Sometimes you might feel as if you just have to survive for a while knowing that you were traumatized by a culture, and part of the trauma of the culture was that it runs on the egos of self-absorbed people. It wouldn't be such a traumatizing culture if self-absorbed people weren't trained to contribute to the traumatization aspects of the culture, and they are rewarded by certain aspects of the culture for doing so. Maybe their needs to be a part of the self-absorption is also part of their own trauma. It's just expressing itself in its own weird way.
Tuesday, December 09, 2025
The good part about cleaning neglected corners
Death and Vanilla - "To Where the Wild Things Are (Full Album)"
https://youtube.com/watch?v=RcKVAayA7qk&si=VVAagCzGOTrHkl4k
Coming across a note about "California Owls" by Death and Vanilla and listening to the whole album, while cleaning, and processing...
Sometimes, you just need to find a spiritual text.
I just read in a spiritual book about a very young cat who didn't know how to take care of her kittens and she tried to pull away from them. So the owner tried helping but it wasn't working and the owner was afraid the kittens would die. Then she remembered the "Feline Species Species Elemental Guardians" and called on them for help to show her cat how to care for the kittens, and then the cat became a wonderful and devoted mother!
"Angelo's Message: Angelo, the Angel Cat, Speaks..."
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52790480-angelo-s-message
Oh my gosh, there might be a Dutch edition.
"Angelo’s boodschap"
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52790480-angelo-s-message
I forgot about learning Dutch. I have really slacked off on that for several months. But I wanted to read Anne Frank's diary in the original, which apparently is a bit difficult cuz it's sort of a Dutch mangled by German but anyways. I could do again!
To forget is human, and to remember is better for humans.
"...eating all the food and people forget where that food is coming from."
"Some farmworkers receiving gifts fear ICE" | KTVU
These are interesting times!
Well, I guess the people who didn't like the "Barbie" movie SO much that they actually put out a sign alongside the road about it got their wish to put the most authoritarian male celebrity in charge, and now look at this:
"making a vintage Barbie bloom jelly cakeπΈπa dreamy mix of pink & yellow✨π©·π"
@sweetzori
https://youtube.com/shorts/65qgqoMEs6c?si=y-AU04di6wiCcJTA
It's nice!
What might one make of this?
"Ricky Gervais Told Us Everything Back in 2020: His Golden Globes Monologue Revisited"
That was almost like something out of a movie, but this is different.
When the moms who mansplain mansplained the benefits of the mansplaining to the children of men...IRL.
The nuance is coming!
"Here’s why we can’t get rid of ‘mansplaining’"
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/dec/04/heres-why-we-cant-get-rid-of-mansplaining
"‘Mansplaining’ was once a contender for word of the year..."
https://www.theguardian.com/media/2025/dec/01/mansplaining-contender-word-of-the-year-rage-bait
"'Mansplaining’ is different from other criticism..."
Think I'll pick something from each.
"We asked critics from authoritarian regimes what they wish they’d known sooner. Here’s what they said"
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/dec/09/experts-authoritarian-regimes-trump
"Kapronczay says she’s learned that opposition leaders need to pay closer attention to pocketbook issues. 'Standing up for democracy, resisting and all this very abstract language will not reach the majority of society,' she said. 'It’s only a very small progressive circle that resonates with that kind of messaging.'
But the authoritarian turn also 'posed an opportunity for self-reflection,' she said. 'If our previous tools are no longer working, how can we serve our mission in a more impactful way?'
~~~~~~
“'When they come to power for the second time, they feel more ruthless, and they behave as if there are no boundaries any more,' said Temelkuran. 'I think especially in the leader’s head, that association of ‘me and the country’ [being] the same thing becomes very prominent when they seize power for the second time.'
Temelkuran had been reporting throughout Turkey as a columnist for the newspaper Milliyet during ErdoΔan’s rise in 2002. Early on, she saw his authoritarian tendencies: he regularly disparaged journalists and seemed to have little interest in politics as usual.
'[Autocrats] declare themselves as beyond politics,' said Temelkuran. '[They say:] ‘Politics is corrupt. Parties are corrupt. We’re clean.’ They create a movement, not a party.
'When you despise politics, that means that you are probably going to do something to democracy itself,' she added."
~~~~~~
“'You cannot make authoritarian leaders the center of your narrative,' said Ortiz. 'You have to make the people the center of your narrative, and you have to be passionate about it.'
She said that means doing more to engage with citizens – and being prepared to be surprised by what they say. 'A part of the cure for this is listening to people,' she said. 'Don’t be so certain about what they want, what they need. You have to ask.'”
~ Danielle Renwick
Perhaps tomorrow will be a better day!
Well, I didn't see the movie in question (or I don't remember seeing the whole thing from start to finish, at any rate) but maybe QT will figure out why he has a compulsive need to act like a jerk sometimes.
"Daniel Day-Lewis defends Paul Dano after Tarantino criticism"
“'There Will Be Blood would stand a good chance at being No 1 or 2 if it didn’t have a big, giant flaw in it … and the flaw is Paul Dano,' said Tarantino.
'Obviously, it’s supposed to be a two-hander, but it’s also drastically obvious that it’s not a two-hander. [Dano] is weak sauce, man. He is the weak sister. Austin Butler would have been wonderful in that role. He’s just such a weak, weak, uninteresting guy. The weakest fucking actor in SAG.'"
