Maybe some with addictions to certain coping mechanisms or patterns need more time to heal.

This weekend, it was suggested to me that narcissists feel the need to have a lot of "flying monkeys" and dependents to do their bidding.

Maybe the ones who act like they are bullies addicted to controlling others just have fear & insecurity issues, and that's why they get pulled into bullying certain types of people more than others. 

Perhaps that is why some still feel they have to keep on gaslighting and manipulating others in very unhealthy ways just to have a sense of control over their own reality.

Patriarchal Norms may prefer that certain people act like narcissists, or like insecure dependents who rely upon gaslighting others to pretend their systemic dehumanizing is okay, but how could that ever be sustainable? 

And why do you suppose some will never be able to act like making Unhealthy Patriarchy #1 at the expense of real human beings is their purpose in this life?