Maybe Your Brother Friend Can Do That, Too

Maybe if he works on respecting and healing himself more then it will come naturally to him to be more honest when he interacts with others and then he won't have to do anymore of that "But I put down myself after I put down others to make it seem like that's just the way it is, and then it looks like it's all just a joke anyway, and so long as I put myself down, too, I can convince myself that it's more 'even' now" nonsense anymore.