~ Catherine Shoard
Is he trying to exercise demons, or exorcise demons, or something? Does a demon sit on his shoulder and say "Hey, say this now. Just do it. See what happens!"
"It's a community service!"
"Quentin Tarantino has strong opinions about Paul Dano and none of them are right"
https://www.theguardian.com/film/2025/dec/03/paul-dano-quentin-tarantino-opinions
“'So you put him with the weakest male actor in SAG?' Tarantino replied, somehow forgetting he is probably the weakest male actor in the Screen Actors Guild. When Ellis asked if Tarantino had ever enjoyed Dano in any project, he replied: 'I don’t care for him. I don’t care for him, I don’t care for Owen Wilson, and I don’t care for Matthew Lillard.' What does he have against twitchy white guys?"
~ Sian Cain
I would like to try regular fresh black currants.
"McCormick predicts this flavor will dominate menus"
https://www.cnn.com/2025/12/09/food/mccormick-flavor-of-the-year-2026
Their oil helped me out a lot.
"Black currant seed oil for menstruation"
Ugh!
"My grandma didn't have as much access to library books when she was hiding away in an attic and she survived, so I think they'll live."
"Oh, do be quiet."
If your kids are expected to have less access to books then their forebears, that is bizarro.
"Public libraries in TX, LA, and MS Are No Longer Protected By The First Amendment"
https://lithub.com/public-libraries-in-tx-la-and-ms-are-no-longer-protected-by-the-first-amendment/
I feel like a picture of a kid with eyes bugging out and chin drawn back and a grimace on the face would really accompany this well.
Change is so impossible to avoid!
I'm so glad nobody ever expects to replicate Grandpa's life cuz he's not going to be able to do it either.
Back to the comforting and inspiring role models of 1936! Harkening back to an even earlier era.
"Little Lord Fauntleroy" | Free Drama Movie
ArtflixMovieClassics
Oh well. Look elsewhere, I guess.
"Public libraries in TX, LA, and MS Are No Longer Protected By The First Amendment"
https://lithub.com/public-libraries-in-tx-la-and-ms-are-no-longer-protected-by-the-first-amendment/
"I have no comforting words."
~ Drew Broussard
I got a positive thought now!
Looking forward to hanging out with an open-minded mom who doesn't mind that I bring up these topics sometimes. She just kind of magically doesn't mind it. I don't know why. Why do you think that could be?
Considering your culture and all.
Gee, I wonder how the situation could have gotten even worse for your daughters?
So silly! So damaging! What a bizarre cult!
Patriarchy is like this:
How to act like you do not care about most girls and women (some kinds of mothers are possibly the exception), but also act like men with money are way more important than anyone else.
And if you're a woman who gets married, you're supposed to change your name to the man's last name, but the opposite is never expected of him!
And that's only the tip of the iceberg! That's just the service level stuff!
No wonder a lot of people don't want to talk about even more complex things if they still don't want to address those surface level oddities.
Another thought floating up.
Oh well, again.
Before I finally surrender to the music that will let me sleep...
These are just some thoughts that sort of floated up.
More humans could level up the self-love. They'd be nicer to others if they actually did love themselves, instead of just doing a lot of weird other stuff that is like cosplaying cuz that's what a lot of the big people around them did when they were growing up.
J'ever want angels to help?
Like, oh my God, can you imagine less than 100 years ago people were hiding in an attic from the Nazis and a girl with a grumpy dentist as a roommate was writing a diary. Like, do you ever want the angels to help you with having more patience with people ?
Like, oh my God, you're so much better than the bad ones were to them, right? Like, you're really milking this for all it's worth.
Okay, well my brain's doing stuff. I wasn't ready to listen to enough flute music yet.
Sigh!
What a funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny, funny time!
I like this thought process.
Maybe this is a good, or even excellent, time to give yourself more permission to heal than the culture ever expected.
Maybe if you give yourself more permission to heal than the culture ever expected, then you don't have to wait for other people or the culture to change before you get the good healing benefits.
To get back to the peaceful sleep state...
"From Root to Crown: A 432Hz Flute Journey..."
Codythesoundhealer
Perhaps more people will begin expecting better.
Paris Paloma - "LABOUR (the cacophony) [Official Lyrics]"
"Normal" is a colonial spell?
"'Normal' was never a neutral word..."
kristina.kyser.phd
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRN75SPjzg2/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
Dearest, here's a classic film of another era π₯️
"Little Lord Fauntleroy" | Free Drama Movie
ArtflixMovieClassics
So revolutionary.
"Schopenhauer's Advice to Gifted Children"
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/perfectionism/202511/schopenhauers-advice-to-gifted-children
"Chasing fame and acclaim doesn't necessarily prove your worth."
Leon Garber
"What Plato Understood About Betrayal That the Stoics Missed"
"When someone returns to destructive patterns, when they repeat the behaviors that destroyed previous relationships, when they remain in denial about addictions they claim to have conquered—these are not random events. They are the predictable expressions of a disordered soul."
Chester H. Sunde
Blink, blink, blink...amended.
Some patriarchal parents were just explaining how whatever was awful for others still felt awesome to them because "People are assholes."
Amended: "So many people were trained to act like assholes, and some of those who could do better still don't want to figure it out, because it appears to be more convenient for them to keep on doing whatever they were trained to do."
"And I guess you're just tired, and you really don't feel like dealing with them right now."
