Time for new scenery

Where is your integrity if you are constantly making excuses for untrustworthy, sexist behavior which harms and degrades the experiences of people who could otherwise be having a much better experience? Both men and women continue to do this, and what could have been much better turns into a terrible experience.

If it is so harmful it alienates people who would have been successful if they had just gone along with the sexism, that is a toxic environment. It's gross. It doesn't matter if you are a woman who is fine with it or if so and so's wife was taught  to make excuses for him because "boys will be boys." That's not good enough  anymore, and it shouldnt have been before. "But its different when he does it because..." No, its not. You lost trust.

Have you ever met some people whose behavior made you think, Wow, even after time has passed, you are still not even a little bit trustworthy. Instead, you are amazingly unethical and ensconced in alarmingly sexist systematic scenarios in which you make excuses for mediocrity just to preserve status quo.

Maybe consider trying to make it better for the next generation when you get up the courage to do so.