"The first time he screams, or lies, or steals, it’s easy to show grace and patience. But after the thirtieth time? The fiftieth? The hundredth? It gets a lot harder to empathize with how he’s feeling."
"We like to put parameters on other people’s healing. We like to think we understand how long is 'long enough' for someone to display the affects of their trauma. We like to believe we know how much empathy a person is allowed to have before they’ve met their limit and shouldn’t be given anymore. We like to decide when people ought to have 'learned by now,' instead of understanding that we have no idea how long it will take them to learn or adjust."
~ W.R. Cummings
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/childhood-behavioral/2020/03/what-the-hardest-year-of-my-life-taught-me-about-kids-who-dont-deserve-gentleness/?li_source=LI&li_medium=popular17
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