the Zen coloring app now and go to bed.
Monday, May 15, 2023
A more accurate name! And other interesting stuff.
"Van Gogh Painting Gets a New Name Thanks to an Eagle-Eyed Chef."
https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/van-gogh-red-cabbages-onions-garlic-180982155/
Isn't it kinda funny?
You know how you always want to think it's the other person and not you who looks away and makes excuses for abuses when something really unbalanced is going on, but you found a way to get some benefits from going along with it?
If all four are good, which one is especially helpful today? 🩷
"My mom has 4 rules for a meaningful, fulfilled life: A happiness expert says she ‘loves’ them"
https://www.cnbc.com/2023/05/14/my-moms-4-rules-for-a-happy-fulfilled-engaged-life.html
Library book getting popular again?
Today in the early morning: wait time 4 weeks. Today in the early afternoon: wait time 6 weeks.
And in writing...
"I knew that Anne wrote a diary. She spoke about her diary. She left her diary with me at night in a briefcase next to my bed. I had promised her never to look in. I never did.
“When I returned, and after I had the news that my children would not come back, Miep gave me the diary, which had been saved by, I should say, a miracle. It took me a very long time to read it, and I must say I was very much surprised about the deep thoughts Anne had, her seriousness — especially her self-criticism.
“It was quite a different Anne [than] I had known as my daughter. She never really showed this kind of inner feeling. She talked about many things, we criticized many things, but what really her feelings were, I only could see from the diary.
“And my conclusion is, as I had been in very, very good terms with Anne, that most parents don’t know, really, their children.”
~ Otto Frank
https://studentactivism.net/2015/01/02/otto-frank-on-not-knowing-his-daughter/
I went there for work when I was younger!
"Otto Frank talks about Anne's diary"
https://www.facebook.com/annefrankhouse/videos/otto-frank-talks-about-annes-diary/10154662225741717/
This clip I saw at Anne Frank Huis in early winter of 2001 is available online now, and it is one of the things that I remembered the most about visiting the museum.
"It will be so crowded," my coworkers said. Even on a weekday. But it wasn't! When I went there, it was not as they said it would be.
It happened.
"I know a man who treats humans better all of the time" MET "And it's still very clear you have got to start treating human beings better than what you were doing, for your own good."
I get it, and that's how it has to be.
The collusion in the 2020s was SO unhealthy. Really. Maybe later we can talk about that in more detail.
Okay, I get it.
"Mrs. X cannot be good to you until she finds a way to liberate herself from Oppressive Patriarchal Norms."
How about that?
It looks like they have more in the latest published versions of Anne Frank's diary than they had in the one we read when I was in school.
Ah, an uplifting take on reality!
"Van Gogh Painting Gets a New Name Thanks..."
https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/van-gogh-red-cabbages-onions-garlic-180982155/
Thoughtful Lately?
"X has been listening to "Dudes who are happier and less misogynistic than the ones that I've been around' in preparation for Next Time. And "How to treat human beings better than the women they've hanging around with, too."
Bigger picture...
"But lots of people reward me for being a callous jerk if I give them money or access to spaces" so what? You deserve better than that too, actually.
Quit being so callous to him and to her, too.
You are capable of treating girls and women much better. AND there are guys who are, frankly, much nicer, more responsible, and more respectful to ordinary people than you were rewarded for being by the society you chose in this life. So it is also possible for you to become better at it before you have your great transition into whatever is next for you.
Sunday, May 14, 2023
Do I hear what I hear...
I hear they're getting better at giving away things and learning more about energy medicine these days.
Oh well.
Why Margaux, why Anne Frank, why anybody, why am I tired, why "This is Ground Control to Major Tom" in your head, why not nap a little.
Celebrating Noted.
"In the meantime, all three said they celebrate new technology that has helped make Mother’s Day less bitter. In years past, there was only one phone on the farm or they had to buy long-distance calling cards, but now the moms are grateful they can talk to their children on their cell phones and see them on video."
~ Isabel Inclan
"Migrant farm workers separated from their children"
https://ca.news.yahoo.com/migrant-farm-workers-separated-children-195554813.html
Blessed Be Your Health & The Health of Your Mother Earth 🌏
"From the air we breathe to the water we drink to the soil that grows our food – humanity's health depends on the health of Mother Earth."