"For you, they have lost their charm."
Monday, December 08, 2025
Benefits have benefits.
I don't think the title of this is quite true anymore.
"Why do women challenge beauty norms only after they age out of them?"
@NoRulesFilmSchool
https://youtube.com/shorts/y7WtbO2bnMA?si=ppGe4xdmFavrWlSI
It was true of some people in this life. More people can realize they deserve better at earlier stages in life.
Evolution is good.
There are people who want to help themselves and others, and it's not like they're always gonna be perfect at it, but that's generally what they want in this life, and that's good to know, and it will be good to see more of that. It's very different from wanting to be liked or gain access to comforts at the expense of others, which is an older coping mechanism that hasn't been working as well for some people.
I suppose people can't all be insecure in the same ways, in a society that is designed to make so many people feel very insecure.
"ICE fears alter annual California farmworker holiday caravan" | KTVU FOX 2
https://www.ktvu.com/news/ice-fears-alter-annual-california-farmworker-holiday-caravan
"Half of Farmworkers Are Food Insecure"
https://fresnoalliance.com/half-of-farmworkers-are-food-insecure/
Who isn't?
"She was also extremely mercantile"
"Prairie Fires – the American Dreams of Laura Ingalls Wilder, by Caroline Fraser | Bob's Books"
Were they ever thinking about how it wasn't even that good for them, either???
"They were very caught up in defending a way of life they had been taught to adhere to. So, no, they were not really thinking about that."
Okay, thank you!
Whenever the snobby, self-absorbed patriarchal people are making themselves feel more important by acting like they don't care about others again, remember the really good Grandma energy!
Sunday, December 07, 2025
A lot can change.
I'm watching the flower farm show before a subscription runs out tonight. Some really wonderful, beautiful, breathtaking images!
"Growing Floret Season 2" - Official Trailer
https://youtube.com/watch?v=wyDBOokxsDU&si=pdZUyh_4VKL2wSFw
"Diana Marcum wrote about Kjessie Essue, a flower farmer..."
'Flower farm blooms in the ashes of the Dixie Fire"
On the bright side...
'Karoline Leavitt’s Detained Relative Torches Her From ICE Custody"
https://www.thedailybeast.com/karoline-leavitts-detained-relative-torches-her-from-ice-custody/
Oh I just saw something in this guy! In the sky.
"You'll take the high road and I'll take the laurel road..." No, that's not it!
"Lyrics for Loch Lomond"
For a number of reasons.
I guess all those stories about parents having earnest conversations about civil rights with their children really stand out.
Who is this supposed to benefit?
"Yosemite loses MLK, Juneteenth free entry under Trump plan"
https://www.sfchronicle.com/outdoors/article/trump-parks-mlk-juneteenth-yosemite-21227834.php
Might be a great time to address your childhood wounds.
I don't know why that poem popped in my head. It didn't happen to me. It happened to somebody else.
"Incident"| The Poetry Foundation
https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/42618/incident-56d2213a45f36
It really does seem like that's possible.
I'm sure some people have wanted to act in ways that are better and more healing and more compassionate!
Considering some other sounds too...
"Forgiveness & Letting Go Sound Bath" - 432hz Crystal Bowls
Healing Vibrations
https://youtube.com/watch?v=OfLcj2U99Ew&si=BE3cLuOIZ3zWRgHN
"Riding the Ascension Wave | Light Codes for Change"
Joanne Cary
Maybe you should think about flowers.
Everything going okay here? No kidnappings of the wrong kinds of people or anything?
"Floret Flowers - We are a small family farm..."
On the path of getting better at being more health-oriented.
It's already time to get calmer about getting back to calming the self after getting upset about the repetitive gullibility and disrespectful behaviors that some ill people have indulged in, just to obtain some of the little rewards that an unwell culture proffers to the more patriarchal women and men. Perhaps to forgive more and be in pursuit of a better course is what's best for now. That way you're not oppressing yourself more on top of everything else that's already happened.
Saturday, December 06, 2025
I wonder if these could ever get scanned and be available to check out through a library?
"WomanSpirit Magazine" - Feminist Spirituality
Got curious about some people again.
"The genteel, silver-tongued thinker who fathered US conservatism – and paved the way for Trump"| Biography books | The Guardian
https://www.theguardian.com/books/2025/jun/04/william-f-buckley-book-trump
"Sam Tanenhaus on Bill Buckley"
https://substack.com/@sullydish/note/p-164011199?r=1oj2u
"Sam Tanenhaus | Full Episode 12.5.25 | Firing Line"
https://youtube.com/watch?v=bLbVqwsQGhA&si=Z2RE8-Ro8rK9anez
Also got curious about this fellow:
"Gore Vidal" - Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gore_Vidal
Man, what terrible things he said about the Roman Polanski rape case.
I noticed something really odd: I actually didn't feel a lot of rage about this. I guess it's because I never really read anything by him before, and I was just reading about him now, out of curiosity.
I did feel sick though. Physically ill.
And I felt almost a weird kind of awe or curiosity about how badly he got warped by his patriarchal culture. It really got into his brain, the patriarchy did. His need to dehumanize her so much just seemed so bizarre and unbelievable.
Wonder what he might have said about the victims of Epstein. Ugh.
That could be true.
"Maybe sometimes when you're being grumpy and sarcastic, you could find a better coping mechanism. How about that?"
How to take care of your grouchy side.
