Addictions can make one feel sad

Some people have trained themselves to be more okay with sexism as a way of going along with the culture, and to disregard the safety of others. As long as it's certain people who do that thing, or behave in certain ways, it's apparently okay with them. And they are more sympathetic to certain people for certain reasons...But it's still not healthy. Because if gaslighting others is a form of being supportive of the conditions they need, in order to be in the "we are this kind of people" category, making themselves in a cohort with enablers of oppression (and in some cases, rape culture) is just a kind of short-term survival strategy.

But it is not sustainable.