~ António Guterres (UN Secretary-General) on International Mother Earth Day
You found "Lena: My 100 Children (1987)" on Mother's Day!
It feels ready to be so appreciated in these appropriate times! Well, the mom who was our junior high social studies teacher also made an impression on us...
Watch "Lena: My 100 Children (1987) | Full Movie |
https://youtu.be/uN2_itvawgo
Saturday, May 13, 2023
Hopefully better times are ahead!
The way they and many of their sexist friends have treated women and girls still makes me feel very nauseated.
Well, what do you think is "too toxic"?
"Too narcissistic to care about very basic human rights for x kinds of people" is too toxic.
When fortified...
Why not pray for the many who were made to leave work places which did not have enough respect for them!
Like, remember that thing that was said that one time...and then there were other times...
No, not you. Talking to the other one. Oh, well... maybe you too, then?
Sleeping on it might be good.
What if you feel more inclined to behave differently, for health reasons, in the next life, like, maybe after your next good nap?
4 is Late AND Early
When "If we'd met when we were younger, things would've been better" met "Oh, we did meet when we were younger, and that was better."
Friday, May 12, 2023
These are a few of life's cattier things...
"Different kind of claw machine"
https://www.reddit.com/r/Unexpected/comments/13cnm5p/different_kind_of_claw_machine/
"If it's cakes, I takes."
https://www.reddit.com/r/aww/comments/13awxym/if_its_cakes_i_takes/
"Dutch Breakfast Review"
https://www.reddit.com/r/2westerneurope4u/comments/139hk0m/dutch_breakfast_review/
"i have no idea what this cat is doing"
https://www.reddit.com/r/cats/comments/13cg3rf/i_have_no_idea_what_this_cat_is_doing/
Alas, a dizzy spell...
Life needs to let me know what I should do next for my health, to improve it and such.
And besides this...
"Anne Frank series A Small Light 'clears the cobwebs off the history'"
https://www.radiotimes.com/tv/drama/a-small-light-clears-cobwebs-exclusive-newsupdate/
It makes me pause in a thrift shop to notice that a person is shelving an Elie Wiesel book below me.
Well, maybe that's where "he is one of us"' comes from...
"Slinging mud at Trump is exactly his brand. And he markets and relishes it."
Fun Sight ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜
A bearded guy pedaling a bike with four children in a cart behind him who wore a rainbow shirt or jacket with the words "Don't Let The Bastards Get You Down."
They should ask the universe for help in getting better.
Since their addictions to narcissistic behaviors can cause them to lack empathy, to be too abusive, & too dehumanizing, & to traumatize people.
I think it would be better if they asked the universe for help in getting more truly and deeply healed more quickly.
They could've been better.
It feels like some people would have been better to others and probably also to themselves if a lot of enablers hadn't still been making excuses for their addictions in exchange for some kinds of "rewards."
Have recently felt it's very sad that some people are still so conditioned to make excuses for unwell, abusive behaviors. It adds to the trauma, and makes them enablers of abusive behaviors.
Positive Thoughts for The Future, Yes.
You can work on having both a career and empathy, instead of sacrificing empathy just to fit in with some toxic jerks in order to also have a career!
Is it possible that being rewarded for immaturity makes some people stagnate in their own selfishness?
Sometimes, but perhaps not for always, and perhaps not for forever, maybe?
Something to look forward to?
The day you stop giving off those "Yes, part of me knows better, but unfortunately I am still not ready to stop making excuses for certain abuses, because..." vibes.
Also in existence on this planet 🌎
Patriarchal people who KNOW others should stop making excuses for their bad behaviors in exchange for rewards or social acceptance or access to certain spaces (even though that's what many were trained to do), and are WILLING to make changes for the BETTER.
Thursday, May 11, 2023
They exist in the world.
Why not be more like the parents or grandparents or aunts or uncles or neighbors or...Human Beings...who definitely didn't want to go along with oppressive rape culture?
Selfishness and oppression are what the Unwell Patriarchal People refuse to look at... because...they are made unwell by selfishness & oppression.