And sometimes your ovaries are doing things to you, too. Oh, it's so much. Yet another unique situation on this planet.
This is why we need a better matriarchy.
So glad things weren't as bad this time as they used to be.
Liberals who were trained to be patriarchal could reach out more to the conservatives who are always acting like abusive men are more important than anyone else and bond with them by discussing the similarities and differences in their coping mechanisms because then SOME people won't have to feel so bad, as if they were the only ones on their worst behavior or something.
They are unpleasant, but they're not usually kidnappers.
πͺ·π️π§πΌ♀️
"YOU are the violence you need to stop."
hellolanemoore
My grandpa was a real winner at purchasing property and home ownership.
Was he?
What evidence do you have for that?
He joined ICE.
He did it the tough guy way.
Like a real winner.
It was exactly what his parents wanted.
They couldn't have been any prouder.
My Grandma did whatever Grandpa told her to do, even if it was bad for her health.
Did that make her feel more cozy and accepted?
Grandpa enjoyed eating cookies more than ever.
"So while my grandma was getting chased by ICE, what coping strategies was your grandpa using?"
So far.
I wonder if ICE hasn't come around these parts so much because it's a very conservative area, and maybe, just maybe, the spirit of Buckley is protecting us?
Maybe he was the one who told the owners of several little ethnic restaurants to shut down, to leave and seek greener pastures elsewhere.
What else would he do?
Away in a manger, no crib for a bed. The little Lord Buckley lay down his sweet head...
People love cookies. Do not underestimate the power of cookies.
"12 Can't-Miss Holiday Cookie Recipes"
https://www.foodandwine.com/cookies-for-the-holidays-11812820
Tough! Complacent! I don't know which survival strategy is more to blame.
Was emotional immaturity also this rampant 100 years ago?
"ICE agents under scrutiny after man’s legs allegedly crushed in Vancouver arrest"- OPB
https://www.opb.org/article/2025/12/06/vancouver-ice-alleged-crushing-legs/
Having a bad day.
Felt like running over someone's legs with a vehicle cuz of it.
π«©
Maybe it was a lot worse back then.
Just because! Sometimes the people you know...
"Oregon Education Association to host trainings to protect kids from ICE"
https://katu.com/news/local/oregon-education-association-to-host-trainings-to-protect-kids-from-ice
It's also going to be awkward if they've got any friends or family members who've joined ICE.
2025 postage stamp guy says hi...
"Who was William F. Buckley, Jr.? | The Incomparable..."
American Masters PBS
Hey, look, this is happening! Somewhere else in the world? But maybe here, too, someday...
"What happens when a city takes women’s unpaid work seriously?"
https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/happens-city-takes-women-unpaid-110000934.html
"Women in BogotΓ‘ provide over 35 billion hours of unpaid care work annually — totaling more than one-fifth of Colombia’s GDP.
Partly to address this, BogotΓ‘ is pioneering 'care blocks,' neighborhood hubs where women can access free laundry, legal aid, job training, mental health services, and more while their children or elderly relatives receive care on site. The city has opened 25 care blocks since 2020.
The model is spreading globally. A US city is expected to join in 2026."
~ Rachel Cohen
If any of my former students joined ice recently, I think there's a way higher chance that the male students were the ones who became ice agents!
Whose fault is that?
I wonder if a female ice agent would have anything to say about this?
And are there any bro and sis ice agents, who had the same materialistic, unhealed, angry parents, pressuring them to get a f****** job and bring home some money already.
Adjusting the specs might help?
π΅π½♀️ ππ©π½π¬
"Data Bias in a World Designed For Men"
@breakingdownpatriarchy
https://youtube.com/watch?v=WVA3GE0wJag&si=aWpvzX9myL1bO4k0
"Security footage shows a 22-year-old U.S. citizen being chased by Border Patrol..."
cbsnews
That was good enough for lots of other people, so why shouldn't it be good enough for y'all?
"Every time I make an excuse for an abusive man, or another unwell aspect of patriarchal culture, my patriarchal mom / dad status only grows brighter."
"The Exquisite Extinction Burst of Patriarchal Parenting."
Oh really? Well, who was encouraging her to know that she was supposed to be fighting the government as a child?
"College student deported during Thanksgiving trip could’ve fought removal as a kid, US says"
What a display. It's kind of like fireworks!
So Many Extinction Bursts of Selfishness, Sexism, Greed and Racism.
To the detriment of quite a few children, and a number of adults, as well.
Oh wait, not so fast, because people have autonomy, and when they see these Extinction Births happening, they can use them as learning experiences!
Wait, what's an Extinction Birth?
I salute your honored grandfathers now! But then I'll have to do something else with my life!
"I have a massive ego. It's very greedy. I was trained to act like I deserve to be super selfish as the highest form of self love. I like to honor this kind of tradition, because it's exactly what my grandfathers role-modeled for me, and hoped I'd continue to do, To show that I was absolutely subservient to them."
"Are you thinking positively about this?"
"Positive thoughts: So many more people who have been raised to enable colonizers can celebrate that about themselves in a natural setting on a particular day now!"
"NPS cuts free entry for MLK Day and Juneteenth, add Trump's birthday"
They have already "made the time" to pay attention to so many other things.
Even if lots of people were raised by external forces to not really "have the time" to challenge the unhealthy chauvinistic conventions which persist and are detrimental to so many, some will choose to make the time to do so when they get the idea that it's actually important to them and to their life, liberty and pursuit of happiness???
