Sometimes patriarchal women act like difficult men, too.

"Upton Sinclair once wrote that 'It is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends upon his not understanding it.' In almost exactly the same manner, it is difficult to get a straight white man to acknowledge his privileges when his self-image depends on him not doing so. Which is to say there is a very large number of straight white men who absolutely do not wish to acknowledge just how thoroughly and deeply their privileges are systemically embedded into day-to-day life. A fair number of this sort of dude read the piece (or more perhaps more accurately, read the headline, since a lot of their specific complaints about the piece were in fact addressed in the piece itself) and refused to entertain the notion there might be something to it. Which is their privilege (heh), but doesn’t make them right."

~ John Scalzi

“Straight White Male: The Lowest Difficulty Setting,” Ten Years On | Whatever

https://whatever.scalzi.com/2022/05/18/straight-white-male-the-lowest-difficulty-setting-ten-years-on/