"Susie
@Homeoffree61
You will see more since #Roe is gone. It’s horrific what these states have done. Honestly, I’m angry at our entire government. This should have never happened to force children to give birth. It’s #CrimesAgainsHumanity #CrimesAgainstChildren
4:08 PM · May 11, 2023
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https://twitter.com/Homeoffree61/status/1656798559847559168?s=20
"Susie@Homeoffree61
'Do you think this girl should have had to carry her father’s baby to term at barely 13? 1969 #PreRoe This is me, Susie .. Rise up and let’s get our rights back. ❤️🙋🏻♀️'"
Feelings happen.
This made me feel like saying, "Stop traumatizing people just to go along with your 'friends.'" Just because some nuns also traumatized people because that's what they were trained to do by Their Patriarchal Culture, too, doesn't mean you have to be as insensitive as the laughing nuns and cult mentality audiences on CNN just to fit in with other bullies who make excuses for all kinds of abuses.
Susie on Twitter: "
5)🧵When I heard the audience laughing on
@CNN
about rape, I went back to that dark place of the “laughter of my naked self, pregnant abused girl” and felt a searing pain. I felt they would laugh at me. Probably so. #CNNTownhall
11:08 AM · May 11, 2023
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Just to fit in with other bullies who make excuses for all kinds of abuses
"Susie@Homeoffree61
4)🧵 I went into the bathroom and took the shower curtain off to wrap around my body.. The nuns did not return for 3 days with food or my bedding / clothing. I ate what they gave me. I was starving and pregnant. Never laugh at a survivor. Ever."
10:54 AM · May 11, 2023
Doesn't mean you have to be as insensitive as the laughing nuns and cult mentality audiences on CNN
"Susie@Homeoffree61
3)🧵 I crouched down on the floor completely naked as the nuns laughed at me and how 'big I had gotten'. Mother Marie said 'Susan, you will learn to appreciate the food given to you!'. They walked out and locked the door. The cot had coil springs and my mattress was gone."
10:54 AM · May 11, 2023
Because that's what they were trained to do by Their Patriarchal Culture, too...
"Susie@Homeoffree61
2)🧵 Sister Mary Ann asked why I didn’t eat it. I told her it was raw. She said, 'Mother Marie will be very angry' , and left. Later, Mother Marie came in with three other nuns and said, 'Strip it'! I was about 8 mo preg. They took all my bedding and my nightgown and underwear..."
10:54 AM · May 11, 2023
Just because some nuns also traumatized people ...
"Susie
@Homeoffree61
1) 🧵When I was raped by my father in 1969, and got pregnant, I was sent to a nunnery/ orphanage to have the baby. I was locked in the attic for 3 months and had no air. My meal came. It was a few little things and a raw drumstick. I could not eat it. I left the drumstick."
10:54 AM · May 11, 2023
This made me feel like saying, "Stop traumatizing people just to go along with your 'friends.'"
Susie on Twitter: "
5)🧵When I heard the audience laughing on @CNN about rape, I went back to that dark place of the “laughter of my naked self, pregnant abused girl” and felt a searing pain. I felt they would laugh at me. Probably so. #CNNTownhall"
11:08 AM · May 11, 2023
And when the cousin grew up, he wrote an opera about her?
"Dolores Huerta, cousin to receive USC doctorate"
https://news.usc.edu/207849/dolores-huerta-cousin-usc-doctorates-opera/
"Just Say NO" to blatantly abusive patriarchs, at least. Please.
"In the years since Donald Trump first descended the escalator at his eponymous tower to rail against Mexicans while launching his campaign for president, he has shown himself to be a liar, a sociopath, a bigot, and a demagogue. He was impeached twice, criminally indicted, and found liable in civil court for sexually abusing an advice columnist in a Bergdorf Goodman dressing room. He fostered a deadly riot at the U.S. Capitol after lying about the results of the 2020 presidential election, continues to lie about the outcome of said election, and is being criminally investigated in Georgia on charges related to his efforts to overturn said election. He hoarded classified documents at his Florida home and ignored subpoenas to return them. He has a history of coddling and emulating dictators around the world. He lies as easily as he breathes, about pretty much everything."
~ Justin Peters
https://slate.com/business/2023/05/trump-cnn-town-hall-kaitlan-collins-new-hampshire-disaster.html