Today or tomorrow? What will our children think of this?
WHO GETS SEEN AND WHOSE NEEDS ARE MET
"Data Bias in a World Designed For Men"
@breakingdownpatriarchy
Wow, that's really something we'd better discuss with our kids, isn't it!?
"NPS cuts free entry for MLK Day and Juneteenth, add Trump's birthday"
Friday, December 05, 2025
Yes, lots of things might be better when some people grow up a little bit more.
ππππ
"I'll also add, it's mentally difficult for me to go see family..."
Jinx
Peekaboo...π©·π©΅π©·
Pink and blue!
"easy no bake cotton candy jelly dessert π©·π©΅π©·"
~ kateyamyam
https://youtube.com/shorts/c0Z2Ja8iEfo?si=D92hdAx-MTkWs0ZU
I really hope our healthcare situation in this country starts getting better for a lot of people!
"Part 4 | THEY DESERVE BETTER"
#adrianasmith #babychance
mewnstone π✨
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTrmAP41X/
Just think of me as a future parent with old-fashioned values, more like yourself, and then you might start respecting me more, too!
They seem like good people!
"Volunteers assemble hundreds of Christmas stockings for children of farmworkers" | KTVU FOX 2
https://www.ktvu.com/video/1750942
I thought I posted this earlier, but oh well, let's try again.
Feel very fortunate to be able to live with a cat who is not as prejudiced as some of the patriarchal people are! Just kind of felt that random wave of gratitude wash over me.
Sometimes, you need to find the better people.
Better people.
"Security footage shows a 22-year-old U.S. citizen being chased by Border Patrol..."
cbsnews
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTrm6Qhu4/
Is this the fault of the culture?
I don't believe it's my job to prop up more hurtfully materialistic, misogynistic, anti-feminist attitudes, which got inherited because some other people got conscripted into going along with insensitive, uncaring, systemic nonsense in an imbalanced, unwell patriarchal culture. If you think you need to perpetuate that in order to get people to accept you, then maybe you and they aren't being as good to a lot of human beings as some other people are. I also think it's very cruel to expect anyone, including children, to carry on with supporting materialistic, misogynistic, anti-feminist customs just so others can feel better about doing so.
I fear not.
Does the celebrity feel good enough about himself yet?
"Trump awarded FIFA Peace Prize after Nobel rejection"
https://www.axios.com/2025/12/05/trump-wins-fifa-peace-prize-after-nobel-snub
Well, yesterday is different from today which is different from tomorrow.
ππ₯²π
"Replying to Stephen"
Chloeπ©· The Modern Dream Girl™
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTraW4qVc/
"#migra #ice"
GG
Gasp! Speak no more.
So many mean, abusive, bullying parents, who act like money is what matters the most. But sometimes, some of their kids got to go to community college anyways!
In addition to the other kinds of students...
I hope none of my old students are getting convinced to act like poorly trained and not very intelligent hunting dogs for some temporary form of compensation, like "I can finally get a job and some respect. And thanks to my new employer, ICE, I can afford to live in a better house, like the more well-off people could, now."
Sometimes repetition is not so good, and there are better choices available.
Looking forward to more people NOT repeating what was role modeled for them by the older and more unhealthy people, who also could not behave that way forever.
Oh, so the people who were trained not to care about others are doing this stuff, now.
"ICE agents detained a US citizen before looking at her ID She was detained on her way to work and released once the agents checked her ID."
Well, some people (parents, even!) are still being pretty childish, and not in a cute way.
"I overheard two grown men laughing the other day about President Donald Trump’s outburst at the expense of a female reporter he called 'piggy.'"
They thought it was hilarious."
~ Ray Watford
'He tells it like it is.' Real reason Trump called women 'ugly,' 'piggy' | Opinion
If this is what passes for 'telling it like it is,' the bar for leadership has sunk far lower than any of us should accept."
"The reporter, Catherine Lucey of Bloomberg, was doing exactly what a free press is supposed to do: asking about the Epstein files, which the American public absolutely deserves answers about.
Before she could finish, he cut her off with 'Quiet. Quiet, piggy.' It wasn’t a slip of the tongue. It was deliberate – a way to avoid the question by attacking the questioner."
~ Ray Watford
Repeat, repeat, repeat...
"NPR described Jeffrey Epstein’s victims as 'underage women'"
"Female Domestic and Agricultural Workers Confront an Epidemic of Sexual Harassment" | American Civil Liberties Union
https://www.aclu.org/news/womens-rights/female-domestic-and-agricultural-workers-confront
"To protect underage farmworkers, California expands oversight of field conditions"
"California officials say they are enhancing coordination among state agencies to better protect underage farmworkers from toxic pesticides, dangerous heat and other workplace hazards.
Advocates say addressing low farmworker wages is essential to reducing the practice of child labor.
Federal legislation proposes raising the minimum farmworker age to 14."
~ Robert J. LopezI think I'll reread a story! Like, I'll listen to a story, actually.
"Noisy Nora"
https://youtu.be/gZBbejaNJXQ?feature=shared
What else can you do when all the patriarchs are going to be coming back in all these brand new bodies?
Another busy day of prejudice is unfolding.
Takes a lot of labor to fuel some very childish mommies and daddies who got trained to dehumanize others in exchange for...
Who? What?
I don't believe that they're doing it for their children.
