If you ever do have a heart for someone like Mily

 "Women Farmworkers Demand Change"

https://progressive.org/op-eds/women-farmworkers-demand-change-trevinosauceda-220214/

Then maybe not replicating the old patriarchal patterns that seem to turn otherwise nice people into behaving like immature and unnecessarily self-absorbed assholes is the new way consider being in the world.

"Conan O’Brien Can’t Stop being a jerk" | The Filmsmith

https://thefilmsmith.com/2011/06/27/conan-obrien-cant-stop-being-a-jerk/