Oh dear

It's the heartbreak of happy/sad.

Happy: no agonizing cramps today. It's a great thing.
Sad: still very coughy in the a.m. and something else....

Sometimes, people's sexism and rudeness is sad. Like when your friend is sexist for no good reason except that he got stereotypical attitudes engrained in him, but you are in denial about it. Then not only do I deal with x being untrustworthy, but you too, because you try to justify his ugly behavior. I want to get away from the unhealthiness, like escaping from a group of unreliable drug addicts.

But hope that rehab is transformative one day.