How could something that's so bad for humanity be good for your children? That's a real delusion.
Any thoughts? Not so young people?
"To protect underage farmworkers, California expands oversight of field conditions"
"California officials say they are enhancing coordination among state agencies to better protect underage farmworkers from toxic pesticides, dangerous heat and other workplace hazards.
Advocates say addressing low farmworker wages is essential to reducing the practice of child labor.
Federal legislation proposes raising the minimum farmworker age to 14."
~ Robert J. Lopez
"NPR described Jeffrey Epstein’s victims as 'underage women...'"
"Female Domestic and Agricultural Workers Confront an Epidemic of Sexual Harassment" | American Civil Liberties Union
Sounds like a daughter of a patriarchal culture problem.
How to be objectified, objectionable, AND abandoned.
It's a cultural thing!
"I'm sure you are a lot better to girls and women than what's his name is, but why are you his buddy?"
And you're not even his accountability buddy.
Are you taking his keys away when he's drunk too much?
Thursday, December 04, 2025
And maybe sometimes, you need to make or sing or listen to a song!
Paris Paloma - "LABOUR (the cacophony) [Official Lyrics]"
Oooh, what if I'd been taught to value this more as a young person?
"Feel first."
"In Norway teens are taught one rule for communication..."
demina . energy
https://www.instagram.com/p/DRIXjJbD97P/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
I'm very intrigued by this, and I think I feel I like it.
Dangerous, Fangerous.
Humans definitely deserve to take care of themselves, but sometimes humans can try to challenge themselves more, too.
It can be disappointing to feel that there are many conversations which could help humanity advance, but they are not yet happening, and they might still get shut down, just because some people don't feel like they are willing to think too much about some of the things that scare them.
Maybe some situations would be less dangerous for the more vulnerable if some people got more in touch with their feelings and became more articulate.
Young women?
As people get better at talking about topics that they would perhaps prefer not to think about too much, I think that this conversation will be expanded upon more in the future.
"NPR described Jeffrey Epstein’s victims as “underage women..."
"How did this happen?"
I think it shouldn't make it seem more excusable for a man to abuse human beings who happen to be teenagers if you call them "young women."
When I was growing up, teenagers were often referred to girls, and as young women, but not so often as children.
Now I see how shiny the bark is.
Something wanted me to admire the branches of this pruned tree today, and its little leaves.
This must be another pruned tree.
I think I do believe in trickster energy.
Even though there's been times when I have responded to something as a result of a personal reaction, sometimes something just comes to mind, and I feel really compelled to write about it.
And then later on, I might see somebody else felt compelled to write about a similar topic, but maybe it was from a different perspective. Perhaps if they see what I've written, they would think I was responding to them directly.
But actually, sometimes I'm not intentionally responding to them directly. It's just that a particular topic popped into my head and I felt I was supposed to say something about it.
And maybe there's a collective consciousness that's trying to begin a conversation among us.
If there's a trickster energy at work, maybe it's for the purpose of advancing a conversation, because there are lots of things that humans do not talk as much about now that in the future will be much easier for people to discuss.
That's how it was in the past too; certain topics that seemed taboo in the past are discussed with more ease these days.
Progress unfolds in increments...
"Mom knew better than to worry about Emma, who had, after all, lived in the iron lung for 15 years and was 'accustomed to the occasional mishap' by now, as she said. In some cases, she was the most daring Robin, having introduced the group to a competition announced in True Story, a magazine known for titillating 'true-life' tales. Entrants were asked to read a fictional story and invent a title that best described it. The first month's story was about a working mother who felt guilty leaving her children in the care of someone else during the day. Mom sent in many entries, several under Barb's name:
My Moonlighting Money Couldn't Buy Mothering
Mother Was Prodigal with Her Bounty but a Miser with Her Love
My Mother Gave Us Everything -- But Herself
These were, according to Dortha, 'just corny enough to win.'"
Terry Ryan, age 239
"The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio: How My Mother Raised 10 Kids on 25 Words or Less"
This woman had a good social network!
"The Round Robins' trademark enthusiasm was abruptly suspended by the news that Emma had nearly died in a recent thunderstorm.
Every time a howling summer storm knocked out the electricity in her neighborhood of Goshen, Indiana, (about 100 miles from Defiance) Emma's husband had to call in the local fire department to help pump her iron lung by hand until power was restored. If Emma were left alone for even a few minutes without power, she would die from lack of oxygen.
But the latest storm had felled trees and power lines and knocked out the phones, leaving Emma helpless and alone. Her sons were in school and her husband at work, so until they were able to get home, Emma's neighbors -- aware of her situation -- spelled one another in what Emma called 'the hand pumping derby.' Everyone agreed it had been a close call."
~ Terry Ryan
Page 238 to 239
"The Prize Winner of Defiance..."
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/127970.The_Prize_Winner_of_Defiance_Ohio
It's true that feminism was not, shall we say, regularly celebrated by the culture in my younger years.
I think he's annoying because he reminds me of how anti-feminist a lot of people were raised to be, and they still are, sometimes.
"why do people find neil degrasse tyson annoying :"
https://www.reddit.com/r/Gifted/comments/1hv2xef/why_do_people_find_neil_degrasse_tyson_annoying/
What kind of rearer are you!?
I used to be an all-about-me kinda person, but then I got sucked in by devious word arrangements, and before I knew it I found myself...uh...
