Being in the world

"Survivors of abuse and trauma need to focus on self-compassion, far more than a positive attitude."

https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2014/06/25/focus-on-a-positive-attitude-not-wise-advice-for-healing-abuse-survivors/

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"Hypermasculinity portrays violence and physical aggression as manly ideals" ... "If these are the values that you think define what it means to be a man… well, you are sad, strange little beings and you have my pity."

http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2013/03/selling-masculinity/

"gatekeeping" ...  "They need to prove they're one of the 'good' ones, the nerd equivalent of Gillian Flynn's Cool Girl whose Just One of The Guys " ... "entitlement" ... "we can be better than this"

"we can be better than this" 
"we can be better than this" 
"we can be better than this" 

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/geek-behaviors-that-drive-women-away-dg/