"Synonyms & Antonyms for TREASURE HUNT | Thesaurus
https://www.thesaurus.com/browse/treasure-hunt
View definitions for treasure hunt
treasure hunt
noun as in witch hunt
Synonyms
Weak matches
fishing expedition
inquisition
persecution"
I found myself...uh...hunting for treasures?
Why (not) read...
This book also talks about a mom who gave birth in an iron lung. And then she spent her days devoted to entering contests, and winning some of them, too!
"The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio: How My Mother Raised 10 Kids..."
Maybe she made it into the film? I haven't seen the film.
"Julianne Moore is very good (it would be a strain for her to be bad) as an insuppressibly happy person. There are even a few wonderfully tasteless jokes involving a woman in a decorated iron lung. Then Harrelson barges into the room, evidently from another film, perhaps Natural Born Killers, and proceeds to defy everything the film has been setting up. Into this delightful and fanciful world of melodrama and defiance and winning-against-insurmountable-odds comes a cold, dark, bracing punch in the face of an abusive, thick-necked, broken, alky asshole. The financial hardship they all suffer at his hands is a very palpable thing. The kids live in fear of him. Why does Evelyn stay?"
~ Whitney Seibold
"The Prize-Winner of Defiance, Ohio | Three Cheers for the Darkened Years!"
https://witneyman.wordpress.com/2009/01/30/the-prize-winner-of-defiance-ohio/
Wednesday, December 03, 2025
Love of nature is more healing.
I really need to go out and appreciate nature more. It was so much better for me psychologically yesterday, and I felt so much more sure of my well-being when I did that.
Internet can be a good way to share enriching musical and visual content.
Paris Paloma - "LABOUR (the cacophony) [Official Lyrics]"
https://youtube.com/watch?v=H_sSuViPBHs&si=JTqZ032MFYZYW5G7
"Even Billie..."
rokabringsflowers
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRzuEY8iC3X/?igsh=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==
2025, the year of traumatic experiences, and this is really impacting some people's childhoods, by the way.
"'Traumatizing’: San Diego mom details ICE arrest while holding baby at green card interview" – NBC 7 San Diego
I think I feel calm, and also as if my cells are screaming right now.
This is such a great distraction from the online content about the kidnappings and the ICE raids!
"Dad could laugh along with Mom, but he was shaken by the accident. It was the first time our mother showed any kind of fallibility. The prospect of raising kids on his own was unfathomable, although he enjoyed taking his children with him to the bars."
~ Terry Ryan, page 118
"The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio..."
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/127970.The_Prize_Winner_of_Defiance_Ohio
Good old, pleasant calming Americana.
"That was a close one, Evelyn."
I was reading page 117 of "The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio," and I was like, Wow! He (sorry, I should have said she!) really remembers this stuff. Also, now I think I am kind of traumatized.
Terry Ryan describes what happens after his oops I mean her mother trips and falls, accidentally shattering an entire delivery of milk bottles.
"In a house as crowded as ours, there were lots of crashes. As Mom balanced gingerly on her bleeding, hands and knees, she called out, 'Would someone please help me?' Dad snapped to, rushed out from the kitchen, and took one look at Mom, the milk, and the blood. 'Oh, Mother, what have you done?' he choked out and collapsed in a chair. Betsy ran down the stairs and stared at Mom with similar disbelief. 'Oh, Mom,' she said, and ran back upstairs, crying. Dave passed Betsy on the stairs, sat down hard, and began sobbing softly. Now the pink river of blood and milk had reached the corner and began spilling down into the heat register. Mom pleaded again, only louder this time, 'WOULD SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME?' That knocked Dad out of his stupor, long enough to get two paper towels from the kitchen and hand them to her before collapsing again into the chair, weeping. I stood frozen in the dining room, listening. Exasperated with us all, Mom groaned aloud as she hauled herself up off the floor."
(But then I was like, so we see that Dave and Betsy and Dad weren't able to pull it together. What was the narrator doing though? Maybe he, oops, she, doesn't remember? Maybe he, oops, she, was just frozen. Oh wait, go back. You just read that part, duh! Yes, that's what was happening. She was frozen.)
'"You know what the worst part of this is?' she announced to the nearly empty room. Incapable of speech, Dad shook his head. 'At least a quart of milk has been sucked up inside my girdle. That means I'm going to have to walk into the hospital with milk dripping from every pour. That means I'm going to have to walk into the hospital with milk dripping from every pore.'
The emergency room staff spent hours picking chunks and bits of glass out of her knees. 'That was a close one, Evelyn,' The doctor said. 'You barely missed severing a ligament.'"
Terry Ryan, page 117 of "The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio"
How did such changes manage to come about anyways?
Actually, now I wonder if learning more about Eleanor Roosevelt might perk me up. Too bad we didn't learn about her in school. Oh well. That certainly is sad. The curriculum was, frankly, very sexist. But that's the past now! There are more programs on PBS. Better late than never!
"Eleanor Roosevelt: The Early Years"
https://www.pbs.org/video/roosevelts-eleanor-roosevelt-early-years/
Is it time to get up to speed?
I mean not long ago, your ancestors believed girls and women had no rights, and they were marrying their daughters off at incredibly young ages, sometimes to much older men; however... We've made some progress since then!
Weirdly, this kind of reminded me that training girls to act like fangirls of abusive rich men might not be in their best interests.
"Fantastical content, not editing speed, depletes children's cognitive resources"
So how much are average middle-class daughters getting paid to fangirl these days?
What other perks come with this job?
You could be even more positive, like a real fangirl!
I have heard that about a thousand times already and I still really do think that this is so unnecessary, though.
"Lee is full-on fangirling over Neil deGrasse Tyson! — The Beat 92.5"
https://www.thebeat925.ca/audio/741724/lee-is-full-on-fangirling-over-neil-degrasse-tyson
More, more, more!
"I feel like if you improved your attitude, you could get a lot better at making Mark Zuckerberg more money."
" Is that right."
This is from 2024, but things have not improved significantly thus far, although maybe awareness has improved for some people???
"Health Care for Women: How the U.S. Compares Internationally"
Of attics and addicts.
The care package for the children of the addicts will include a nice letter to the older children with an offer of one to three items within a certain price range from the gift catalog, and a reminder to not be selfish and to think of the younger siblings when making their decisions.
For the addicts, here is a free book review:
"In a new novel, a dream house becomes an obsession"
And a dream house, and some cocktails in cans.
Read more feministly; why not?
Some moms and dads are so busy!
They are very, very, very busy with very, very, very important activities. That is why not, and it is a very, very, very good reason.
Now, we can also think of more modern day versions of entertainment, so shall we?
"Though their appearances on the show did not really fix any problem they had, the Queens were launched into a temporary pseudo-middle class status by their winnings. At a time when that was both the pinnacle and standard for women, Queen for a Day allowed women 'legitimate access to the female version of the American dream' that they were not given elsewhere."
"Queen for a Day" | National Women's History Museum
Thank you. Think of our progress.
"The show has been called a precursor to today’s reality television and 'the worst program in TV history.'”
"Queen for a Day" | National Women's History Museum
So here's the setup, page 79 of "The Prize Winner..."
"Father wasn't alone in his stern advice to women..."
"The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio" by Terry Ryan and part of the cover of the Southwest Indian Foundation catalog with happy smiling girl children.
Turn to the next page and you can see the entire catalog cover!
And now here's page 79, and a poem called "Flaw."
Next page: More evidence of mother submitting poetry to contests, but not under her own name! Rather duplicitous.
Shut up and drink your cocktail!
"Cats adjust their communication strategy by meowing when greeting men"
by Paul Arnold, Phys.org
https://phys.org/news/2025-12-cats-adjust-communication-strategy-meowing.html
Ladies lunch!
Dear little urchins, here's your greasy old freezer-burned sausage from the food bank whereas I have just dined upon scrumptious roasted Belgian endive with lightly toasted walnuts and freshly de-seeded pomegranate.
Thumb on nose and finger wave.
And a cocktail!
What would you put in them?
Care packages for children in attics?
OR
Care packages for children and addicts?
War!
"You know, your routine disregard for the well-being of yourself and other people is going to look very rude."
"Who told you that?"
"The Old Maid."
Next on evolving as emotional beings...
We are invited to feel sad for several people.
"Celebrities who look unrecognizable today π³π₯²"
Why was Grandpa like that?
Why was Grandpa like that? Well, why not think of yourself? I suppose that YOU wouldn't want to stop enabling a very unwell, patriarchal, white supremacist RAPE culture, even if doing so was ultimately to the detriment of yourself and other people's children, until you were ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that YOU knew that human beings really do deserve SO much better!
Tuesday, December 02, 2025
Crying...
πΆπΆπΆπΆ
"Always the low quality memes"
https://www.reddit.com/r/GuysBeingDudes/s/YMf8P8KFxy
"This Roy Orbison Hit Is A Masterpiece" @RoyOrbison
https://youtube.com/shorts/vE_6-s6iGwc?si=d_IzyDc93rNWjNuU
"Rebekah Del Rio, 'Mulholland Drive' singer..."
Things have been syncing today.
X: "Native American tribe reclaims 900 acres of Yosemite National Park in California"
Y: I was just about to tell you that, and then you yell it out!
ππ΅π½♀️π°
"Native American tribe that was displaced by the establishment of Yosemite National Park is getting part of its lands back.
The land transfer, from Pacific Forest Trust, is considered a major milestone for Indigenous cultural and land restoration in California.
In addition, the move could lead to better management and control of wildfires in and around the areas."
~ Bryant-Jon Anteola
"Southern Sierra Miwuk reclaim 900 acres..."
https://www.fresnobee.com/news/california/yosemite/article313322337.html
Honestly, sometimes you just need to go outside!
I did and it was great!
And I saw my friend on her birthday. Did I remember it was her birthday? No. Did it seem to matter? Not really. We ate lunch. I bought her scratch off and she told me she'd seen that video of the "Grandma loves you" card reading too!
Cool.
Some people are finally going to get around to fixing whatever's causing their emotional immaturity.
Also, toxic positivity can be ruinous.
"Mr. Netanyahu was hugged all the way into the arms of Donald Trump."
~ Ben Rhodes
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/12/01/opinion/democrats-israel.html
"The Trump administration’s relentless claims that Israel’s critics are antisemitic also obscure the danger posed by the ascent of right-wing ethnonationalists across the West. If you believe a 19-year-old Jewish college student chanting 'Free Palestine' is more dangerous than the vice president of the United States implying that Germans should embrace the far-right party Alternative for Germany, then you’re drawing the wrong lessons from history."
~ Ben Rhodes